To Spank or Not To Spank Kids

[Kevin]

That doesn't sound like ADHD, that sounds like some kind of emotionally disturbed kid.

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally posted by ktsnake
That doesn't sound like ADHD, that sounds like some kind of emotionally disturbed kid.

It might have been. I was more pissed off with the parents for leaving their kid with us and taking off.

My aunt asked her friends to leave when they finally returned. She was pissed at them too.

[Rudey]

*Cough* child abuser *cough*

-Rudey

[XOMichelle]

"A spanking! A spanking!" - Monty Python and the Holy Grail

Hmm... I don't know about spanking. I guess it depends on the parent and on the child. As a kid, my mom sometimes went over the top with it. I'm sure I deserved it a few times, but there were a few others when she was so mad at me that I was scared. If my children behave well, I probably won't. However, if they are little devils, I'm sure they will get an occasional slap.

[Peaches-n-Cream]

I wouldn't spank a child.

I saw a little girl getting her hand slapped by her mother. The little girl hit her mother back which I thought was appropriate.

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally posted by Peaches-n-Cream
I wouldn't spank a child.

I saw a little girl getting her hand slapped by her mother. The little girl hit her mother back which I thought was appropriate.

My mother hit me once. I hit here back. I nearly got a beating from my father. Yeah, that was the last time anyone ever got spanked. I can take my mother, but there is no way in hell I can take on my father.

[xo_kathy]

That is so funny, PNC! My finaces daughter does the same thing! He'll yell at her about something and when she doesn't behave he'll spank her butt. She'll turn and hit him right back!

At first I was appalled at her, but I realized she learned it from him and his ex. They spank the girl when she does something bad, but she just keeps doing it. And since they can't seem to agree on any other form of discipline (he says no TV, mom still lets her watch it) the daughter realizes the spank is not really a big deal - so she spanks them right back! Of course, they are "easy spankers" - no other objects and no "whoopins". Maybe they need to do more...and I don't even agree with that, but darn this girl is a spoiled brat sometimes!!!!

I hope the kids I have with him are better and we don't have to spank. But check with me in 5-7 years!

Originally posted by OohTeenyWahine
Before some of you decide to go CPS on me (because I know some of y'all will)...

I am a firm believer in disciplining kids, as most people are. Unfortunately there are idiots out there who don't know the difference between disciplining kids and child abuse.

I don't have any children of my own yet, but that doesn't matter. I consider my nieces and nephew my own and I've had a hand at raising them. Just from that, I know that timeouts aren't worth isht. We've tried the timeout BS, and it's only made the situations worse.

I'm a product of spankings, the belt, and the popular rubber slipper (in Hawai`i those black flip flops were more convenient than the belt). My dad hit me because I was a rotten kid and I deserved to be punished. You bet I learned my lesson. After a while he didn't have to bring out the hand, the belt, or the slipper. Once he said my name slowly, I quit being horrible and retreated to somewhere safe.

That worked for me and it's working for the next generation of kids in my family. You bet that I'll be quick to raise my hand when needed if and when my future kids act up.

Sorry if I've offended anybody, but that's how I plan to raise my kids. I don't tell you how to raise yours, so please keep insults to a bare minimum, thanks.

My goodness...i agree with Ooh teenie wahinie 100%!

I grew up with a father and mother who believed discipline by hand was the only way to go! And we grew up well adjusted and well mannered responsible adults.

I am so fed up and sick to death with ppl today who have a fricken cow when someone disciplines their child publically.

I do not believe in hitting or anything like that because then you have crossed the line. But to take a open hand accross a butt to send a message is fine. Now you take a fist accross the face or open hand accross the face or a fist into any other part of the body ... again crosses the line.


My father and mother did instill the fear of god into us kids and by mentioning our full names we knew it was coming. If we got the name ...your next move that you make better be a good one because the next action would be after the full name a spanking and restriction.

