Playas till the day we die...

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

You're right, being alone isn't fun,

Why? I have much more fun now then I did in a dysfunctional relationship. I am enjoying this period of "aloneness" in my life, because while I might be along I am not lonely.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by KAPital PHINUst

[hijack]Why does ShamikaT remind me so much of Alexyss Tylor? [/hijack]

Are you here in MN?

[ladygreek]

Why do folx feel the need to put God onto another person in their posts to make their point? Let's just talk human to human. Not everyone on her believes in God, or Christ. So to use your beliefs to put someone else down is unfair. And my guess is God doesn't want to have anything to do with GC since he is not a member of a GLO.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Why do folx feel the need to put God onto another person in their posts to make their point? Let's just talk human to human. Not everyone on her believes in God, or Christ. So to use your beliefs to put someone else down is unfair.

Yes, you are right. For effect, I should have changed my challenges. Unfortunately, Marquise has decided to questioned my integrity and my exisitence in this world and I take that personally. It pains me that he outright hates my living in this world that I thought we had to share... Suspend your thinking that he actually does disagree with me, which is fine by my accounts, but he simply does not state why he does, point by point. Rather, he levels personal attacks.

Granted, I did do an invocation, maybe my bipolar has kicked in and yes, I understand that is improper. As a scientist, I must concede that point and I choose to be fair. And I also think that when we discuss matters of the heart, we either review it as an entity beyond our grasp of knowledge or purely a mechanical pump needed to circulate blood... Since we are avoiding the discussion of cardiovascular biology, something I know A LOT about, and discussing something beyond our grasp of knowledge, I took it to a higher state of Spirit...

I do have one question though: Is there a different viewpoint one could take?

[marquise1911]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

I have no love for your hatred toward the divinity of my creation. Insight is not your forte. Your points lack clarity, your ideas are falsities and your arrogance though brutal shows your superfluous joculance. Too bad you lack faith. I guess you actually are a sadist. Continue your pangs and abuse...Keep up the great posts! The more anger your writing has, the more I learn about you...

Women I have no hatred for you. I'm just stating the obvious. YOU'RE DUMB! I think anyone can scroll back and see how clear I have been on simple issues. You think you have the E=Mc2 of Relationships. You've given the worst advice I've heard since reading Teen Magazine while waiting in line at Wal-Mart. Honestly the only reason I am responding to you is because I have a weakness for abusing idiots. I find it quite amusing to watch those who think they know so much make a fool of themselves. You have been quite amusing! You have questioned the validity of my marriage history, my belief in God, my integrity, and even in a weak attempt my sexuality. Am I offended? Of course not...you don't know me. But what I have now come to wonder is if you suffer from some rare form of mental retardation that causes you not to see the moronic things you post.

[marquise1911]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Why do folx feel the need to put God onto another person in their posts to make their point? Let's just talk human to human. Not everyone on here believes in God, or Christ. So to use your beliefs to put someone else down is unfair. And my guess is God doesn't want to have anything to do with GC since he is not a member of a GLO.

LG I know you've watched the Miss America Pageant. It's like an unwritten rule. "If you make a dumb or racist comment, TALK ABOUT GOD AND WORLD PEACE"

[marquise1911]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Nakambuka
Assante
Akeerah
Ashe

*Marquise falls on floor and screams like white girl from The Crucible/Salem Witch Trials*

She's pinching me. AHHHH!!!! Pins and needles under my skin! WITCH!!! WITCH!!!! WITCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Why? I have much more fun now then I did in a dysfunctional relationship. I am enjoying this period of "aloneness" in my life, because while I might be along I am not lonely.

I agree. There's nothing worse than having a relationship with an idiot. But I would rather be in a relationship with a great woman than by myself.

[pinkies up]

Originally Posted by 357Nupe

I wanted to quote a bunch of stuff on this topic, but I thought I will just say my peace.

I am a married man (12 years 12/10/94), with quite a few married friends, most are happy or not mad enough to leave. This thread is a point of conversation for us quite often, from why we got married to do we want to stay married.

Our answers can be summed up as follows:

We all found our wives, persued our wives, caught (clubbed over the head, talked that good ish, etc..) our wives, and married our wives. We also found that none of us had been pressured or made to set a timeline or any other buzzword women use to say are you going to marry me anytime soon or where is this relationship going.

Now I know my next statement is going to start something but here goes, It is not a woman's place(role) to tell a men she is ready to be married, now a woman can leave if she feels the relationship is going nowhere but a man will ask when he knows the relationship is ready for that step. With that said every woman should have standards in her head and if he is not up to those standards, LEAVE HIM.

If you look at how marriage was setup women were not put in the finding role but in the accepting role. If he meets your standards you accept him if not dump him. I luckly met the extremely high standards my wife had and has and she accepted me.

In conclusion when men and women understand their roles in relationships the outcome is a lot clearer and easier to obtain. We as men have forgotten our place and ladies you have decided since we can't figure it out you will take over, and sorry to say it does not work. Thats just my thoughts I could be wrong but my 12 happy years say I may be on the right track.

