Need Advice on Another CRAZY

[Sistermadly]

Originally posted by Rio_Kohitsuji
Tell her she's really adopted. Or, she was really an accident.

BWAHAHAhAHAHAHAAHAHAHA!

(Dang, how does one clean dietCoke from a laptop screen anyway?)

[christiangirl]

Oh, I'm not calling you a coward, those are just the suggestions for the coward's way out (like I did ). Oh, and if anyone can help with that "soda on the laptop screen" problem, I'd appreciate it, I still haven't found a way to get mine off...

[Dionysus]

Originally posted by christiangirl


I'd definitely say this girl is just lonely, but she needs to learn to branch outside of her comfort zone and make some new friends. She probably doesn't have very high self-esteem if she believes you're the only person who'd be willing to hang out with her. Seeing you have more of a social life, she's probably really attracted to that and wishes she had that kind of confidence. Now, if you want to do the compassionate thing, you can talk to her when she calls (but politely cut it short if you really have to go), take her out with you when you go places, introduce her to people. You could gently take her aside and tell her she's bothering you, but that won't cure her loneliness. It'll solve your problem, but not hers. It just depends if you want to take time out of your life to help little ms. lonely, or if you just want her away from you. That'll show which route you need to go.

I second this. She seems more clingy/annoying/lonely than a psycho stalker. Let her hang around you for a while and "teach her how to fish". And you can have her do things for you, if she refuses, tell her you won't be her friend.

[honeychile]

Since you're basically non-confrontational, have you thought of making a sign that says, "Free to Talk" and "Do Not Disturb" on the other side? Tell her than you will talk to her when available (no more than a half hour every day), and that's ALL. Tell her that someone has been looking in your window, and the very next time, you will call 911 - and do it! Being a Peeping Tom is against the law, after all.

In other words, set your perimeters, and KEEP THEM!

[sageofages]

Originally posted by honeychile
Since you're basically non-confrontational, have you thought of making a sign that says, "Free to Talk" and "Do Not Disturb" on the other side? Tell her than you will talk to her when available (no more than a half hour every day), and that's ALL. Tell her that someone has been looking in your window, and the very next time, you will call 911 - and do it! Being a Peeping Tom is against the law, after all.

In other words, set your perimeters, and KEEP THEM!

I was going to suggest calling 911 about a peeping tom as well. I wouldn't even warn her that you will be calling the police. JUST DO IT. Once she is caught, you don't have to press charges the shock of being apprehended will be enough to convince her to stop.

[christiangirl]

Originally posted by honeychile
Since you're basically non-confrontational, have you thought of making a sign that says, "Free to Talk" and "Do Not Disturb" on the other side? Tell her than you will talk to her when available (no more than a half hour every day), and that's ALL. Tell her that someone has been looking in your window, and the very next time, you will call 911 - and do it! Being a Peeping Tom is against the law, after all.

In other words, set your perimeters, and KEEP THEM!

HAHAHAHAHAHA....I didn't even think of that one, DO IT, DO IT!!!

[absoluteZChi]

Originally posted by christiangirl
HAHAHAHAHAHA....I didn't even think of that one, DO IT, DO IT!!!

Jeni, you know you are easy to talk to, so I can see why you wouldn't want to hurt her feelings, but everyone is right, give her boundaries and keep them. She needs to find new people to spread her "joy" to. Encourage her to join a club...hey! suggest a Theta Nu Xi informational to her!!!!

Just Kidding

[preciousjeni]

Originally posted by absoluteZChi
Jeni, you know you are easy to talk to, so I can see why you wouldn't want to hurt her feelings, but everyone is right, give her boundaries and keep them. She needs to find new people to spread her "joy" to. Encourage her to join a club...hey! suggest a Theta Nu Xi informational to her!!!!

Just Kidding

LOL! That just one more thing about her. She actually makes fun of me for my love for TNX. And, she gets SERIOUSLY jealous when I put sorority work before talking to her.

Y'all I finally broke down and called mama who said that God brought the child into my life for a reason. And, perhaps that reason is learning how to deal with difficult people gracefully and also setting boundaries just like people here have mentioned.

By the way, thanks for the compliment!! I am LOVING me some Zeta Sigma Chi between you and rocketgirl!!! You ladies have represented your sorority splendidly.