Depledging 1 Org. and Joining Another...Opinions??

We have all seen the topic come up a lot especially in the Rush forum and etc, usually this is in the form of a new member who is thinking of this option and people usually give their advice. Therefore I am wondering...[list=a][*]What is everyone general opinion of doing this? [*]Has anyone ever depledged one and entered into another?[*]Has anyone had someone in their org do this? If so how did you feel?[/list=a]

Personally I dont see a problem with it. I mean I would always try to tell someone to try and work it out with their chapter first, but if things dont work out why should they be forced to stay some place they dont feel comfortable and why should they not go someplace that can make them feel at home. After all they havent (at least at my alma mater) learned rituals or anything of confidence yet. They only know the history which you can find on our headquarters website and is no big deal.
Depledging and joinging another was not uncommon (I mean it wasnt happening alot but when it did it wasnt a big deal) on my campus and no one see had it out for anyone after it was done.
Im sorry to see people leave an org. but id rather them be happy some other place then miserable and feeling left out.

My 2 cents...others??

[shadokat]

We had a few women join our organization who were depledges of other sororities. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Of course, the women in the other groups were a bit miffed, but they dealt with it. But since we were the non-hazing sorority, they would just say stupid things like "oh well, she couldn't cut it here at XYZ, so she went to D Phi E." In any case, it is looked down upon at a lot of places, but we've helped change that at our school.

[dzrose93]

On my campus, de-pledging one sorority and joining another one was very, very rare. Maybe it was because there were only 3 NPC sororities on campus and slots weren't open often. Regardless of the reason, I only know of it happening once. My little sister depledged a few weeks before her initiation.

It came as a complete shock to me. Her reasoning wasn't because she didn't like the chapter, or even that she wanted to join another group. She was, quite frankly, brainwashed into de-pledging. She had recently become involved with an ultra-conservative religious group on campus (in fact, many people considered it to be a cult of sorts). The girls in the group convinced her that sororities were not the place for Christian women to be and that she would be 'corrupted' if she remained in our chapter, so she dropped out mainly due to peer pressure.

However, we remained friends (to this day) and she came to regret her decision a few months later. Unfortunately, she was too embarrassed to go through Rush and re-pledge my sorority, even though I encouraged her to do so. She ended up joining a local sorority a couple of years later and is still involved with the group as an alumna. However, she has mentioned several times how much she wishes she had stayed in DZ. I wish she had also. She would have been a wonderful asset to us.

[josh8o]

As someone who has depledged a fraternity, then joined another one I can say that it is a personal decision that can only be made by the individual in question. I know that when I was thinking about depledging I came to Greek chat, and some of my friends for advice. I received so much feedback on both sides of the issue and it did not change what was in my heart. I knew I needed to do what was best for me. I think that depledging should be an option for all pledges. I have meet so many other guys so far this semester that have depledged on my campus last year. My pledge educator told me this weekend that he depledged a fraternity before Phi Psi. It happens, and I think that some people are just anal about it for some stupid reason. Depledging does not make you any less of a person, or potential member of a different Greek organization. people make mistakes and deserve second chances.

[maggieaxid]

At my campus, it is generally "looked down upon", however, when i graduated it was becoming more the norm. Lots of pnm's would end up in one of three specific houses and then they would depledge usually for reasons concerning general sorority stereotypes. It was always the same 3 houses every time!
Sometimes the pnm's would re-rush and would end up in one of the other 3 strong chapters on campus that didn't have specific "stereotypes" that they felt they had to live up to.

My gandlil' who i adore had joined one organization her freshman year and depledged bc she hated the way they treated each other, they were cliquey, and insted of wanting to have fun and be "sisters', they told my grandlil' that she was "fat" and she was a "hick" (she was orginially from south carolina and loves being southern! and she probably weighs MAYBE 120 lbs....if thats fat, then what the hell is skinny!). so she depledged about 2 weeks before her initiation then rerushed (bc she has balls of steele!) and ended up being one of my sisters and she is so happy!!!!

[33girl]

Originally posted by UMgirl
Depledging and joinging another was not uncommon (I mean it wasnt happening alot but when it did it wasnt a big deal)

This is pretty much how it was on my campus...guys depledged much more so than girls. I think because guys were allowed to rush first semester freshman year and girls had to wait a semester (I know, I know). A lot of them just got into the first thing they walked into.

I don't have a problem with it, I'd rather see someone admit they made a mistake and get out for the good of themselves and the organization than be too proud to quit. It can of course be abused...like the girl who depledged 2 little sister groups and 2 sororities.

[Eirene_DGP]

The whole idea of depledging doesn't bother me in general, but it is kind of annoying when people have been dismissed for whatever the reason and think they can join org. XYZ and cause more chaos. I guess it would be different if you left on good terms on your own accord instead of being dismissed from pledge.