Would you pledge a sorority known for dirty rushing?

[FSUZeta]

Please remove the info about your family that you posted. Too identifiable.

[Titchou]

I still don't have a problem even with your added explanation. ONLY graduates were at the party so it was a GRADUATION party. The type and amount of food is irrelevant. At home, we would have probably had a crawfish boil...which can be quite the event. I still believe you are over thinking this. But, it is your choice. If you want to mark these people at the bottom of your ranking, it's certainly your right.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Titchou

I still don't have a problem even with your added explanation. ONLY graduates were at the party so it was a GRADUATION party.

Wait, really? I understand this might be a regional difference, but a sorority throwing a party for recent grads is suspect, to me.

[Titchou]

The alum had the party......she issued the invitation to only female graduates...not female graduates signed up for recruitment - just female graduates...though I'm sure the OP will come back with one more clarification to make it all fall in line better...which screams troll....

[ConfettiCupcake]

Originally Posted by Titchou

The alum had the party......she issued the invitation to only female graduates...not female graduates signed up for recruitment - just female graduates...though I'm sure the OP will come back with one more clarification to make it all fall in line better...which screams troll....

I totally agree. I am a junior and nothing about this girl sounds like me or my sisters or friends. No one I know talks like this. This is a mom or a troll or a momtroll!!! So weird.

[Griffins&Quills]

It kind of seems like one of the pre-recruitment teas some chapters are known to host, at least to me. Not what I would call dirty rushing, though plenty of the PHC rules make me roll my eyes anyways....i.e. can only have cut fruit instead of fruit scooped by a melon baller because not everyone can afford a melon baller (even though they're like $5 at Walmart )

[Griffins&Quills]

TBH, I think you need to forget about this party and any others you may go to before recruitment actually happens. And by forget about I mean, stop letting it weigh so heavily on your conscious. Wait until recruitment starts, see how you feel at houses, see where you get invited back, and go where you feel most comfortable. Period end. Unless you're blatantly trying to screw PNMs over, 'dirty rushing' and a lot of the PHC rules (see melon baller example above) don't really matter.

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by Griffins&Quills

TBH, I think you need to forget about this party and any others you may go to before recruitment actually happens. And by forget about I mean, stop letting it weigh so heavily on your conscious. Wait until recruitment starts, see how you feel at houses, see where you get invited back, and go where you feel most comfortable. Period end. Unless you're blatantly trying to screw PNMs over, 'dirty rushing' and a lot of the PHC rules (see melon baller example above) don't really matter.

^^^^^^^

[Size_Small]

Originally Posted by Griffins&Quills

TBH, I think you need to forget about this party and any others you may go to before recruitment actually happens. And by forget about I mean, stop letting it weigh so heavily on your conscious. Wait until recruitment starts, see how you feel at houses, see where you get invited back, and go where you feel most comfortable. Period end. Unless you're blatantly trying to screw PNMs over, 'dirty rushing' and a lot of the PHC rules (see melon baller example above) don't really matter.

Yes, you're right. I actually meant to end everything back at post #19 where I said I'd do essentially what you just advised here! However, someone asked about the recruitment party, I responded, and the whole circus started up again. Like I've said in post #19, I'll go into recruitment with an open heart, and if I ever get the chance to choose, I'll "choose" the one that I love the most, regardless of its flaws.

On principle, breaking rules (even if I benefit) matters to me (except when it comes to the aesthetics of fruit.

Trust me, I don't speak "like this" either. Speaking and writing are two very separate things. Don't I wish I had the ability to think on a response for 10 minutes and make use of a backspace IRL!

[shadokat]

Titchou, I agree with what 33girl is saying. What if she's going to a school with 5 sororities, and all 5 are going to have some sort of this pre-rush soiree. If she declines them all, they may wonder if she's at all serious about joining. We don't know the culture (ok, I don't know the culture). So now she's shot herself in the foot for any chance of joining on her campus, all because she didn't attend these pre-rush parties? I will never understand the south and sororities.

