Facebook... "Dirty Rushing"?

[FSUZeta]

if she is stupid enough to post her soft porn on facebook, she should expect to suffer the consequences. chapters(and their advisors) don't need to have to deal with this-a chapters rep. can be ruined by one person and take years to rectify(if it ever recovers).

[megananne86]

At my campus they are pretty strict about facebook stuff and greek life. My chapter is even stricter. I cannot have my letters or chapter appear anywhere on my profile or in any pictures. We are not allowed to have any pictures of alcohol or letters(even on shirts on our facebook). With the alcohol pictures it does not matter if you are 21. We are not even allowed to comment on others pictures or have comment on our own with any words relating to alcohol, drunkness, or hangovers.

During recruitment we are required to not accept any friendship requests from any girls. We are required to have our profiles set as private as possible. We have to have it set so that people cannot view our friends(this way they can't see which Gamma Chi's or recruitment counselors you are friends with.) Our sorority group on facebook has to be private and by invitation only. Our Panhel does check random profiles to make sure that no one is adding PNM's.

[ChildoftheHorn]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

you would be surprised how many times a sorority member gets caught contacting a pnm during recruitment-some people don't think to make it private!!

Yeah, at my school, they even have it that the day before bid night that no sorority members can even talk to or acknowledge any PNM. That even goes for previous friends and people in the same class. My best friend couldn't even talk to me for a day, even though I wasn't going to join her group, because of this rule. ( I was a sophmore at the time).

There are also a lot of rules on facebook stuff that applies to everyone on campus. PNM's are not allowed to message/comment/friend any affiliated members and the same goes for the reverse - even if you are good friends.

I will say that I know a friend got a "snap" bid after dropping recruitment early and she got her bid the night before everyone else found out who was in the process - mainly because they found out that day that they would be short quota by one no matter what. I am pretty sure that it is dirty, but it is what it is and it isn't really my friend's fault. She got her bid through a facebook message because it was private and could not be accessed by university members like the emails can.....

[FSUZeta]

ordinarily snap bids happen during the bid matching process and are handled by the greek life advisor-phoning the pnm and saying that the pnm did not match, but that abc would love to have her as a new member and were offering her a bid. noone but the greek life advisor, the alumnae present at the bid matching and the pnm would know that she received a snap bid, if it is handled the way npc suggests.

[dgdramadawg]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

ordinarily snap bids happen during the bid matching process and are handled by the greek life advisor-phoning the pnm and saying that the pnm did not match, but that abc would love to have her as a new member and were offering her a bid. noone but the greek life advisor, the alumnae present at the bid matching and the pnm would know that she received a snap bid, if it is handled the way npc suggests.

At UGA, the houses themselves make the phone calls for snap bids. As I recall, there was a certain time that houses could start doing so, like maybe 7 or 8 in the morning? I didn't realize that other schools had Greek Life doing the snap bidding. Maybe this is to avoid what happens at UGA... certain PNMs getting calls from several houses if they have mismatched.

[Miss{BooperDoo}]

Originally Posted by AXiD670

If Susie Sorority is friends w/ Rachel Rushee on facebook, she could post comments on her page like, "So glad you were at skit night tonight, you'd be a great fit! See you tomorrow!!!" that could be considered dirty rushing.

Actively seeking out potential new members during recruitment and adding them as friends on facebook might also be considered dirty rushing.

I'm not sure, but if some schools wanted to be super-strict about facebook, if chapter members who were previously friends w/ the potential new members were posting comments on their page during recruitment, that might be considered a violation, even something as benign as "Hi!" or whatever.

Lately, I've been thinking about how glad I am I didn't go to college during the whole facebook thing. It was bad enough being broken up with by your boyfriend, but when you log in to facebook and the first thing you see is that your boyfriend has listed himself as "single" or that his friends start posting things like, "glad you got rid of the dead weight!", or cute girls suddenly posting on his page, I might have freaked out and gone over the edge.

Sorry, was reading down through this thread and read your post and it cracked me up about the boyfriend bit.

[sundance]

During fall rush here (UCLA), all of the girls deactivated their Facebooks (basically, it's deleted, but you can always bring it back). I don't know whether this was required, or whether it was just easier than deleting pictures, changing privacy settings, and "cleaning up" their profiles.

It was really effective, because it was as if girls in sororities didn't even exist! I'm sure it was hard for them to live without Facebook for that time, but they all survived.

[Symbal]

Rho Chi's had to make their Facebook profiles Private, though I'm not sure about Myspace. It's not big here.
Sorority sisters, as far as I know, did not have to do anything to their profiles. I remember friending a sister during rush (she didn't confirm until after COB) since we had gotten along well. I did not message her, nor did she message me until the whole thing was over.
Rushees were not given special instructions other than don't contact the sisters outside of rush activities.
I know a lot of girls who used Facebook as a way to get a feel of the sorority she had in mind. She looked at the functions they did together, what the sisters were like, etc.

[AGDLynn]

Interesting conversation with a collegiate Panhellenic officer yesterday.

She was at their national convention. There was a Facebook slideshow of different sorority members across the country doing "questionable" things, like drinking, skanky outfits. Wonder what those members thought when they saw their face/chapter members' faces flashed on a gigantic screen.

So, everyone (sorority members or potentials), clean up your Facebook or set to Private or someone may see it and get an unfavorable impression of you.

[LOVEinZTA]

Originally Posted by AGDLynn

She was at their national convention. There was a Facebook slideshow of different sorority members across the country doing "questionable" things, like drinking, skanky outfits. Wonder what those members thought when they saw their face/chapter members' faces flashed on a gigantic screen.

We did this just within our chapter at meeting (faces were blacked out but you could still pretty much tell who was who) and warned that if these things didn't get cleaned up faces would be shown. It was pretty effective.

On a different note, I specifically remember girls from several different chapter friending me in the middle of rush and striking up conversations. And that was just in spring of 06!

[ErinIsBadNews]

This is a minor hijack, but what is the appropriate thing to do when you see inappropriate pictures of another group. Is it worse to be a tattle tail and notify their chapter advisor or pretend you never saw it and not tell anyone? I’m not talking about just the underage drinking pictures, but the ones that make you wonder what in the world they were thinking.

[LOVEinZTA]

Originally Posted by ErinIsBadNews

This is a minor hijack, but what is the appropriate thing to do when you see inappropriate pictures of another group. Is it worse to be a tattle tail and notify their chapter advisor or pretend you never saw it and not tell anyone? I’m not talking about just the underage drinking pictures, but the ones that make you wonder what in the world they were thinking.

Personally? I'd send an anonymous message somehow to the chapter president or historian explaining that you don't think that's a very good representation of Greek Life and they might want to consider talking to the member and taking action before *someone* reports it to their adviser. That way you give them the benefit of the doubt that they weren't aware of it and they are now so they can do something and if they don't do anything you shouldn't feel nearly as bad reporting it.

[FSUZeta]

i agree that the panhellenic thing to do would be to let the chapter president know that a member has inappropriate photos on facebook, but i might just leave it at that-if they care, they will know how to handle the situation themselves. they may already be trying to get the member to take those photos down-that's internal chapter business that an outsider would not know about-there's no need for us to tell them how to handle the situation.

[ErinIsBadNews]

That's a very good idea. Thanks.

[AOE2AlphaPhi]

All the girls in sororities have to unfriend the Rho Gammas for the semester they're disafilliated at our school. I still figured out my Rho Gammas' affiliations by looking at pictures my friends who were in their sororitites had though.