Did you have support?

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Aerylle

The reason I ask, is because almost everyone I tell says something along the lines of, "O...kay.... If it'll make you happy.." My mother and boyfriend support me because they know it'll make me happy and are willing to do whatever they can to help me during recruitment. Anyone else.. My boyfriends family, my friends, neighbors and the boyfriend's friends... No one is supportive or thinks its a good idea.

Why do you care whether your boyfriend's family and friends and your neighbors think its a good idea?

[AXiDMeesh]

Originally Posted by Aerylle

First off, if this is in the wrong place, let me know and I'll change it. I'm still a bit new 'round here.

Second, what I mean is, "During recruitment, did your friends and family support you?"

The reason I ask, is because almost everyone I tell says something along the lines of, "O...kay.... If it'll make you happy.." My mother and boyfriend support me because they know it'll make me happy and are willing to do whatever they can to help me during recruitment. Anyone else.. My boyfriends family, my friends, neighbors and the boyfriend's friends... No one is supportive or thinks its a good idea.

Right now I am doing my best to network around and see if anyone knows any previous sorority alum for Rec letters, and everyone I ask just looks at me like I'm crazy.

Thoughts?

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Why do you care whether your boyfriend's family and friends and your neighbors think its a good idea?

To answer your question, no I did not have any support from my family and my good friends. The only people who were excited for me were girls in my graduating class who had joined a chapter the year before (I joined as a sophomore). My family wanted me to join my legacy sorority in another council, and my friends thought I was kidding when I said I wanted to join and completely (and they still do this) tuned out whenever I talk about anything Greek related. But I went through recruitment and I had a LOT of fun and it was such a great experience that I'd do it again and take the criticism tenfold. My whole mindset was that I'm doing this for myself, not for my mom or anyone else.

And MysticCat, maybe she's from one of those really close knit communities where your neighbors might as well be extended family?

Anyway, I think you should go for it.

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by AXiDMeesh

To answer your question, no I did not have any support from my family and my good friends. The only people who were excited for me were girls in my graduating class who had joined a chapter the year before (I joined as a sophomore). My family wanted me to join my legacy sorority in another council, and my friends thought I was kidding when I said I wanted to join and completely (and they still do this) tuned out whenever I talk about anything Greek related. But I went through recruitment and I had a LOT of fun and it was such a great experience that I'd do it again and take the criticism tenfold. My whole mindset was that I'm doing this for myself, not for my mom or anyone else.

And MysticCat, maybe she's from one of those really close knit communities where your neighbors might as well be extended family?

Anyway, I think you should go for it.

Right now, that's what my mindset is. I've always wanted to do this, but never said anything to anyone because the community I grew up in just.. wasn't Greek at all. I didn't know anyone who was involved with this.

[CopterDad]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Why do you care whether your boyfriend's family and friends and your neighbors think its a good idea?

She needs recommendations.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by CopterDad

She needs recommendations.

But I'm guessing that the friends and neighbors who are not supportive are also not in a position to provide recs. It sounds like her network doesn't include any Greeks and that the people in her network aren't aware of any other Greeks they may know.

[ree-Xi]

Are you in HS?

As for recs, I am SURE that there are girls in your current school who are pursuing recs (unless you go to one of those k-12 day schools with 11 people in your graduating class). Ask your friends who plan to go Greek in college. Also, there are a hundred threads on recs here.

[MaggieXi]

Also if you are still friendly with anyone who graduated from HS a year ahead of you, you may want to ask them if they know anyone who is in a sorority who they could put you in contact with. I know some sororities (not all) allow current members to write recs. If an active sorority member can't write you a rec, maybe they can put you in touch with alums in your area that could.

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by MaggieXi

Also if you are still friendly with anyone who graduated from HS a year ahead of you, you may want to ask them if they know anyone who is in a sorority who they could put you in contact with. I know some sororities (not all) allow current members to write recs. If an active sorority member can't write you a rec, maybe they can put you in touch with alums in your area that could.

I'm doing just that. I have contacted everyone I know that has joined one, but so far, they haven't gotten back to me on who wrote their recs/if they can write me one. I've tried locating the local alumni group with little luck. I'd ask on here but I'm too paranoid to say where I live. Ha ha.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by Aerylle

I'm doing just that. I have contacted everyone I know that has joined one, but so far, they haven't gotten back to me on who wrote their recs/if they can write me one. I've tried locating the local alumni group with little luck. I'd ask on here but I'm too paranoid to say where I live. Ha ha.

Plus, since no one knows you, you are really A. taking a chance that someone could send in a No-Rec, or B. feel kind of used. Your "joking" last sentence leads me to believe my first gut feeling - that you were looking for someone here to hook you up.

Are you a sophomore? Know ANY current Greeks on a first-name basis? Ask them for suggestions on where to go to meet/talk to alumnae who might be willing to meet you and write a rec. (Note: chapters may or may not accept recs from CURRENT chapter members). Instead of saying "do you know anyone who...?", ask "who do you personally know that might be able to point me in the direction of alumnae to meet?"

Have you read the RECRUITMENT forum??

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Are you in HS?

As for recs, I am SURE that there are girls in your current school who are pursuing recs (unless you go to one of those k-12 day schools with 11 people in your graduating class). Ask your friends who plan to go Greek in college. Also, there are a hundred threads on recs here.

Nope. I graduated last year.

And, sadly, no. None of my friends are interested in going Greek. They think its silly and all the nasty rumors about greek life is true. ]:

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

But I'm guessing that the friends and neighbors who are not supportive are also not in a position to provide recs. It sounds like her network doesn't include any Greeks and that the people in her network aren't aware of any other Greeks they may know.

That is true (so far, haven't contacted everyone yet). But either way, someone might have a family member or a co-worker or something. You never know where you'll find someone.

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Why do you care whether your boyfriend's family and friends and your neighbors think its a good idea?

Right now, they are all I have. I'm not at home, all my friends are a two+ hour drive from me. These people are my only form of support right now so it makes it a little difficult to talk to my family/friends about this.