Did you have support?

[Aerylle]

First off, if this is in the wrong place, let me know and I'll change it. I'm still a bit new 'round here.

Second, what I mean is, "During recruitment, did your friends and family support you?"

The reason I ask, is because almost everyone I tell says something along the lines of, "O...kay.... If it'll make you happy.." My mother and boyfriend support me because they know it'll make me happy and are willing to do whatever they can to help me during recruitment. Anyone else.. My boyfriends family, my friends, neighbors and the boyfriend's friends... No one is supportive or thinks its a good idea.

Right now I am doing my best to network around and see if anyone knows any previous sorority alum for Rec letters, and everyone I ask just looks at me like I'm crazy.

Thoughts?

[KSUViolet06]

You could get more responses if you post it Sorority Recruitment.

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

You could get more responses if you post it Sorority Recruitment.

I thought about posting it there, but I didn't know if I should cause it's not actually about recruitment, it's about the people who surround you during it.

[Elephant Walk]

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[33girl]

My parents were a little dubious, esp about the $$ part, but then I asked how much it cost for my dad to be a Mason/Shriner and that ended the conversation.

My friends were very supportive as I lived in an extremely Greek-heavy/pro-Greek dorm at the time.

My boyfriend was totally against it - I can still hear him whining "I didn't think you would do anything like that if I wasn't here." (Keep in mind he had just graduated. Dumb ass.) Our relationship was on its last legs anyway and rushing just put the last nail in the coffin. Thank God. You sound like you have a good man in your corner though.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by Elephant Walk

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^^^This... heheheee

[Preston327]

Most of my friends thought it was cool, and now a lot of them are Greek as well . My dad wasn't aware of it having never gone to a traditional four year college, when I called him to tell him I'd gotten a bid to Delt his first questions were "what's Delta Tau Delta" and "how much is it going to cost you" but he's been supportive throughout.

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by Elephant Walk

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What?

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Aerylle

What?

Support garments.

Originally Posted by Aerylle

Then who do you suggest I talk to about this? If I can't talk to my mother (who is my best friend) . . . then who should I talk to about it?

But you said your mother is supportive and willing to do anything to help.

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Support garments.

But you said your mother is supportive and willing to do anything to help.

She is, but she also doesn't understand my wanting to do this. She is supportive in the fact that she will ask around at work for alumni. She is supportive in the fact that she will help with the money. But I can't go gushing to here about how I think I like XYZ sorority better than ABC, or how MNO all had red hair, etc etc.

I could, but it would be like talking to your father (assuming you are a girl) about your period or boy problems. He'll listen, but he might not have much to say or would be awkward with his responses.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Aerylle

I could, but it would be like talking to your father (assuming you are a girl) about your period or boy problems. He'll listen, but he might not have much to say or would be awkward with his responses.

He probably would have been speechless, since I'm a guy.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Aerylle

The reason I ask, is because almost everyone I tell says something along the lines of, "O...kay.... If it'll make you happy.." My mother and boyfriend support me because they know it'll make me happy and are willing to do whatever they can to help me during recruitment. Anyone else.. My boyfriends family, my friends, neighbors and the boyfriend's friends... No one is supportive or thinks its a good idea.

Why do you care whether your boyfriend's family and friends and your neighbors think its a good idea?

[AXiDMeesh]

Originally Posted by Aerylle

First off, if this is in the wrong place, let me know and I'll change it. I'm still a bit new 'round here.

Second, what I mean is, "During recruitment, did your friends and family support you?"

The reason I ask, is because almost everyone I tell says something along the lines of, "O...kay.... If it'll make you happy.." My mother and boyfriend support me because they know it'll make me happy and are willing to do whatever they can to help me during recruitment. Anyone else.. My boyfriends family, my friends, neighbors and the boyfriend's friends... No one is supportive or thinks its a good idea.

Right now I am doing my best to network around and see if anyone knows any previous sorority alum for Rec letters, and everyone I ask just looks at me like I'm crazy.

Thoughts?

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Why do you care whether your boyfriend's family and friends and your neighbors think its a good idea?

To answer your question, no I did not have any support from my family and my good friends. The only people who were excited for me were girls in my graduating class who had joined a chapter the year before (I joined as a sophomore). My family wanted me to join my legacy sorority in another council, and my friends thought I was kidding when I said I wanted to join and completely (and they still do this) tuned out whenever I talk about anything Greek related. But I went through recruitment and I had a LOT of fun and it was such a great experience that I'd do it again and take the criticism tenfold. My whole mindset was that I'm doing this for myself, not for my mom or anyone else.

And MysticCat, maybe she's from one of those really close knit communities where your neighbors might as well be extended family?

Anyway, I think you should go for it.

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by AXiDMeesh

To answer your question, no I did not have any support from my family and my good friends. The only people who were excited for me were girls in my graduating class who had joined a chapter the year before (I joined as a sophomore). My family wanted me to join my legacy sorority in another council, and my friends thought I was kidding when I said I wanted to join and completely (and they still do this) tuned out whenever I talk about anything Greek related. But I went through recruitment and I had a LOT of fun and it was such a great experience that I'd do it again and take the criticism tenfold. My whole mindset was that I'm doing this for myself, not for my mom or anyone else.

And MysticCat, maybe she's from one of those really close knit communities where your neighbors might as well be extended family?

Anyway, I think you should go for it.

Right now, that's what my mindset is. I've always wanted to do this, but never said anything to anyone because the community I grew up in just.. wasn't Greek at all. I didn't know anyone who was involved with this.

[CopterDad]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Why do you care whether your boyfriend's family and friends and your neighbors think its a good idea?

She needs recommendations.