Can Men and Women Be Truly Just Friends?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

My issue is physical attraction can mean different things to different people... Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder...

Meaning what one finds attractive in one person is unattractive in another...

And like I was brought up to believe, "pretty is as pretty does"...

For instance, you may find some supermodel extremely attractive, but is a mindless brain fart tard.

But a girl you would fail to give the time of day is extremely intelligent, with some clean up, she could be an extremely attractive catch...

I find that many ladies would discount themselves from relationships may have negative attitudes about relational approaches. They blow it with unattractive conversation or aggressiveness in other ways.

So, it really depends on what are you attracted to...

Is your physical attraction purely a body one? Or a stereotypical male image of what a woman ought to look like?

Just asking.

AKA_Monet you make some great points. I see you have a clean mind, I can have an intelligent conversation with you, unlike some of the ladies on GC...if you know what I mean. "The whole kane thing. " But anyway, I agree with you when you say there are some attractive women that are very shallow, and there are some that are very intelligent that are not so attractive, but could use a little fixing up, but I wouldn't want to be with either one of them. I would rather be by myself, though I would never throw away a friend, no matter what she looked like.

I'm attracted to a lot of things in women. My ideal mate is very difficult to find, though I'm sure there are some out there. I'm interested in women that are not only attractive to me, but have different hobbies, can talk about world events and current world issues. Not saying she has to know everything that goes on in the world, b/c I don't know everything, but I have to be able to have a conversation with her about some of the issues. The whole body thing? I have my preferences, just like any other man, but for the most part my ideal mate is very, very different from what I've been exposed to. Times have changed, but some women have not, they're just really hard to find, not that I'm looking, I just haven't run into the woman that I would be compatible with.

[DSTCHAOS]

PrettyBoy, stop following the white rabbit down the hole. How did this become PrettyBoy's PsychoAnalytical thread?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

PrettyBoy, stop following the white rabbit down the hole. How did this become PrettyBoy's PsychoAnalytical thread?

LMAO. You are too funny.

[teena]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I'm attracted to a lot of things in women. My ideal mate is very difficult to find, though I'm sure there are some out there. I'm interested in women that are not only attractive to me, but have different hobbies, can talk about world events and current world issues. Not saying she has to know everything that goes on in the world, b/c I don't know everything, but I have to be able to have a conversation with her about some of the issues. The whole body thing? I have my preferences, just like any other man, but for the most part my ideal mate is very, very different from what I've been exposed to. Times have changed, but some women have not, they're just really hard to find, not that I'm looking, I just haven't run into the woman that I would be compatible with.

I have found that when men say that they are unable to find what they are looking for in a woman- they have been the first ones to knock over good women to get to sleezy gold diggers. I hope that doesnt describe you.

Back on topic, i think that men and women can be friends- but it is very rare.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by teena

I have found that when men say that they are unable to find what they are looking for in a woman- they have been the first ones to knock over good women to get to sleezy gold diggers. I hope that doesnt describe you.

Back on topic, i think that men and women can be friends- but it is very rare.

Same applies to women who claim there aren't any good men.

There are plenty of good men out here but unless you're a good woman the two of you will keep evading each other.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Same applies to women who claim there aren't any good men.

There are plenty of good men out here but unless you're a good woman the two of you will keep evading each other.

I agree with you all the way.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by teena

I have found that when men say that they are unable to find what they are looking for in a woman- they have been the first ones to knock over good women to get to sleezy gold diggers. I hope that doesnt describe you.

Back on topic, i think that men and women can be friends- but it is very rare.

I'm not sure. It could. I have had nice women approach me, but I wasn't physically attracted to them. The women that I have been in serious relationships with were a little too fast for me. My X was a gold digger. I learned the hard way with that one. Now I look at family background. That's priority number one. If her family background is similar to mine, and I find her physically attractive with a good head on her shoulders, then I could see getting involved with a woman like that. The women that I've been involved with and the ones that I keep running into have family backgrounds that are opposite of mine. With that I know I'm not compatible with women like that.