All I know is that I'm about to set a lot of my Sorors and Sistergreeks against me when I tell you that your post is on point. It's not about a "role" in the sense of "women wash and cook" and "men make the money", but more of the woman sometimes allowing the man to take the lead. When I stopped looking for a man, or a husband, that's when HE came TO ME.

[1908Revelations]

<-------Not against you Soror

[raggann03]

I totally agree with this also. It's kind of funny, once you are single, you are faced with two choices - to bemoan your status daily or to accept the opportunity you have to now focus on yourself and learn who you are. I chose the latter and the idea of a relationship freaks me out a little cause I don't want someone coming in and messing up my life

[pinkies up]

Originally Posted by 1908Revelations

<-------Not against you Soror

Thanks Soror!

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by pinkies up

All I know is that I'm about to set a lot of my Sorors and Sistergreeks against me when I tell you that your post is on point. It's not about a "role" in the sense of "women wash and cook" and "men make the money", but more of the woman sometimes allowing the man to take the lead. When I stopped looking for a man, or a husband, that's when HE came TO ME.

Wow. A woman that wants a man to take the lead? Women usually jump down my throat for voicing my opinion on this. I think that's why the divorce rate is so high because men won't take the lead. That's Biblical. It's the man's job to take care of his wife. It's not her job to take care of him. Women aren't designed to take on the load. Women get frustrated and stressed when she feels she has to take on the load. I agree with you all the way. In a marriage a woman has the option if she wants to work or not. I know this sounds crazy but if she doesn't want to work, then the joker she's with needs to do what he's gotta do to make ends meet. Now, of course if she does want to work then that's always a blessing, but she doesn't have to. That's all I've ever seen my dad do, was lead the family. Sons are going to do what they see their fathers do. I was raised to lead. The problem is finding a woman who wants to be led. Today's women say "I can take care of myself. I don't need a man to take care of me." That's part of the problem. Any man that lets his woman lead him, in my book is one sorry poor excuse for a man.

The Bible says wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands. It also says submit yourselves to one another. That doesn't mean for the man to submit to her lead, it means he is to submit to her needs, and she will submit to his lead.

[jubilance1922]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Wow. A woman that wants a man to take the lead? Women usually jump down my throat for voicing my opinion on this. I think that's why the divorce rate is so high because men won't take the lead. That's Biblical. It's the man's job to take care of his wife. It's not her job to take care of him. Women aren't designed to take on the load. Women get frustrated and stressed when she feels she has to take on the load. I agree with you all the way. In a marriage a woman has the option if she wants to work or not. I know this sounds crazy but if she doesn't want to work, then the joker she's with needs to do what he's gotta do to make ends meet. Now, of course if she does want to work then that's always a blessing, but she doesn't have to. That's all I've ever seen my dad do, was lead the family. Sons are going to do what they see their fathers do. I was raised to lead. The problem is finding a woman who wants to be led. Today's women say "I can take care of myself. I don't need a man to take care of me." That's part of the problem. Any man that lets his woman lead him, in my book is one sorry poor excuse for a man.

The Bible says wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands. It also says submit yourselves to one another. That doesn't mean for the man to submit to her lead, it means he is to submit to her needs, and she will submit to his lead.

Just my two cents on the subject....

I was raised by a mother who grew up dirt poor with no father, so she taught me the "take care of yourself, don't depend on a man" mantra. Once I got older and started having relationships, I realized that I had to tailor it a bit. Its true that I don't "need" a man for financial reasons, and I would never date someone who looked at me as a source of financial gain. But in a relationship, while the financial part may not be needed, I need him to give me other things, both tangible and intangible.

In general, I find these kinds of conversations to always end up on the money issues, and a lot of times a woman saying "I don't need a man to pay my rent or my car note or whatever" gets construed into "I don't need or want a man for anything", and those are two different things.

Its also been my experience that there are some lazy men out there, who simply don't want to take the lead, for whatever reason.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by marquise1911

Women I have no hatred for you. I'm just stating the obvious. YOU'RE DUMB! I think anyone can scroll back and see how clear I have been on simple issues. You think you have the E=Mc2 of Relationships. You've given the worst advice I've heard since reading Teen Magazine while waiting in line at Wal-Mart. Honestly the only reason I am responding to you is because I have a weakness for abusing idiots. I find it quite amusing to watch those who think they know so much make a fool of themselves. You have been quite amusing! You have questioned the validity of my marriage history, my belief in God, my integrity, and even in a weak attempt my sexuality. Am I offended? Of course not...you don't know me. But what I have now come to wonder is if you suffer from some rare form of mental retardation that causes you not to see the moronic things you post.

Young man, please, you would want to PM me at your earliest convenience. This conversation needs to be offline.

Who do you think you are to say such thing to me with your kind of tone? You also do not know me, nor what I am capable of doing.

I would sincerly appreciate it.

I will no longer post in your venue until you respectfully respond to me via Private Message.

Thanks.