I have a 4 1/2 yr old whom i am now raising by myself full time as his father is living back in Oklahoma and being mom and dad is hard. I had him in a wal mart cart a few weeks ago and he started acting up and i said to him in a low stern voice your lucky because mommy can't discpline you here in the store ( BECAUSE WE ALL KNOW THE CHILD PSYCHOLIGIST customers all have a cow and send out their gashtly sighs and "WELL i NEVER" remarks) told him once we get him home it is a spanking and time out ( restrction). After i said that a few customers were behind me and ready to hear some half snide remark they said "....hell no i would descipline him here screw what ppl say!" ( so chalk two votes up for motherhood done right!) I don't put up with back talk or bad manners or out of control kids......that is the problem with our world today all the ppl who sit there and make judgment on those who discpline our kids are giving those kids permission to act up because my god if we don't discpline ourkids than were going to have wild monsters on our hands.

I am very much a church person and read scripture ....my own pastor has said heck yeah you got to discpline.


Bottom line.....discipline yes ...child abuse no!

[greeklawgirl]

My mom perfected the Look Of Death while I was very young, and that alone was usually enough to stop me cold in my tracks. (In fact, the LOD once scared me so badly I actually fainted, but that's a story for another day.)

On the rare occasions that didn't work, we were spanked. It didn't scar me for life. I completely agree with my sister AGDee and justamom about knowing what discipline works for your child. I'd prefer to use time-outs and consequences first, but I won't be afraid to swat a bottom if I think the situation calls for it.

[starang21]

Originally posted by Peaches-n-Cream
I wouldn't spank a child.

I saw a little girl getting her hand slapped by her mother. The little girl hit her mother back which I thought was appropriate.

wow....the discipline of these children these days. and people wonder why young people don't know respect anymore. i'd have gotten the worst whoopin' ever if i did some garbage like that.

[starang21]

Originally posted by Lady Pi Phi
My mother hit me once. I hit here back. I nearly got a beating from my father. Yeah, that was the last time anyone ever got spanked. I can take my mother, but there is no way in hell I can take on my father.

wow...to even consider taking on a parental.

[NinjaPoodle]

Cluey
I think it depends on the kid.

Couldn't agree more. Different kids are going to react and behave differently to different dicipline methods. You have to know your kid.

SilverTurtle
My parents spanked. Although I think I had maybe 4 or 5 of them my entire life. Because I didn't care if I got spanked. I learned by the second one that it hurt for maybe 2 minutes, and then I could go right back to whatever I was doing.

[b]
Which is why a lot of parents use things like belts, brushes etc. It gives you a physical reminder (a whelt or bruise) of why you got spanked in the first place[b]

OohTeenyWahine
I'm a product of spankings, the belt, and the popular rubber slipper (in Hawai`i those black flip flops were more convenient than the belt)...

I laugh because my best bud from highschool who is Filipina used to get that also and she and I would compare spanking note and laugh all day long. She lives in Hawai'i now and has two kids. Yeah, the memories.

I'm for spanking, under the right circumstances.

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally posted by starang21
wow...to even consider taking on a parental.

Same here. If I even lifted my arm to block the belt or paddle, I would get it worse. To even atempt to raise a hand at her? I wouldnt be here to talk about it.

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally posted by MaMaBuddha
words in bold deeply emphasized and spelled that way for a reason

spank 'em. that is why these kids is so darn dispectful now. why, i grew up back in the day whyere i grew up. my neighbor could whup my ass, if i was doin' sumthin' wrong. i had to be in the when the street lights came on. i couldn't sass back to nun of the grown folk. i always had to say yes ma'am or no suh !!!

i think one time my grandma threw a shoe at me 'cause i sucked my teeth!!!

that time out stuff don't work!! i wish they had time out in my day. lil johnny and lil suzie got it so lucky, right now!

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally posted by starang21
wow...to even consider taking on a parental.

That was the last time my parents ever hit me.

When I was bad, I used to get a beating. I was hit several times in the head and I mean hard. Sometimes it was closed fist sometimes it was open hand. But I was get the head, the face, the back, the bottom, the chest. Whatever was closer to my father would get hit and that was usually the head. I was threatened to be thrown through walls, doors, windows, etc.

Do I consider myself abused. No. I was only ever hit when I was bad and that wasn't very often, but it was a beating.
But you can be damned sure that if I'm old enough and big enough if my parents ever hit me now I would defend myself.

If kids start hitting back, it's time to find another method of punishment because spanking doesn't work.