Can Men and Women Be Truly Just Friends?

[Dionysus]

A cane is long and hard and able to manipulate.

A penis can be long and hard and able to manipulate.

You also said you did this in your bedroom.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

A cane is long and hard and able to manipulate.

A penis can be long and hard and able to manipulate.

You also said you did this in your bedroom.

My stereo is in my bedroom. Again...not what I meant. But I see where your mind is.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I already have a college degree, so I'm just focused on building a great portfolio. I work two jobs to pay for it. I don't like taking out loans. What's wrong with twirling my kane? I can still go to church and occasionally do that when I'm bored .

I meet nice women all the time, but I'm not physically attracted to the ones I meet. That's the way I should have put it. I do have a friend who's also on greekchat. She's the one who told me told me about this site.

Sweetie, a note of caution, there are plenty of women here that have flying hormones... Spell that as "biological clock" or "time bombs"...

I am sorry, but what you are saying is rather seductive to women whose minds tend to wander...

Don't be angry by it, just be amused or amazed by it...

You may be one of the few men that can hold a decent conversation, be interested in women and have a lot going for himself.

And you can "twirl a kane in your bedroom"...

Now, even an old married lady like me has to admit that is quite enticing...

As far as nice ladies, I am sure you meet them. And I can imagine why you have not met one that physically attracts you... Your interest my not be trying to find an inner core that is the definition of plenty of women's attractiveness and physicality. Unless your recruitment is that jacked up...

If you get to know some of these nice women, believe me, there will be more that you are capable of doing besides "twirling a kane in the bedroom"...

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Sweetie, a note of caution, there are plenty of women here that have flying hormones... Spell that as "biological clock" or "time bombs"...

I am sorry, but what you are saying is rather seductive to women whose minds tend to wander...

Don't be angry by it, just be amused or amazed by it...

You may be one of the few men that can hold a decent conversation, be interested in women and have a lot going for himself.

And you can "twirl a kane in your bedroom"...

Now, even an old married lady like me has to admit that is quite enticing...

As far as nice ladies, I am sure you meet them. And I can imagine why you have not met one that physically attracts you... Your interest my not be trying to find an inner core that is the definition of plenty of women's attractiveness and physicality. Unless your recruitment is that jacked up...

If you get to know some of these nice women, believe me, there will be more that you are capable of doing besides "twirling a kane in the bedroom"...

I'm not angry. It is rather amusing, silly but amusing. But that's the way it is. A lot of women think like this now a days. I like inner and outer beauty. I'd rather be alone than to be with a woman I'm not physically attracted to. But the ones that I have met are good friends and I do know these women. As far as kane twirling, it's just fun to me.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I'm not angry. It is rather amusing, silly but amusing. But that's the way it is. A lot of women think like this now a days. I like inner and outer beauty. I'd rather be alone than to be with a woman I'm not physically attracted to. But the ones that I have met are good friends and I do know these women. As far as kane twirling, it's just fun to me.

My issue is physical attraction can mean different things to different people... Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder...

Meaning what one finds attractive in one person is unattractive in another...

And like I was brought up to believe, "pretty is as pretty does"...

For instance, you may find some supermodel extremely attractive, but is a mindless brain fart tard.

But a girl you would fail to give the time of day is extremely intelligent, with some clean up, she could be an extremely attractive catch...

I find that many ladies would discount themselves from relationships may have negative attitudes about relational approaches. They blow it with unattractive conversation or aggressiveness in other ways.

So, it really depends on what are you attracted to...

Is your physical attraction purely a body one? Or a stereotypical male image of what a woman ought to look like?

Just asking.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

My issue is physical attraction can mean different things to different people... Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder...

Meaning what one finds attractive in one person is unattractive in another...

And like I was brought up to believe, "pretty is as pretty does"...

For instance, you may find some supermodel extremely attractive, but is a mindless brain fart tard.

But a girl you would fail to give the time of day is extremely intelligent, with some clean up, she could be an extremely attractive catch...

I find that many ladies would discount themselves from relationships may have negative attitudes about relational approaches. They blow it with unattractive conversation or aggressiveness in other ways.

So, it really depends on what are you attracted to...

