Gifts that hurt your feelings

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by fantASTic

Advice?

Yup. Next year buy that joker a $10.00 suit from Walmart. "The day of."

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Yup. Next year buy that joker a $10.00 suit from Walmart. "The day of."

lol lol lol lol lol lol lol lol

[TrojanWoman]

I had an ex give me an extra large, men's, USC t-shirt for Christmas one year. I'm 5'3" and usually wear a size small, women's shirt. I understand that he was thinking that I love USC and was going to a bowl game, but still, extra large men's shirt???

My current guy and I still laugh at that story and he threatens to repeat the gift every time an occasion comes up

[Glitter650]

This thread makes me think of the episode of Full House where Steve gets DJ a U of Miami sweatshirt and she cries and cries, anyone remember that one ?

[SydneyK]

When I was in college, I got a pot for Valentine's Day once. He said, "I love mac & cheese, and you don't have any pots here that I can fix it in. So, Happy Valentine's Day!" I had pots, they just weren't good enough for him. Silly college boys (this wasn't my now-hubby).

My husband is better with gifts now than he used to be. For our first Christmas after we were married, he got me tires and luggage. I looked at him and said, "Am I going somewhere?" He was just trying to be practical - I needed new tires, and I'd been carrying around the same luggage for years.

It's taken some time, but he's learned to give not-so-practical gifts... and I've also learned to appreciate the practical ones anyway.

[BabyPiNK_FL]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

When I was in college, I got a pot for Valentine's Day once. He said, "I love mac & cheese, and you don't have any pots here that I can fix it in. So, Happy Valentine's Day!" I had pots, they just weren't good enough for him. Silly college boys (this wasn't my now-hubby).

My husband is better with gifts now than he used to be. For our first Christmas after we were married, he got me tires and luggage. I looked at him and said, "Am I going somewhere?" He was just trying to be practical - I needed new tires, and I'd been carrying around the same luggage for years.

It's taken some time, but he's learned to give not-so-practical gifts... and I've also learned to appreciate the practical ones anyway.

My boyfriend is great and I shouldn't complain I guess, but every year he gets me a ring or some jewelry and then months later I can't even remember what it was exactly he bought me! I know what he bought me that I own, just not which gift went with which holiday! I tell him all the time, buy me practical things. I'm too poor to buy all of my favorite CDs, food most of the time, medications that I need, a new computer battery, etc. But he keeps giving me jewelry! Sometimes (secretly) I wish I could pawn it. But I really do love him and so I just try to convince him that maybe next time something I can't afford to buy myself but really need is more in order.

[nikki1920]

I appreciate a gift card if its a store that my s/o knows I frequent. It saves him the hassle of trying to find something that a. fits and b. he thinks I'd like. But then again, I don't like to be surprised, so I am usually very specific with what I want.

Again, it goes back to communication. Tell him or her what it is you want.

[Animate]

I'm sorry but guys are not as gift-impaired as some would like to think. Sure he may not get you that gift that you wanted but the fact that he got you something means he is trying, if it shows that he actually put in effort. I want you to try to find the "perfect gift" every Birthday, Anniversary, Valentine's Day (I "hate" this "holiday" btw), Christmas, Day that ends in Y. Its not that we don't want to get you gifts at these times, its just that women put a lot of pressure on guys to get GREAT gifts. More pressure than you probably realize.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by Animate

I'm sorry but guys are not as gift-impaired as some would like to think. Sure he may not get you that gift that you wanted but the fact that he got you something means he is trying, if it shows that he actually put in effort. I want you to try to find the "perfect gift" every Birthday, Anniversary, Valentine's Day (I "hate" this "holiday" btw), Christmas, Day that ends in Y. Its not that we don't want to get you gifts at these times, its just that women put a lot of pressure on guys to get GREAT gifts. More pressure than you probably realize.

Yeah, for the fellas, repeated first gifts are tough. There are some fellas that are clueless when it comes to gifts, especially when they lack funds. The irony is that all the woman really wants is the "gift of time" and a "shower of kisses". Or at least there are few ladies that think that way...

At least that's better than not giving ANYTHING for the days that end in "Y"!!!

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

The irony is that all the woman really wants is the "gift of time" and a "shower of kisses".

Guys, do this and you can't go wrong. I agree with you AKA_Monet.

[James]

I don't know. I have seen girls upset because they didn't think the guy spent enough money on them . . .

Maybe there is some optimum intersection between thought and value? A lot of thought but little financial value equals bad gift, but maybe no thought and high value also equals bad gift?

However, me thinks that if the ticket item is high enough it may erase the lack of thought . . . .

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Yeah, for the fellas, repeated first gifts are tough. There are some fellas that are clueless when it comes to gifts, especially when they lack funds. The irony is that all the woman really wants is the "gift of time" and a "shower of kisses". Or at least there are few ladies that think that way...

At least that's better than not giving ANYTHING for the days that end in "Y"!!!

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by James

I don't know. I have seen girls upset because they didn't think the guy spent enough money on them . . .

Maybe there is some optimum intersection between thought and value? A lot of thought but little financial value equals bad gift, but maybe no thought and high value also equals bad gift?

However, me thinks that if the ticket item is high enough it may erase the lack of thought . . . .

Then I wonder about one's character if they think that money can "buy" love. And the question becomes at "what cost"?

Because when a one purchases certain pricey items for said another, that person owns or owes him or her... And when they say, jump, the other person has to say "how high".

Good luck, but most expensive givers have strong expectations regarding the outcome.

[James]

Of course you can buy love. Don't be silly. People have been buying love for centuries through money, gifts, status, power etc.

A lot of people respond to to those things with with warmth, excitement and affection. I am not going to argue if its "true love" because most people seem to think they have true love regardless of how good or bad their relationship is.

In fact standard courtship rituals tend to involve a lot of time and expense.

Except for those that subscribe to the "Just come over" type of relationships.

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Then I wonder about one's character if they think that money can "buy" love. And the question becomes at "what cost"?

Because when a one purchases certain pricey items for said another, that person owns or owes him or her... And when they say, jump, the other person has to say "how high".

Good luck, but most expensive givers have strong expectations regarding the outcome.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by Animate

, Valentine's Day (I "hate" this "holiday" btw), More pressure than you probably realize.

And worse yet, that's my birthday...hehe

[fantASTic]

Hey hey..I never said it was $5! I don't know where you're getting that from. It was under $20, is what I believe the original post said.

I'm over it, now. He admitted he messed up on that one, and has been hinting that he's getting jewelry for Christmas...

I love him anyways