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04-16-2016, 04:53 PM
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We're expressing our opinions - right?
I telephone, text, or email the PNM I've written a rec for, to let them know I submitted the rec. The confirmation card is over the top for me; while I wouldn't be offended*, I probably wouldn't mail it, either. Because I'd already notified the PNM that I did my part. Know what I mean?
*Actually I'd feel like I was being micromanaged or not trusted to do what I said I would do. But I usually discount my feelings and stick with the facts.
Total swerve: I never have received any acknowledgement (written or email) from ANY chapter for a rec I've submitted. And I know they have preprinted thank you cards that are expressly designed to send to alumnae, thanking them for writing a rec for Suzy PNM, and usually notifying them of where Suzy pledged (or if she didn't). I've seen boxes of the preprinted cards in the Ritual closet at a chapter I advised. Those are not inexpensive, either.
Yeah. THAT gets me annoyed. Big time. Based on facts.
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04-16-2016, 05:46 PM
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Total swerve: I never have received any acknowledgement (written or email) from ANY chapter for a rec I've submitted. And I know they have preprinted thank you cards that are expressly designed to send to alumnae, thanking them for writing a rec for Suzy PNM, and usually notifying them of where Suzy pledged (or if she didn't). I've seen boxes of the preprinted cards in the Ritual closet at a chapter I advised. Those are not inexpensive, either.
Yeah. THAT gets me annoyed. Big time. Based on facts.
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Outrageous! IIRC, there's only been one chapter which hasn't let me know that it hadn't received my rec. I will add, however, that the acknowledgement also came with a disclaimer of no guarantees, too.
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04-17-2016, 10:05 AM
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Originally Posted by AZTheta
We're expressing our opinions - right?
I telephone, text, or email the PNM I've written a rec for, to let them know I submitted the rec. The confirmation card is over the top for me; while I wouldn't be offended*, I probably wouldn't mail it, either. Because I'd already notified the PNM that I did my part. Know what I mean?
*Actually I'd feel like I was being micromanaged or not trusted to do what I said I would do. But I usually discount my feelings and stick with the facts.
Total swerve: I never have received any acknowledgement (written or email) from ANY chapter for a rec I've submitted. And I know they have preprinted thank you cards that are expressly designed to send to alumnae, thanking them for writing a rec for Suzy PNM, and usually notifying them of where Suzy pledged (or if she didn't). I've seen boxes of the preprinted cards in the Ritual closet at a chapter I advised. Those are not inexpensive, either.
Yeah. THAT gets me annoyed. Big time. Based on facts.
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I have received one card with information regarding a PNM I'd sent a rec for. It was from our Ole Miss chapter. I thought it was very polite. Of course, I didn't receive similar cards for other PNMs rec'd to that chapter. I guess it depends who is the Rec Chair at the time.
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04-17-2016, 11:40 AM
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I have to say that I really like the idea of just sending a follow-up thank you card. It's a gentle reminder in case the alumna forgot to send the rec. I have not had troubles with that as I send an email to the young woman once I submitted her rec. I think having forms online for recommendations has been helpful.
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04-17-2016, 04:47 PM
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Originally Posted by AZTheta
Total swerve: I never have received any acknowledgement (written or email) from ANY chapter for a rec I've submitted. And I know they have preprinted thank you cards that are expressly designed to send to alumnae, thanking them for writing a rec for Suzy PNM, and usually notifying them of where Suzy pledged (or if she didn't). I've seen boxes of the preprinted cards in the Ritual closet at a chapter I advised. Those are not inexpensive, either. Yeah. THAT gets me annoyed. Big time. Based on facts. [/SIZE]
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And now that communicating via e-mail is easy and cheap, there's no excuse for not sending a quick message to say, "We got your rec on _________. Thank you for sending it."
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My problem is this: I have met quite a few young women who ask for recommendations, especially for southern schools. I take my time to meet these women, talk to them, write a recommendation, and in return I have received not 1 thank you note or acknowledgment as to which group the young woman joined, if she joined. The majority of the recommendations I have written are for those who contact our APH or national directly. These are not women who I know personally. If you want me to send confirmations, I would like you to recognize that I have taken time out of my day to assist you in this project. DaffyKD
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You are so right! I think I've gotten 1 a young lady - "thanks for your recommendation for Delta Gamma. I wanted to let you know that I joined Alpha Beta Gamma at Big State University, but I really appreciate your help." That was really nice.
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Originally Posted by AOII Angel
I have received one card with information regarding a PNM I'd sent a rec for. It was from our Ole Miss chapter. I thought it was very polite. Of course, I didn't receive similar cards for other PNMs rec'd to that chapter. I guess it depends who is the Rec Chair at the time.
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Same thing - easy for them to acknowledge.
I think I've gotten the gamut for both PNMs and chapters. From PNM - no thank you, thank you note included with her packet, and the thank you after Bid Day with info on where she pledged.
For chapters, - no acknowledgement at all(did they even get it?), acknowledgements l-o-n-g after Bid Day (where did they pledge???), postcards received promptly and well before Bid Day, postcards with "thanks she didn't pledge DG," up to a booklet of all the new members with facts about each one, and nicest of all, a thank-you note from a new member who didn't even give me her info - I got a request for a rec from the chapter.
For the chapters - if you have conscientious advisers and good training from previous officers, you probably will tend to those details. But that particular officer is often one that had to be talked into taking the job and is annoyed by all the paperwork and detail.
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