Is your physical attraction purely a body one? Or a stereotypical male image of what a woman ought to look like?

Just asking.

AKA_Monet you make some great points. I see you have a clean mind, I can have an intelligent conversation with you, unlike some of the ladies on GC...if you know what I mean. "The whole kane thing. " But anyway, I agree with you when you say there are some attractive women that are very shallow, and there are some that are very intelligent that are not so attractive, but could use a little fixing up, but I wouldn't want to be with either one of them. I would rather be by myself, though I would never throw away a friend, no matter what she looked like.

I'm attracted to a lot of things in women. My ideal mate is very difficult to find, though I'm sure there are some out there. I'm interested in women that are not only attractive to me, but have different hobbies, can talk about world events and current world issues. Not saying she has to know everything that goes on in the world, b/c I don't know everything, but I have to be able to have a conversation with her about some of the issues. The whole body thing? I have my preferences, just like any other man, but for the most part my ideal mate is very, very different from what I've been exposed to. Times have changed, but some women have not, they're just really hard to find, not that I'm looking, I just haven't run into the woman that I would be compatible with.

[DSTCHAOS]

PrettyBoy, stop following the white rabbit down the hole. How did this become PrettyBoy's PsychoAnalytical thread?

[delph998]

How did I miss all of this?! LOL!

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

PrettyBoy, stop following the white rabbit down the hole. How did this become PrettyBoy's PsychoAnalytical thread?

LMAO. You are too funny.

[squirrely girl]

i'd have to go with a no on this concept - if only from personal experience guy friends (who aren't gay) generally turn into one of the two people wanting some.

and if you started as a fling and the sex was good - you're screwed out of having a true friendship afterwards because at least one of those people is going to want some more.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by squirrely girl

i'd have to go with a no on this concept - if only from personal experience guy friends (who aren't gay) generally turn into one of the two people wanting some.

and if you started as a fling and the sex was good - you're screwed out of having a true friendship afterwards because at least one of those people is going to want some more.

I can't agree with you more . I think it also causes problems in relationships. Like if I was with a girl who had several male friends or if I had several female friends, while involved in a serious relationship. That to me just causes so many problems.

[teena]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I'm attracted to a lot of things in women. My ideal mate is very difficult to find, though I'm sure there are some out there. I'm interested in women that are not only attractive to me, but have different hobbies, can talk about world events and current world issues. Not saying she has to know everything that goes on in the world, b/c I don't know everything, but I have to be able to have a conversation with her about some of the issues. The whole body thing? I have my preferences, just like any other man, but for the most part my ideal mate is very, very different from what I've been exposed to. Times have changed, but some women have not, they're just really hard to find, not that I'm looking, I just haven't run into the woman that I would be compatible with.

I have found that when men say that they are unable to find what they are looking for in a woman- they have been the first ones to knock over good women to get to sleezy gold diggers. I hope that doesnt describe you.

Back on topic, i think that men and women can be friends- but it is very rare.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by teena

I have found that when men say that they are unable to find what they are looking for in a woman- they have been the first ones to knock over good women to get to sleezy gold diggers. I hope that doesnt describe you.

Back on topic, i think that men and women can be friends- but it is very rare.

Same applies to women who claim there aren't any good men.

There are plenty of good men out here but unless you're a good woman the two of you will keep evading each other.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by teena

I have found that when men say that they are unable to find what they are looking for in a woman- they have been the first ones to knock over good women to get to sleezy gold diggers. I hope that doesnt describe you.

Back on topic, i think that men and women can be friends- but it is very rare.

I'm not sure. It could. I have had nice women approach me, but I wasn't physically attracted to them. The women that I have been in serious relationships with were a little too fast for me. My X was a gold digger. I learned the hard way with that one. Now I look at family background. That's priority number one. If her family background is similar to mine, and I find her physically attractive with a good head on her shoulders, then I could see getting involved with a woman like that. The women that I've been involved with and the ones that I keep running into have family backgrounds that are opposite of mine. With that I know I'm not compatible with women like that.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Same applies to women who claim there aren't any good men.

There are plenty of good men out here but unless you're a good woman the two of you will keep evading each other.

I agree with you all the way.