Joining a sorority and then transferring - Page 3

Cluey · #1 07-26-2002, 01:24 AM

My sister transfered after being initiated, but it had nothing to do with not wanting to be with her original sisters. In fact, a year after she joined, the chapter was closed (small numbers or something like that). She decided to try to reaffiliate with another chapter after she transfered schools. They couldn't allow her to, because of the total chapter limits in place or something like that(this was at a large, southern state university).

It's at this same university that I rushed my freshman year. Out of my rush group, 5 out of 25 girls ended up getting bids. The rest of us ended up dropping out.

I think that most people don't fully realize the pressure that is put on girls who rush at the larger state universities, especially those in the southern United States. There are not nearly enough spots available, sometimes not even HALF the number. I'm not saying it's right to initiate at a smaller college and then transfer, but I can see how they think it is the easy way out. In my opinion, most of the larger state universities need more sororities, but that's just my two cents.

dggirly · #2 07-26-2002, 01:33 AM

The one thing I did want to clear up though is that not everyone who affiliates at other schools is doing it because the chapter is better there. We have a bunch of girls(like 5) affiliating with our chapter in the fall. And I know that these girls are not just affiliating because they wanted to be a DG on my campus. They all have been in their chapters for over a year and one even has a sister who we initiated with out even knwing she was a legacy. And that is actually why she is transfering, to be with her sister. The girl who is transfering was initated before her sister and we pledged her sister without even knowing she was a leg. So i am sure if we would have pledged her sister we would have pledged her too. But then again we have meet all the girls transfering and even if one of them is transfering just to be a DG at my school we would have bid her anyways because we met all the girls and well they are wonderful and are going to be great additions to my chapter. Like someone else said these girls are my sister no matter what chapter they were initated in they are DG's. And i can only speak for my chapter but as long as the girl is in good financial standing and the chapter of her initiation had not problems with her we let her in. We were told this is how we are supposed to do it. But then again we have never had a girl try to affiliate that we could not see in my chapter.

On another note. I took offence to the coments made about DG's at other schools not being so good. Now I understand that ever Organization has great chapters and not so great chapters but there is a reason that each girl chooses a certain sorority. I just do not feel that people on here should be saying negative things about other sororities. I mean maybe the reasons I choose DG were very superficial, but people choose for other reasons. And even if you mean no harm from what you are saying it could definatly hurt someones feelings, esspecially someone from the house you are talking about. And I just want people to remember that when talking about a national sorority there are many different chapter with many differnet types of girls, so try to not generalize and say we see XYZ as the "ugly girls". Plus who is to say who is attractice or not. Differnet parts of the country do consider certain looks more or less attractive. I guess my point is try not talking crap about houses, it is just not nice. You would never tell someone to their face that they are the house with the ugly girls or guys so why would you say that here!!!

sailorchicDG · #3 07-26-2002, 10:05 PM

As a sister of Delta Gamma on UNF campus, i'm appalled by your blatent, if not intentional, disrespect of our chapter. Maybe you weren't trying to be malicious, but it sounded exactly like that.

Like others have said, you have no way of knowing the inner workings of our bidding and new member period. I would like to think that before a chapter initiates a new member they take the time to get to know the person. I feel that I would be able to recognize the type of person that would do something as low as rushing with an alterior motive. I believe that someone that would do these type of things would not meet our criteria.

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Well DG here isn't the best sorority on campus as far as good looking girls, but at UF....DAMN!

It's funny how you compliment DG on having the best sisterhood after you get flamed for first disrespecting us like this. Nice attempt at saving face. You said yourself that you don't really associate with any sisters currently; that you're more of a AXO and ZTA guy now. So, whatever you know about our sisterhood is based on what... hearsay? I am more likely to accept a compliment like that from someone who actually communicates with us on more than a Homecoming/ Greek Week/ Intramural level.

I appreciate your bringing this topic to light, but I feel that you should stick to what you know. No offense but you're a guy and don't know what it's like to go through women's formal recruitment or new member period.

SailorchicDG
Delta Gamma
Eta Delta Chapter

CarolinaDG · #4 07-26-2002, 10:50 PM

Ok, so I haven't quite run out of things to say... maybe it's because you are talking about my SISTERS, though!

The thing is, yeah, there are going to be chapters with different reputations, and I've said this many times before. Harvard has an incredibly wonderful DG chapter based on leadership and intelligence, while USC (in Cali) had a MOVIE based on their chapter because they're the beautiful stereo-typical sorority girls (and, might I add, both chapters win awards at convention!). The thing is, and maybe fraternities don't have this as much as sororities, but our chapters mix... a LOT. Our ATC and faculty advisor are both from different chapters (Gamma Zeta and Gamma Alpha). We hold founder's day with Furman and Clemson. All chapters trade t-shirts and talk online! We have the same rituals, the same history, and sometimes even the same problems. Delta Gamma, as a whole, is one of the strongest national female fraternities around. And I love to be one. So, I really don't like the fact that my sisters are being bad-mouthed right now. Because they are just that... MY SISTERS. Even though I may have never met them, we've gone through the same things, and that makes our bonds special. Sorry for the cheese, but just had to put that in.

