Confirmation Postcards in the Rec Packets?

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Confirmation Postcard: a postcard that a PNM puts in her rec packet which is stamped and addressed to her. The alumna is to drop it in the mail once the rec has been sent to the chapter, which lets the PNM know that she is covered for that rec.

I first heard about the confirmation postcard 2 years ago, but did not see or hear of any alumnae getting one at that time. Last year was the first time I knew of someone receiving one of these, and so the topic came up at one of my APH meetings. The response was split: some women thought they were a good idea because it let's the PNM know for certain that the rec was written and mailed. However, an equal number of alumnae were taken aback at best and some downright offended by it. They used terms like "tacky" and "rude."

What say you rec writers? How would you respond to seeing one of these in the packet? Would you advise a PNM to use these or no?

I personally always email a PNM once I have sent a rec, and would fall into the "taken aback" category. It wouldn't get me riled up to see one, but I don't think I have a positive opinion of the practice either. Given the risk of offending the rec writer I would not recommend it, unless the rec writer already knows that woman very, very well.