Non-greek lavaliering a greek girlfriend

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Titchou

MysticCat: See his first posted quoted above. He says "she has mentioned lavaliering." That certainly sounds like she mentioned it to him as normally one would say "she mentioned to Susie who told me" if it was otherwise. Then he recanted later...perhaps he did misspeak to begin with but I only know what you say - not what you mean to say.

Is it really this big a deal?

You're right -- he said "she has mentioned lavaliering," and it's clear he meant that she mentioned it to him or mentioned it in his presence. That =/= asking him to lavelier her. He also says:

Originally Posted by nongreek123

to clarify....she never ASKED me to lavalier her....i just know that its a big deal to some girls in sororities and i thought it would be special to do...im not in a fraternity but i do recognize the importance from hearing her friends talk about it...

Originally Posted by nongreek123

she has mentioned lavaliering in talking with her sisters. not about it happening to her but in general about other sisters.

Now granted, it might have been clearer if he had said "she has mentioned lavaliering in talking about her sisters," but from the context I think it's pretty clear he's just saying while she hasn't said she'd like to be lavaliered, she has talked with him about her sisters being lavaliered (or talked about it with her sisters in his presence) and he's picked up from that what a big deal she and her sisters think lavaliering is.

I know the floodgates have been open to major azycray on GC lately, but I just don't see the inconsistencies here, nor do I see any reason for him to try and pull one over on us.

[Titchou]

Oh, I don't think he's trying to pull anything over on us. And all this really doesn't mean a hill of beans. It's just that I take what people say at face value and then when they change that, then I get rather frustrated. It really isn't that difficult to say what you mean...you and other regulars on GC do it well. We spent so much energy coming up with answers to his original post that were then not valid when he changed his remarks.

Bottom line is: if she really wants to be lavaliered, he's going to have to join a fraternity or she's going to have to find a new boyfriend who is in a fraternity.
Perhaps he needs to ask her the question!

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Titchou

It's just that I take what people say at face value and then when they change that, then I get rather frustrated. . . . We spent so much energy coming up with answers to his original post that were then not valid when he changed his remarks.

Like I've said, I don't think he changed his remarks. If anything, I think that when he said "she has mentioned lavaliering," lots of people didn't take that at face value and added the assumption he meant that she had mentioned that she wishes he would/could lavalier her. Take out that added assumption, and I don't see any inconsistency or change in what he said, just additional information.

I need a life today.

[agzg]

My second remark still stands - lavaliering is for lame-o's.

I'd rather get some (non-lettered) nice jewelry or an engagement ring any day.

[nongreek123]

i really do appreciate all the responses from everyone and im sorry if my posts were confusing

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by agzg

My second remark still stands - lavaliering is for lame-o's.

I'd rather get some (non-lettered) nice jewelry or an engagement ring any day.

LOL @ the Titchou and MysticCat dialogue. That was the most boring and overstated dialogue in a while.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by agzg

My second remark still stands - lavaliering is for lame-o's.

I'd rather get some (non-lettered) nice jewelry or an engagement ring any day.

Let the church say amen.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

LOL @ the Titchou and MysticCat dialogue. That was the most boring and overstated dialogue in a while.

'Course, you're right.

[ADPiKT]

Of course you can lavalier her! You don't have to be greek to give her, her own letters. It's just a sweet gesture that you recognize the importance of her sorority.

[srmom]

Originally Posted by agzg

My second remark still stands - lavaliering is for lame-o's.

I'd rather get some (non-lettered) nice jewelry or an engagement ring any day.

Back in the 80's when I was dating this guy, who was a Sigma Chi alum (out in the working world for a few years), I mentioned how much I would love to have a Candle Light before I graduated. He jokingly said that he would lavalier me, I said, "Heck No, you're 25 years old!!! How lame would that be?"

He got the message - a couple months later he asked me to marry him, along with an engagement ring! I got to have my Candle Light, he got ME!!

Now married 25 years- what a smart choice for him!!

"My Pi Phi Man, where ever you are, I'll be thinking about you, whether near or far....."

Still have the candle with the wine and silver blue ribbons in a glass case in my kitchen!

[MysticCat]

The bump in the thread about pearling made me wonder if that might be an option for the OP.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by ADPiKT

Of course you can lavalier her! You don't have to be greek to give her, her own letters. It's just a sweet gesture that you recognize the importance of her sorority.

But that's not lavaliering. That's giving her a present.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by srmom

Back in the 80's when I was dating this guy, who was a Sigma Chi alum (out in the working world for a few years), I mentioned how much I would love to have a Candle Light before I graduated. He jokingly said that he would lavalier me, I said, "Heck No, you're 25 years old!!! How lame would that be?"

He got the message - a couple months later he asked me to marry him, along with an engagement ring! I got to have my Candle Light, he got ME!!

Now married 25 years- what a smart choice for him!!

"My Pi Phi Man, where ever you are, I'll be thinking about you, whether near or far....."

Still have the candle with the wine and silver blue ribbons in a glass case in my kitchen!

You always have the best stories. You seem like you have such a good spirit.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

The bump in the thread about pearling made me wonder if that might be an option for the OP.

Sounded dirty until I clicked over to see what it meant.

[ADPiKT]

Originally Posted by 33girl

But that's not lavaliering. That's giving her a present.

Oh really? Giving a girl a lavalier is not lavaliering?