AlphaSigLana · #5 07-27-2002, 11:27 AM

Well I am transferring, but they don't have my chapter at my new school which is okay with me. I would hate to be from the South-- sounds like it is all about money and looks. SO on both those counts I would have been cut right away.

sorryileft · #6 09-17-2008, 09:40 PM

I'm wondering, if you have voluntarily resigned from sorority at a college (because the chapter was getting a very bad rep.) then later transfer to a larger school, can you "rejoin" that sorority?

#7 09-17-2008, 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by sorryileft

I'm wondering, if you have voluntarily resigned from sorority at a college (because the chapter was getting a very bad rep.) then later transfer to a larger school, can you "rejoin" that sorority?

You would need to check with your HQ. If you left chapter #1 and was not in good standing, you may need to take steps to reinstate yourself before you consider affiliation.

There are also chapters out there who say straight up that they don't take transfer members wishing to affiliate. (ETA: I think it's funny that the OP mentioned the UNF DG who rushed at UNF knowing that she was going to affiliate with UF DG. Only it's been said by many here on GC that the UF DG chapter does not take in affiliates. Based on the OP's history of pulling things out of his ass, I'm sure this was the case 6 years ago, only we didn't know it back then.)

It all depends, but your HQ would know for sure.

Xidelt · #8 09-17-2008, 09:48 PM

No matter the reason, once you resign from an npc, it is final. You may not rejoin. Contact hq to see if there is an appeals process to reinstate membership.

CrackerBarrel · #9 09-17-2008, 10:12 PM

UNFSigmaChi - I've got lots of friends at Florida and from what I hear your chapter isn't exactly the greatest around and I'm pretty sure there are (or were?) some of your guys that affiliated at UF where EX is a top 3 house. I wouldn't throw stones in this case if I were you.

#10 09-17-2008, 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by CrackerBarrel

UNFSigmaChi - I've got lots of friends at Florida and from what I hear your chapter isn't exactly the greatest around and I'm pretty sure there are (or were?) some of your guys that affiliated at UF where EX is a top 3 house. I wouldn't throw stones in this case if I were you.

CB Dear, the OP started this thread in 2002 and hasn't posted since 2003.

CrackerBarrel · #11 09-17-2008, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by OTW

CB Dear, the OP started this thread in 2002 and hasn't posted since 2003.

Well thank you, I saw there were posts today and I kinda wondered how a thread this long happened without me seeing it, that kinda explains it.

EE-BO · #12 09-17-2008, 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by OTW

CB Dear, the OP started this thread in 2002 and hasn't posted since 2003.

Oh damn. I just wasted 15 minutes of my life reading it before I saw this.

Amusing stuff anyway. At Texas, attempts at this kind of thing happen all the time. But there are absolutely no guarantees of reaffiliating- so it is always a risky move. Speaking for my chapter, I think on average we decline 50% of attempted reaffiliations- it was like that in my day as an active, and about the same now (and as an advisor I advocate very careful vetting of anyone seeking to reaffiliate.)

baci · #13 09-18-2008, 01:43 PM

Call me clueless, but I really did not think young ladies did this just to be part of a sorority of supposed "top tier standing".

I recall a transfer coming into my group and we never had a vote. She definitely was not a "fit" in our group and probably would not have been chosen had she gone through recruitment. What I do remember, she was welcomed with open arms and she was truly the absolute nicest young woman. She was a sister and of course she was forever a part of our group.

I am so saddened that people stoop this low now. It ruins it for the young women who transfer for all the proper reasons (whatever they may be) and then, they can't affiliate. It stinks!

texas*princess · #14 09-20-2008, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by baci

Call me clueless, but I really did not think young ladies did this just to be part of a sorority of supposed "top tier standing".

I recall a transfer coming into my group and we never had a vote. She definitely was not a "fit" in our group and probably would not have been chosen had she gone through recruitment. What I do remember, she was welcomed with open arms and she was truly the absolute nicest young woman. She was a sister and of course she was forever a part of our group.

I am so saddened that people stoop this low now. It ruins it for the young women who transfer for all the proper reasons (whatever they may be) and then, they can't affiliate. It stinks!

You'd be surprised how often this happens....

5Knowledge1913 · #15 09-20-2008, 11:01 AM

Well, I joined my sorority and then transferred the next school year because I could not afford to remain at the school I attended. I would much rather transfer than drop out! I am still quite active in my sorority, too.

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Originally Posted by UNFSigmaChi

Ok one thing that I hate is when girls(and sometimes this happens in fraternities too) rush a sorority just to get initiated and then transfer to a much larger school to affiliate with the chapter there because they know they wouldn't get a bid at the larger school. Why on earth would the person do this and why would the sorority allow them to pledge if they know its going to happen. This past fall a girl rushed Delta Gamma and got a bid, went through her new membership and got initiated. Well, everyone knew she was transferring to UF this fall but allowed her to become a sister anyways. Well DG here isn't the best sorority on campus as far as good looking girls, but at UF....DAMN! And she even admitted to joining DG at UNF just to affiliate with the "hot girl" sorority at UF. Why would a sorority allow this girl to become a sister if they knew this, and second, why would you want to affiliate with a sorority that when they obviously see you come fall, know that you won't fit in because your not in the "in" crowd. Are girls doing this, just that naive or what????? Help me out sorority girls!!!! :-)