sorority advice needed

[Old_Row]

Originally Posted by Hartofsec

OR doesn't have any experience with Junior League here. She is way too young to be sponsored.

33girl, are you speaking from an experience of being rejected from Junior League, or just repeating what you have heard? If you are just repeating what you have heard, then you are just perpetuating Junior League Tent Talk.

Chill folks -- I used Junior League as an example, as I noted, of a group and opportunity to bond with and form friendships with women beyond college. I'm not suggesting that everyone rush out to locate sponsors. Though I doubt that Junior Leagues everywhere are as snobby as reputed to be or as depicted in movies (sound familiar?) -- but I can only respond from my own experience.

Duh. I'm still in school. That doesn't mean that I don't have many generations of Junior League members on both sides of my family and haven't experienced their process and programs and the fallout of not becoming a member in several different cities in the US. Because remember, I'm an entitled brat who thinks she is better than everyone.

[misscherrypie]

I've met with a counselor this morning (sorry for running off!) and I hope that this will signal the beginning of something new.

To answer the question upthread about why Greek and not another organization:

I wanted to socialize, and grow with others who were in the same stage in life (full-time school) at the same time, engage in community service, be an example to others, and would be able to make connections with others across the country and the World after college who also shared the same bond, history, rituals and traditions.

Those were my reasons for wanting to be part of a sorority that had a Collegiate presence. Others may have their own reasons.

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

From a close personal friend's experience after she was already a member of Junior League in one city in the north, when she moved back south, she was not made to feel welcome. Yeah, it depends on the JL.

I've heard of the same happening when a girl transfers from one campus to another and tries to affiliate with her GLO.

I guess it depends on the GLO.

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by Old_Row

Duh. I'm still in school. That doesn't mean that I don't have many generations of Junior League members on both sides of my family and haven't experienced their process and programs and the fallout of not becoming a member in several different cities in the US. Because remember, I'm an entitled brat who thinks she is better than everyone.

Oh yes, I'm sure they all came over on the Mayflower and ran aground on Old Row.

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by misscherrypie

I've met with a counselor this morning (sorry for running off!) and I hope that this will signal the beginning of something new.

Glad to hear that -- we are always on the doorstep of something new if we choose to be.

All the best to you.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

I am interested in the idea that you need to be part of an exclusive group to make close friends. I understand the idea of group female friendship, how having a big circle can be different and produce a dynamic that doesn't come from one-on-one friendships, but at their core, all friendships are one-on-one. Find people with common interests, and make friends. Viola!

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I am interested in the idea that you need to be part of an exclusive group to make close friends. I understand the idea of group female friendship, how having a big circle can be different and produce a dynamic that doesn't come from one-on-one friendships, but at their core, all friendships are one-on-one. Find people with common interests, and make friends. Viola!

I agree -- a circle of members drawn together on some common ground presents opportunities for friendship and shared experiences, but in the end, the friendships and bonds must be developed by individuals.

To say otherwise would negate what we tell PNMs about blooming in the chapter where they find themselves planted.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Hartofsec

I've heard of the same happening when a girl transfers from one campus to another and tries to affiliate with her GLO.

I guess it depends on the GLO.

No one ever said it didn't, but you are trying to claim JL isn't competitive and exclusive (at least in some chapters.)

[Old_Row]

Originally Posted by Hartofsec

Oh yes, I'm sure they all came over on the Mayflower and ran aground on Old Row.

I hope that made you feel important. I bet your children are so proud of you.

[amIblue?]

I am thankful for this thread.

[NutBrnHair]

Originally Posted by kallyssasmommy

1st and foremost let me address the issue of spelling and grammar so many of you brought up. A. I was typing my responses back to some of you very late at night and was tired. B. In the moment I didn't care about spelling or grammar I was just responding. C. Even if I did really use bad grammar and suck that bad at spelling who gives a hoot.

I care and yes, I judged you.

Originally Posted by kallyssasmommy

I will disclose the 4 sororities Kappa Delta, Alpha Delta Phi, Zeta, and Alpha Phi.

Wow, ADPhi hasn't been around for years!

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

No one ever said it didn't, but you are trying to claim JL isn't competitive and exclusive (at least in some chapters.)

No, I never made any such claim. I never claimed anything outside of my personal experience.

Did you?

Are there disappointed forum members here who have been turned away from JL?

misscherrypie received an invite from JL. I'm sure there are others.


ETA: Yep, in fact there is even a thread entitled "AOIIs and The Junior League."

I think you may be perpetuating negative stereotypes about an organization with which you have no experience.

Sound familiar? It kinda jumps up and down on my irony button.

[ZTAme]

If a ZTA disclosed anything about membership selection, she shouldn't have.

[AnchorAlumna]

Finally! Train wreck stirrings! Goodie goodie!

[Titchou]

Oh my - is this going to be another thread shut down because of HartofSec and OR? How many would that be for Hart?

Who's got the popcorn????