Depledging a "loser" sorority? - Page 3

sugar and spice · #31 10-08-2005, 09:34 PM

I'll take pity on you, sweetheart, because god knows nobody else around here will. I have no idea whether you're legit or not and don't particularly care, and I know that a lot of people on GC are going to give you really stupid advice like, "Work to change your chapter's reputation!" which is idiotic given that on many competitive campuses, the "fat ugly sorority" doesn't even contain that many girls who are fat and ugly to start with. And uhh, wouldn't it be hard to get other Greeks to see you in a new light when they apparently don't even talk to you in the first place?

People can be as Pollyanna as they want about it, but when it comes right down to it, I'm sure it's very difficult to be in a situation where most non-Greeks are prejudiced against you because they assume you're a snob/bitch, while most Greeks are prejudiced against you because they assume you're an ugly loser. That's stressful and rotten and can be a constant blow to the self-esteem, and IMO that is no way to spend college.

You might as well stick it out until you're completely 100 percent convinced you don't want to be there. If this is where you ended up as a sophomore, you will not end up in a better house as a junior, so you shouldn't be worrying about quitting before initiation so you can re-rush next year. So stay where you are and, if things don't improve, then quit -- but know that rushing again is pretty pointless.

JennRN · #32 10-08-2005, 10:04 PM

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Originally posted by Tippiechick

BTW, quota was NOT in the thirties for UTA.

That's what I was thinking too.

honeychile · #33 10-08-2005, 10:14 PM

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Originally posted by sugar and spice

You might as well stick it out until you're completely 100 percent convinced you don't want to be there. If this is where you ended up as a sophomore, you will not end up in a better house as a junior, so you shouldn't be worrying about quitting before initiation so you can re-rush next year. So stay where you are and, if things don't improve, then quit -- but know that rushing again is pretty pointless.

Seemed to be worth emphasis. Seriously, my first thought (well, after the Cherry Vanilla Dr. Pepper) was that the only house you'd have a chance of pledging at a junior at UT would be the same place you're at.

So, your decision will affect the rest of your life:
are you the chosen people in life who are able to change a bad situation or
are you someone who, when the going gets tough, you quit?

The way a "loser sorority" becomes a loser sorority is when people whine about "it's too hard!", "nobody will mix with us", "we have a bad reputation." If it was as bad as you say, it would have been obvious before you signed your bid card.

You saw something in this group. Look for it again. Be a mover or move out - don't pull the rest of the group down.

Now, I have some cheese popcorn, and pass that Dr. Pepper!

UCFStefanie · #34 10-08-2005, 10:16 PM

PLease pass the popcorn, cherry vanilla dr. pepper and the raw cookie dough. I am amazed at how civil we are right now.

Maybe you should transfer to a different school and try rush there for a 3rd year. or Maybe AI can always be an alternative too.

kddani · #35 10-08-2005, 10:22 PM

Obviously this house is where you fit in best. They gave you a bid, you accepted it. Those other houses didn't give you a bid. Either make the best of it and do your part, or get out. Sitting around complaining about your house's rep isn't going to do a damn thing for the house, it's rep, or you.

You say you like the girls and all that, but as you're showing here, reputation sure seems to mean more to you than friendship.

The chances of you getting a bid anywhere else as a junior in a competitive rush, when you've already depledged the "loser" sorority is slim to nonexistant.

#36 10-08-2005, 10:25 PM

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Originally posted by UCFStefanie
or Maybe AI can always be an alternative too.

You did not just go there.

WCUgirl · #37 10-08-2005, 10:29 PM

Quota at the University of Texas was 43.

SmartBlondeGPhB · #38 10-08-2005, 10:30 PM

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Originally posted by Tex1899
"Competitive" schools in Texas don't have quotas in the 30's.

LOL...........and none of us caught THAT part of the story.

I was going to ask if any school in Texas had quotas in the 30's but yes at least one does....silly me

honeychile · #39 10-08-2005, 10:34 PM

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Originally posted by OTW
You did not just go there.

Ouch. I think she did.

I need more Dr. Pepper...

SmartBlondeGPhB · #40 10-08-2005, 10:36 PM

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Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
you know. the fat girl sorority usually take in fat girls

Hey, I'm just tellin you the truth.

Not true (as a member of one of those that had that rep). We had a lot of skinny girls and a lot of really pretty ones too.

Yes, the chapter I pledged had that same rep (well add ugly and dull to it as well). It was the smallest house on campus and I didn't really care. I had a wonderful time with all of the women in the chapter. And we didn't have anyone who fit the rep that we had.

You say that you don't care about what others are saying, but you obviously do. You have to decide what will make you happy, we can't do that for you.

kddani · #41 10-08-2005, 10:39 PM

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Originally posted by SmartBlondeGPhB
You have to decide what will make you happy, we can't do that for you.

Amen.

Do you want to keep these women whose company that you enjoy as sisters that you love, that you can have fun with, that will be there for you in good times and in bad, that will be your future bridesmaids, etc?

Or do you want pretty, popular sisters who treat you like a pile of poop?

SmartBlondeGPhB · #42 10-08-2005, 10:39 PM

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Originally posted by OTW
You did not just go there.

Let's just assume she was being sarcastic so we don't have to get upset........

It would so ruin this little party we're having.

valkyrie · #43 10-08-2005, 10:42 PM

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Originally posted by OTW
You did not just go there.

I'm assuming it was a "joke," but, even if it is, PEOPLE NEED TO STOP MAKING THE AI JOKE. IT ISN'T FUNNY. IT'S EVEN LESS FUNNY THAN PRETENDING TO EAT AND DRINK WHILE WATCHING A THREAD.

Tippiechick · #44 10-08-2005, 10:47 PM

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Originally posted by valkyrie
I'm assuming it was a "joke," but, even if it is, PEOPLE NEED TO STOP MAKING THE AI JOKE. IT ISN'T FUNNY. IT'S EVEN LESS FUNNY THAN PRETENDING TO EAT AND DRINK WHILE WATCHING A THREAD.

Have I told you lately that I love you? Have I told you there's no one else above you? Fills my heart with gladness... Takes away all my sadness...some words... That's what you do.

valkyrie · #45 10-08-2005, 10:49 PM

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Originally posted by Tippiechick
Have I told you lately that I love you? Have I told you there's no one else above you? Fills my heart with gladness... Takes away all my sadness...some words... That's what you do.

You are the wind beneath my wings on Wednesday, the official thread of being an idiot.