What's the deal??

[bcdphie]

So again, my advice is that after two years, it's time to move on if he won't commit. [/B]

I have to interject because this is driving me up the wall: After dating my current fiance for 2 years, neither of us had brought up the subject of marriage: I was only 22 at the time and still in school and not ready for that stage in my life and neither was he. Had I ditched him after 2 years I would not be marrying the love of my life in two months - we got engaged after 6 years!

What you are saying is a matter of opinion - maybe you can't wait longer than 2 years, but everyone is different and are facing different circumstances.

Also, in regards to living together before getting married, in Canada it is exactly a 50-50 split. 50% of people who live together before getting married don't get married and that is their choice, hence why the common law law in Canada was changed to only 6 months (or at least it was in BC); and if you live together before you get married 50% of people divorce and 50% don't - so there is no correlation there - again it is just a matter of opinion and your own circumstances...

[ISUKappa]

Originally posted by blueangel
She did indeed imply that she thought he was "THE ONE"--

"I really do love him and want this to work!"

No, that's not implying he's the one. That's saying I really do love him and want this to work. Wanting and knowing are two completely separate things. There is a difference.

I may want to put Brad Pitt up against a wall and make out with him like bandits, but that's not going to happen. But I knew within two weeks of meeting my husband that he was the boy I was going to marry.

[amycat412]

Originally posted by blueangel
<<<As someone else said, your statistics are a bit old. I am 36, and I was a junior in college when some of those studies were done. DAYUM. <<

Can you show me some recent statistics that prove these wrong?

Its not worth my time, See, I'm busy living my life, not searching for proof to my theories. My theories are just that, MINE. I don't ask you to live by them. I DO ask you not to push YOURS on me or anyone else tho.

Live and let live, man.

[33girl]

Amy, I feel like you're going to bust into "King of the Road" or something of the like.

[Xylochick216]

Originally posted by blueangel
She did indeed imply that she thought he was "THE ONE"--

"I really do love him and want this to work!"

And here YOU are taking her words out of context.

If I followed your "rule," I would have married my now-husband when I was 17... that's a bit young, don't you think? Or maybe in your world that would be ok.

ETA: Your rules are for YOU. If you're happy living by them, fine. But we are not all you. All relationships are not identical, therefore relationship "rules" like yours do not apply to everyone.

[sugar and spice]

It's my life
It's now or never
I ain't gonna live forever
I just want to live while I'm alive
(It's my life)
My heart is like an open highway
Like Frankie said
I did it my way
I just wanna live while I'm alive
It's my life




-- haha.

[amycat412]

Originally posted by 33girl
Amy, I feel like you're going to bust into "King of the Road" or something of the like.

Can I wear a jaunty chapeau?

[lauren1874]

Originally posted by ISUKappa
No, that's not implying he's the one. That's saying I really do love him and want this to work. Wanting and knowing are two completely separate things. There is a difference.

I may want to put Brad Pitt up against a wall and make out with him like bandits, but that's not going to happen. But I knew within two weeks of meeting my husband that he was the boy I was going to marry.

Thank you for saying that better than I did!

[amycat412]

Originally posted by sugar and spice
It's my life
It's now or never
I ain't gonna live forever
I just want to live while I'm alive
(It's my life)
My heart is like an open highway
Like Frankie said
I did it my way
I just wanna live while I'm alive
It's my life




-- haha.

Pope Bon Jovi always did have a way w words! POPAPALOOZA baby.

[xo_kathy]

I would just like to interject that my mommy and daddy dated for just about 2 years in college before becoming engaged. They got married. They divorced 9 years later.

My daddy and step-mom dated for 9 years before they got engaged and have one the happiest, best marriages I have ever seen.

I just got married to a man I not only lived with before marriage, but dated for about 4 years before we got engaged. I sure hope we make it...

[mu_agd]

Originally posted by xo_kathy
I just got married to a man I not only lived with before marriage, but dated for about 4 years before we got engaged. I sure hope we make it...

you'll be divorced within a year. seriously, statistics show it.

[xo_kathy]

Oh well.

We had a really fun party!!! I posted some pics in another thread!!!

[ZTAngel]

Originally posted by blueangel
Remember that it was the baby boomers who started the whole "free love" and living together thing. It is not the under 21'ers and 20-somethings who pioneered this. It is nothing new. Hence, the research is all relevent.

Again, agree with it or disagree with it. I don't care what you do--it's your life... just answering the original poster's questions.

There's nothing wrong with buying lottery tickets-- as long as you know the odds against you.

Exactly. It is my life and my decision and therefore I'd rather not be judged by people who do not know anything about my relationship.

[Munchkin03]

Sorry I didn't marry my boyfriend after 2 years of dating! I was too busy finishing college, going to grad school, and starting a career! Sorry we live together!

[KSigkid]

Originally posted by mu_agd
you'll be divorced within a year. seriously, statistics show it.

I will be too...we can all have a party or something.