"The New Wife" according to the New York Post

Originally posted by AXO_MOM_3
It can happen if you prepare for it and are willing to give up some things. (Unless, of course, you are married to one of those men who makes $800,000 per year!)
If it something you want, work to stay debt-free and put some money into savings for a rainy day. For most, it just boils down to what and how much you are willing and able to sacrifice.

Great post! I plan to be a stay at home mom, and my fiance and I have been learning to live on one income already, so that we can be more prepared when the baby comes. We live off his income and mine gets saved/used for paying off debts. We feel that by not getting ourselves in over our head now, we'll be much better prepared for living off one income once we start a family.

Me continuing to work after having a child was not something we considered to be an option.

[Lady Pi Phi]

I think these kinds of women that are discussed in this article are kidding themselves. They think they're going to have 4-7 kids (like one woman in the article said she wanted) and stay at home and look beautiful all day long and have time to shop and have coffee with her girlfriends and go to the spa all day long...yeah right! Not bloodly likely!
My aunt is a stay at home mum. Her husband has his own business. She has 3 kids with #4 on the way (due in september). She homeschools her kids, help with her husbands business, helps out with her church, does the grocery shopping, pays the bills, etc, etc...do you think she has time to do things for herself? NO!
Where do these women think they will find the time to shop at Barney's and go to the gym and lunch with the girls, while they are busy making lunches for their 4-7 kids, sending them off to school, doing the grocery shopping, making dinner, paying bills, picking their kids up from school, taking them to soccer practice and piano lessons? These women have no idea!
Being a stay-at-home mum is great if that's what you want to do. But it's a full time job in itself.
I just think these "New Wives" are living in a dream world.

[ZTAngel]

Have you all ever read the book "The Nanny Diaries"? It's a satire of the elite, rich moms in NYC. I could see these women being one of those moms. They have the time to shop, hang out with friends, go to spas, and play tennis because they've hired a nanny, maid, and personal assistant.

[Taualumna]

Originally posted by Munchkin03


Nightingale, in my opinion, seemed more of a finishing school. Knowing a lot of alums, it seems almost natural that at least one would have the aim of being a Wife.

It seems to me that you have a problem with their lifestyle. Yes, they're probably imagining things...even the women I know who have nannies at home have stuff to do other than shopping and hanging out with their girlfriends...but I don't see anything wrong with it if it is their choice. I really don't like it when the only reaction a girl gets when she says she "just wants to be married" is "that's very nice, dear". It just sounds so...cold.

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally posted by Taualumna
It seems to me that you have a problem with their lifestyle. Yes, they're probably imagining things...even the women I know who have nannies at home have stuff to do other than shopping and hanging out with their girlfriends...but I don't see anything wrong with it if it is their choice. I really don't like it when the only reaction a girl gets when she says she "just wants to be married" is "that's very nice, dear". It just sounds so...cold.

Stay at home mums aren't the only ones that get "attitude". How many working mums have to hear, oh you should be at home with the kids, taking care of your husband, a woman's place is in the home...blah, blah, blah, etc, etc.

It just seems that no matter what a woman chooses it's wrong.

[Taualumna]

Originally posted by Lady Pi Phi
Stay at home mums aren't the only ones that get "attitude". How many working mums have to hear, oh you should be at home with the kids, taking care of your husband, a woman's place is in the home...blah, blah, blah, etc, etc.

It just seems that no matter what a woman chooses it's wrong.

Trust me, it isn't nearly as cold if you choose to work than if you are a stay-at-home mom. At least in my neck of the woods.

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally posted by Taualumna
Trust me, it isn't nearly as cold if you choose to work than if you are a stay-at-home mom. At least in my neck of the woods.

No, I disagree...it can be just as cold for working mums...it depends on how you take it...some people are more sensitive than others, working mums don't have it any better or worse than stay at home mums, it all depends on the person.

[33girl]

These girls who say "I will this and that before I am so and so age" make me think of the saying "You know how to make God laugh...tell him your plans."

[Rudey]

Originally posted by 33girl
These girls who say "I will this and that before I am so and so age" make me think of the saying "You know how to make God laugh...tell him your plans."

You've doomed them to unplanned pregnancies.

-Rudey
--I hope you're happy.

[Taualumna]

Originally posted by Lady Pi Phi
No, I disagree...it can be just as cold for working mums...it depends on how you take it...some people are more sensitive than others, working mums don't have it any better or worse than stay at home mums, it all depends on the person.

But the message that girls' schools tend to give their students is "go out and work". My high school has tons and tons of seminars and workshops given by women in different fields. Never has there been one on homemaking. In fact, they abolished Family Studies from the middle school curriculum some time in the 1970s. They expect you to go to university and then find a career, not a job is married or until one has a baby. That's the message that they give you.

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally posted by Taualumna
But the message that girls' schools tend to give their students is "go out and work". My high school has tons and tons of seminars and workshops given by women in different fields. Never has there been one on homemaking. In fact, they abolished Family Studies from the middle school curriculum some time in the 1970s. They expect you to go to university and then find a career, not a job is married or until one has a baby. That's the message that they give you.

I don't know where you went to school but they didn't abolish family studies in the 1970's. I took it in grade 7 and 8 and I was in elementary school in 1990's.

[Rudey]

Is it bad that I want my wife to have an advanced degree from a top 10 school and then to be a stay at home mom?

-Rudey

[mu_agd]

Originally posted by Taualumna
But the message that girls' schools tend to give their students is "go out and work". My high school has tons and tons of seminars and workshops given by women in different fields. Never has there been one on homemaking. In fact, they abolished Family Studies from the middle school curriculum some time in the 1970s. They expect you to go to university and then find a career, not a job is married or until one has a baby. That's the message that they give you.

that may be true in canada, but not in the us. it was mandatory for us to take home ec classes in middle school and they were offered as electives in my high school.

[33girl]

Originally posted by Rudey
You've doomed them to unplanned pregnancies.

-Rudey
--I hope you're happy.

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You bet I am.

33girl, crusher of dreams

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally posted by mu_agd
that may be true in canada, but not in the us. it was mandatory for us to take home ec classes in middle school and they were offered as electives in my high school.

I don't think that's true in Canada. Maybe within her school boared, but not in Toronto.

I took family studies (home ec) in grade 7 and 8. Many highschools with in the Toronto district school board offered family studies courses as elective also. They still do.