Why Rejected from a Sorority? - Page 3

Libertylove · #1 09-24-2011, 05:59 PM

No recs are not required for us.

I have talked to many girls, many rushed their sophomore years because they were hesitant their freshmen year.

FleurGirl · #2 09-26-2011, 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Libertylove

No recs are not required for us.

I have talked to many girls, many rushed their sophomore years because they were hesitant their freshmen year.

Just because recs are "not required" at your school doesn't mean that you don't need them. On some campuses not having a rec might as well = getting dropped right off the bat.

If you're school is on this list or otherwise mentioned here, that may have been a major factor.
http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...t=schools+recs

Libertylove · #3 09-24-2011, 06:00 PM

When I refer to IFC, I am referring to the sororities that are on the United Greek Council and are not Panhel Sororities

Titchou · #4 09-24-2011, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Libertylove

When I refer to IFC, I am referring to the sororities that are on the United Greek Council and are not Panhel Sororities

Since you are obviously new to all this, I'm cutting you some slack. IFC stands for InterFraternity Council. So United Greek Council might have IFC under it but as a female you are not eligible for membership in IFC fraternities.

33girl · #5 09-24-2011, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Libertylove

When I refer to IFC, I am referring to the sororities that are on the United Greek Council and are not Panhel Sororities

OK. Then that's UGC, not IFC. IFC is boys. Are these UGC sororities local or are they culturally based? or both?

IrishLake · #6 09-24-2011, 06:07 PM

As materialistic as it sounds, it could very well have been your shoes. Granted we don't know what campus you're at, but even at places with very casual first rounds, tennis shoes worn by a PNM should be a no-no.

Old_Row · #7 09-24-2011, 06:17 PM

I get it now.

Ugly shoes + fat = rush killer

Was that the kind of answer you were looking for?

KSUViolet06 · #8 09-24-2011, 06:32 PM

Here's a good read for you:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...t=Conversation

You've addressed a lot of "tangibles" that make someone desireable in recruitment. This thread touches on the topic of an important "intangible" --- Conversation.

Lots of times women will go down the "checklist" of tangible things like: "I had recs, am in 4 clubs, and had a 4.0. Why didn't I get a bid?" Those things are only a part of the process. A lot depends on how one comes across in conversation.

I obviously wasn't THERE to see how your conversations were during recruitment and I don't know why you didn't get a bid, but it is something to think about.

Libertylove · #9 09-24-2011, 06:40 PM

I was looking for honesty, we were actually asked to dress casually and comfortably so that is the only thing I would question but, I suppose that is the answer.

Libertylove · #10 09-24-2011, 06:41 PM

UGC is culturally based for us.

KSUViolet06 · #11 09-24-2011, 06:46 PM

Question: how can we be honest about something we know nothing about?

We don't know you. We don't know your school. We don't know the membership selection criteria for the chapters at your school. We weren't there.

I really am having a tough time understanding what it is that you're looking for people to tell you.

All we can do is offer some "maybes" but no one knows for certain.

KDCat · #12 09-24-2011, 07:56 PM

OP, we're not being coy. We don't know. We've never met you. We haven't seen your information. We didn't see you at rush. We weren't in any of the membership meetings where you were cut. Women get cut for a lot of reasons, and it's always specific to that woman. We don't know.

BTW, recs are references from sorority members or alumnae. They are required by some sororities. At some school, it is not possible to get a bid if you don't have them. The fact that you don't know what one is means that you didn't do even a basic amount of research or preparation before recruitment.

I'm sorry it didn't work out for you.

greekdee · #13 09-24-2011, 07:59 PM

Libertylove -- as you know by now, we can't tell you why you got cut, but people have been generous in offering you possibilities. The thing is, you can drive yourself crazy trying to determine an answer.

As said, GPA and lack of recs are the two most common reasons someone is released (cut by everyone) early in the recruitment process. You have ruled out GPA with your 3.9, and if you're absolutely certain the sororities did not require recs, you can scratch that one off the list too. I will add, tho, some girls still secure recs even if they aren't required. They can't hurt, so just something to think about if you decide to go through formal recruitment again.

I still think sophomore standing might have worked against you. I know you said other girls pledged as sophomores and that may be the case -- but were they transfers like you? Many times (not always) girls who pledge as sophomores have campus involvement under their belts and have gotten to know some women in sororities. As a transfer student new to your campus, you did not have those things going for you.

If you still want to be in a sorority, my advice is to get out there -- get involved on campus, meet sorority women and show them why you would be a great asset to Greek Life.

P.S. I just saw what KDCat said about recs -- she has a good point about you not knowing what they were. ARE YOU SURE THEY WERE NOT NEEDED? They are at a lot of schools, not just the big SEC schools. I've done recs for girls rushing at schools that, like yours, had six or less sororities.

Libertylove · #14 09-24-2011, 11:09 PM

So those of you that are yelling at me and saying that there is no way you would know, I obviously know that so please stop, no need for that.

For those of you that have tried to help me and give me some idea of reasons why I would be rejected thank you, I appreciate your input and suggestions it has given me a better idea of what it takes.

All I was looking for people to tell me is an idea of maybe why girls haven't gotten into your own sororities, input like that to help someone like me out. I wasn't looking for anything else so please cool it. I gave my feedback of how different things probably wouldn't be the case, example my high GPA just to get more information on what else it could be. Some of you are being very obnoxious about this, if this forum is annoying you so much I really don't know why you are still posting to my question and frankly, I don't really want you to be.

Well after careful research, including calling the Greek Life office at my school it seems that we do not need recs. I am planning on attempting to rush again in the spring so maybe I'll learn more then.

thetalady · #15 09-24-2011, 11:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Libertylove

Well after careful research, including calling the Greek Life office at my school it seems that we do not need recs. I am planning on attempting to rush again in the spring so maybe I'll learn more then.

It has been said before, but all we can do is guess since we know nothing about your particular university... Regardless of what your Greek Life office may say, many sororities require letters of recommendation in order to offer a bid to a potential new member.