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Sorority De-pledge/Re-rush?

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Originally Posted by soonersweetie (Post 1989005)

I'm a freshman at a big University where sorority recruitment is a pretty big deal. I rushed this year, and was disappointed in the choices that I had left for pref night. My Rho G's encouraged me to give the two houses a shot, and I ended up in a house that seemed like it could end up being a good fit. I decided to give it a try, and to see how I felt later on.

Well, it's now a week before initiation and I really don't feel like this house is the perfect fit for me. The girls in my pledge class are all so different that there seems to be no way we can all come together as a group. I haven't really connected with any of the girls, although I have tried to get to know them. Don't get me wrong, they're all very nice. I just don't have any sort of friend connection with hardly any of them. Most of the girls in the house are really hard partiers, which isn't really me. I don't want to be grouped into a category with girls who have such different values. The house has the lowest GPA on campus, which is something that really bothers me. These reasons and more are making me consider dropping. If my heart isn't completely in something that's such a time and money commitment, I'd rather not be involved with it.

But the thing is, I really want to be in a sorority!! The whole sorority thing matches my personality so well, I just didn't find the right house the first time around. Is there any chance at all that I would be able to make it into a house rushing next year? I already accepted a bid, not to mention rushed last year... and I'll be a sophomore. All cards will be against me, but is there any chance that I'd be able to make it into a more fitting house?
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I know the only reason I'd be staying in the house would be because I'm so intimidated by the statistics. I've been told that it will be very very hard to get into a house I want next year. But I've always followed the quote "Don't let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game." So, I don't know... Any advice?

Why Gee, I don't know. What did the people on Yahoo!Answers say?:rolleyes:

it sounds like you have given this a try and a lot of thought. i have a feeling you already know your chances rushing next year, so you need to make up your mind.

did you have recs. to all the chapters at OU?

what do you attribute your recruitment outcome to?

Can you change that/those things?

Something to think about with respect to rushing twice:

Rushing again does not guarantee a better/different result the 2nd time around. You may not end up getting invites to these other chapters you think you might fit better with.

There is also the possibility that you could rush again, and end up not in a sorority at all. Is that something you'd be okay with, or would you end up regretting your decision to drop out?

Also, it may be a tough road for you anyhow just being a sophomore. There are schools at which sophomores just don't have the same chances as freshmen.

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Originally Posted by soonersweetie (Post 1989011)

they said absolutely nothing at all!

Is that why the question was deleted?

your sister is an active executive officer of her chapter at her school and at some point during your recruitment you were not invited back to the chapter at your school, one that i know is usually one of the more popular chapters with pnms. that does not bode well for joining that chapter at your school next year, but i can't predict the future.

your sisters affiliation could have had an effect on your invitations to other chapters, but that is not going to change.

how was your gpa?

how was your resume?

did you know girls in the sororities beforehand?

how are your looks? Did you dress appropriately for your shape and did you look put together everyday? Were you dressed similarly to the other pnms everyday?

Other chapters typically don't share who they cut with other groups. So they aren't going to know that you were cut from X, Y, and Z.

Without a doubt you will be viewed as damaged goods at OU and you've already been given essentially your only shot at being Greek. Especially now that you've called out and embarrassed your chapter all over the intarwebz. You really should quit now and give up any desire to be Greek because you lack the loyalty, discretion, honor and class to be a lifelong member of a sisterhood.

You got a bid to a chapter you weren't crazy about. You pledged, and made some effort to get to know the sisters and your pledge sisters. This is a good thing - many PNMs would have dropped out when they received disappointing pref invites.

But if you're getting close to initiation and you're still feeling uncomfortable, perhaps the best thing is to depledge. This is a decision only you can make, and the deadline is quickly approaching - once you're initiated into an NPC sorority you can never join another.

If you do depledge, you can always re-rush next fall, but the cards will be stacked against you:
- You will be a sophomore, with only 3 years instead of 4 to contribute as an active.
- Everyone will know that you got a bid the previous year and depledged. People are going to be thinking, "She depledged XYZ last year, what's to say she wouldn't depledge from our chapter this year if we gave her a bid?"
- You will have to attend at least one party at your current chapter. It'll be awkward at best.

So, when you make your decision whether to depledge, keep in mind that it may mean you will never go greek.

BTW, being obese won't keep you from being invited back / offered a bid. Being obese and trying to squeeze yourself into a size 2 dress, however, might.

I think the NPC agreement would keep you from rushing next fall. If you break your pledge, you may not be asked to pledge another sorority on that campus for one calendar year from the date of her original pledging.

That would mean formal recruitment would probably be impossible next fall.

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Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush (Post 1989025)

In addition, if someone really wanted to snoop, they could probably find out who she is based on the information she gave here.

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Originally Posted by TXalum1 (Post 1989029)

Generally, "one year" is considered from one rush to the next, so she would be able to, unless her campus has a rule to the contrary.