Also, as much as she's been called a troll or a mom or a momtroll or throwing shade, she has brought up something that I never heard of and I thought was interesting and worth discussing, and I'm not the only one who had that opinion, as this thread is 4 pages long. I am glad she has decided to stop posting and I hope whatever she does, she's happy with her decision. But maybe we, myself included, can all ease up a little to learn something new!

[IndianaSigKap]

Originally Posted by Size_Small

Hello ladies of GC!

I will be attending an SEC university in the fall, and while it does not have a crazy Alabama-like competitive rush, it's not a cake walk either.

Originally Posted by shadokat

Titchou, I agree with what 33girl is saying. What if she's going to a school with 5 sororities, and all 5 are going to have some sort of this pre-rush soiree.

There is no SEC school with only 5 sororities as far as I know, and I feel fairly safe in saying that if even one or two or a small handful of chapters on any given campus do sponsor events like she has described, not every chapter would do so.

[navane]

Originally Posted by shadokat

Titchou, I agree with what 33girl is saying. What if she's going to a school with 5 sororities, and all 5 are going to have some sort of this pre-rush soiree. If she declines them all, they may wonder if she's at all serious about joining. We don't know the culture (ok, I don't know the culture). So now she's shot herself in the foot for any chance of joining on her campus, all because she didn't attend these pre-rush parties? I will never understand the south and sororities.

Tagging on to what you said - if all 5 sororities are holding pre-rush soirees, then is it really "dirty rushing"? Or is a party only "dirty" if the refreshments are nicer than the ones served at another sorority's event?

Originally Posted by choabet

I love this thread so much I have come out of hibernation. This is so clearly a mom with an ax to grind. So dear OP, back away from the keyboard. Your daughter is going to be mortally embarrassed at a minimum or singled out during recruitment as a result. You are digging in deep.

Oy, before I had read all of the new posts in the thread, I too began to think to myself that the OP sounded like a mom posing as the daughter. If so, then I don't understand why she would be so wrapped up in worry about "dirty rushing" by one particular alum or sorority. The only thing I can think of (wildly speculating) would be that mom is a sorority member and she's upset that another sorority is putting on the ritz for pre-rush parties. Or, if not in a sorority, then she's just confused and weirded out about how sorority life operates. OP, if you are a high school girl, then yes I agree with the others that the way you "speak" online sounds "different" and that may stand out at recruitment.

<shrug> This whole thread seems odd to me.

For my part, nothing that the OP has described, from the 4-course meal to the light discussions on "I hope we will see you on bid day" and "Oh, Suzy sister is also an accounting major too!", sounds "dirty" to me. Going to a graduation party and having someone's mom order a catered lunch is not considered a recruitment infraction for purchasing a meal for a PNM.

OP, I kindly state that you seem to be over-thinking about the graduation party and seem to be grossly misunderstanding both the spirit and letter of recruitment rules. Like another member said, if you feel that the sorority members' actions have pushed the boundaries and that those behaviors are in conflict with your personal values and your personal interpretation of recruitment rules, by all means, you have the right to mark this particular sorority down as the lowest rank on your card each night of recruitment and/or not accept a bid from them if offered. Just go with the flow on each day of recruitment and keep that open mind. Good luck.

[irishpipes]

Parties like those described are common where I live. Not every group does that kind of unofficial pre-rushing by alums, but a handful do, and they are all prestigious groups in this area.

[choabet]

I love this thread so much I have come out of hibernation. This is so clearly a
mom with an ax to grind. So dear OP, back away from the keyboard. Your daughter is going to be mortally embarrassed at a minimum or singled out during recruitment as a result. You are digging in deep.

[als463]

Originally Posted by choabet

I love this thread so much I have come out of hibernation. This is so clearly a
mom with an ax to grind. So dear OP, back away from the keyboard. Your daughter is going to be mortally embarrassed at a minimum or singled out during recruitment as a result. You are digging in deep.

Agreed. Any chapter that gets this girl in recruitment is probably going to have a real trouble maker on their hands.