People that you would NOT recommend.

[Titchou]

The chapters that I normally write sponsor forms for know when I say "no", I mean it. A no rec form me means she was arrested, has DUIs, etc. Otherwise, I know how to write a glowing sponsor form and how to write a negtively slanted one. We can also do an "information only" form that we don't recommend one way or another. I do some of those when it is obvious that the girl would be known from her school but her rep is really not great. I leave it up to the chapter. After doing this for more than 20 years, the area schools know me.

[JennRN]

Ok, this is a twist on the topic-let's say you wrote a PNM a rec and after a while found out some not great things about her? Nothing horrible, like murder or anything, but just things that would make you think-you know what, I'm not sure I'd like you as a sister after all. Would you contact the chapter and let them know? Or just leave it?

This is not happening to me, but I was thinking about it the other night and was just curious.

[Zillini]

Originally Posted by JennRN

Ok, this is a twist on the topic-let's say you wrote a PNM a rec and after a while found out some not great things about her? Nothing horrible, like murder or anything, but just things that would make you think-you know what, I'm not sure I'd like you as a sister after all. Would you contact the chapter and let them know? Or just leave it?

This is not happening to me, but I was thinking about it the other night and was just curious.

Depends a lot on what sort of information we're talking about. I'd suggest you contact one of the advisors and let them make the call.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by JennRN

Ok, this is a twist on the topic-let's say you wrote a PNM a rec and after a while found out some not great things about her? Nothing horrible, like murder or anything, but just things that would make you think-you know what, I'm not sure I'd like you as a sister after all. Would you contact the chapter and let them know? Or just leave it?

This is not happening to me, but I was thinking about it the other night and was just curious.

It's happened. And I did contact the chapter and withdrew my sponsorship.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by JennRN

Ok, this is a twist on the topic-let's say you wrote a PNM a rec and after a while found out some not great things about her? Nothing horrible, like murder or anything, but just things that would make you think-you know what, I'm not sure I'd like you as a sister after all. Would you contact the chapter and let them know? Or just leave it?

I'd defintely let the Membership Recruitment Director of that chapter know that I have withdrawn my recommendation (and why).

[SWTXBelle]

I was unhappy that I didn't get to no-rec a former student who went to Ole Miss . . . am still dying to know if she pledged or not. I certainly would not wish this delightful girl on ANY of the fine chapters at Ole Miss. If I knew then what I knew now, it would not have been a question.

[I.C. a Pi Phi]

I think this was 5 or 6 years ago. A high school girl had been drunk driving and killed someone. It had made the local papers.

Fast forward. The girl enrolls in UGA and decides to go through rush. Somebody back in her hometown learns that she wants to rush. This anonymous person sends newspaper clippings about this girl to every sorority on campus.

The girl is cut from every house.

[ZetaGirl22]

I have never had to "no rec" someone as an alumna, but I DID have to have a talk with our Membership Adviser about a couple of PNMs when I was a collegian. We this group of freshman women coming through that I had met from participating in homecoming week festivities with XY fraternity. They called themselves the "XY sluts" (FOR REAL)!!!!!!!! (And they weren't lying when they said that) And I had seen them taking/being under the influence of street drugs........this was the HEIGHT of the rave craze at this time. As soon as I noticed they were going through, I had a nice long talk with our membership adviser and they were released.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by ZetaGirl22

the HEIGHT of the rave craze