Sorority De-pledge/Re-rush?

[DeltaBetaBaby]

I just want to point out that your pledge sisters just got to college and are partying. That doesn't mean they won't settle down in a month or two (when midterms hit, perhaps?).

[33girl]

There have been silly movie/tv fantasies about Greeks ever since the dawn of time. What there hasn't been is people wanting to quit because they weren't BFFs with their whole chapter in 2.5 seconds after they got their bid. I know I've said this before, but the whole "you don't have to EARN membership, you are already a sister" mindset I think sets PNMs up to feel this way.

[als463]

Originally Posted by soonersweetie

i didn't mean to come off so badly. i really apologize if i did. i was just wondering if anyone had advice. i love my chapter, i just don't know if it's the right fit for me personally. it's still a spectacular group of people.

Well, you DID come off badly. It looks like you are bashing a group of women who were willing to take a chance on you. You want to go through rush, again? Make an effort to change the chapter around instead of assuming you will get in somewhere else. With such a poor attitude, please do these ladies a favor and just drop.

*What's up with all these new members being so self-absorbed as if their GLOs even owe them anything? Isn't it, you get what you put in?

[wavycutchip]

I think that unless you are considering transferring, it would be best to stick in out in your current house if you want to be a member of a sorority. I am sure that there are some girls in the house that party less and are more serious about school. And you never know, people do change and could become your best friends in a year or two. Hang in there, and enjoy Norman!

[FleurGirl]

There are always girls in every chapter who party, girls who like to study, and girls who are in the middle. Think about what most of the girls in your chapter are studying too -- if there are a lot of science/engineering/anything else where students tend to have lower GPAs in your chapter, chances are that the chapter GPA will be lower than another chapter with girls who are studying communications or something where GPAs tend to be higher. (I'm not saying that any majors are easier or harder than others, just saying that from my experience physics majors tend to have lower GPAs than comm majors.) If your chapter GPA is something that worries you, think about what you can do to change that. Can you tutor girls in anything? Get together study groups? Rather than just being mad about it and dropping, try and change it.

[AOEforme]

Originally Posted by FleurGirl

There are always girls in every chapter who party, girls who like to study, and girls who are in the middle. Think about what most of the girls in your chapter are studying too -- if there are a lot of science/engineering/anything else where students tend to have lower GPAs in your chapter, chances are that the chapter GPA will be lower than another chapter with girls who are studying communications or something where GPAs tend to be higher. (I'm not saying that any majors are easier or harder than others, just saying that from my experience physics majors tend to have lower GPAs than comm majors.) If your chapter GPA is something that worries you, think about what you can do to change that. Can you tutor girls in anything? Get together study groups? Rather than just being mad about it and dropping, try and change it.

Cosign. My chapter was ranked quite low in GPA last year and it wasn't because we didn't value academics.

I'll also cosign on the fact that it took me a while to get to know girls in my pledge class and become close friends with them. It's hard.

There was also a girl in one of the recent classes who always talked about getting drunk, partying, and going out, so much so that it was brought up to me as a complaint (when I was President). Her grades were exceedingly high and there were no facebook pictures of her drinking, so she hadn't violated the RMP. Still, I was curious so I texted her that Friday night to see what she was doing. She was in her dorm, studying.

She had been so concerned with appearing "cool" she constantly talked about partying, drinking, boys, and everything else so people would like her.

You may find this to be the case in your class!

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

Expecting an 18 year old college kid to always act maturely will always result in disappointment. She should not give up all hope of being Greek.

Pretty sad that you expect such poor behavior from my generation. Some of us actually do have the class not to air our dirty laundry out in public.

And you know she shouldn't give up hope of being Greek because you have intimate knowledge of what's happening in the OU sororities right now?

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

Pretty sad that you expect such poor behavior from my generation.

She's not the only one.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

Pretty sad that you expect such poor behavior from my generation. Some of us actually do have the class not to air our dirty laundry out in public.

And you know she shouldn't give up hope of being Greek because you have intimate knowledge of what's happening in the OU sororities right now?

Congratulations, but again, 18 year olds do not always make smart decisions. I expect everyone to make mistakes, but for teenagers to make more of them than adults.

I know she shouldn't give up hope of being Greek because she is currently in a sorority and can easily make the best of it instead of dropping. I vehemently disagree that she should just "quit now and give up any desire of being Greek". That's a bad attitude. She can easily learn, grow, and become an active contributing member.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

Congratulations, but again, 18 year olds do not always make smart decisions. I expect everyone to make mistakes, but for teenagers to make more of them than adults.

I know she shouldn't give up hope of being Greek because she is currently in a sorority and can easily make the best of it instead of dropping. I vehemently disagree that she should just "quit now and give up any desire of being Greek". That's a bad attitude. She can easily learn, grow, and become an active contributing member.

Yawn.

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

Congratulations, but again, 18 year olds do not always make smart decisions. I expect everyone to make mistakes, but for teenagers to make more of them than adults.

I know she shouldn't give up hope of being Greek because she is currently in a sorority and can easily make the best of it instead of dropping. I vehemently disagree that she should just "quit now and give up any desire of being Greek". That's a bad attitude. She can easily learn, grow, and become an active contributing member.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

See my other posts. I frequently point out it isn't "unicorns pissing rainbows", but there's no reason she can't turn into a contributing member. It isn't warm fuzzies at all times, but it IS supposed to have good mixed in with the bad, you know.

[KSUViolet06]

For what it's worth, I didn't see Alumiyum's post as "go ahead and drop out because you still have another chance at being Greek."

I think she meant "you're better off stcking it out because this is probaby the only chance you have to be part of the Greek system, so make the best of it."

At least that's what I took from it.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

For what it's worth, I didn't see Alumiyum's post as "go ahead and drop out because you still have another chance at being Greek."

I think she meant "you're better off stcking it out because this is probaby the only chance you have to be part of the Greek system, so make the best of it."

At least that's what I took from it.

Either way, she's pissing rainbows about a campus and specific situation that she knows nothing about. As usual.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

Either way, she's pissing rainbows about a campus and specific situation that she knows nothing about. As usual.

Un-knot your panties. I don't care what school she goes to, there's no need to de-pledge only because she doesn't connect perfectly with her pledge class. That's a waste both for her and the chapter when she can learn an important lesson...making friends takes a lot of work and potentially give a lot back to the chapter. If that's pissing rainbows, why the hell do any of us pay good money to go greek? It's supposed to be more than a social club.

And unless you know this chick, you're being a very negative nancy about "a specific situation you know nothing about".