PNM's and future college facebook groups caution!

[abbeydae]

do you think I should say something to her? if she writes that kind of stuff on facebook, I can only imagine what she says in person. I don't want her to tell another PNM (or even worse, an active!) that "me and abbeydae are rushing XYZ!"

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by abbeydae

do you think I should say something to her? if she writes that kind of stuff on facebook, I can only imagine what she says in person. I don't want her to tell another PNM (or even worse, an active!) that "me and abbeydae are rushing XYZ!"

My opinion:

If you can do it without coming off bitchy or as a know-it-all, then please do.

It's best for her to hear it from another PNM (and maybe be a little miffed that you said that) than to say something dumb to a sorority member and have it jeopardize her chances.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by abbeydae

do you think I should say something to her? if she writes that kind of stuff on facebook, I can only imagine what she says in person. I don't want her to tell another PNM (or even worse, an active!) that "me and abbeydae are rushing XYZ!"

YES. Just find a way to do it nicely. I would go with something like, "We really need to keep our options open so let's not talk about which sorority is our favorite in public." And make it clear that you are open to SEVERAL chapters and do NOT have a favorite yet as you haven't met them all (even if that's not true...it's a white lie and that way she will be less likely to involve you if she does slip up). People always respond better to "we" than "you".

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by AXOmom

However, I went to a roommate's survey (curious to see what housing everyone wanted this year), and it asked, among other things, whether or not they were going to pledge and, if so, WHERE they intended to pledge. Yeah, it asked them where. There were several who answered, "Yes, and I'm going to pledge XYZ."

I just think it would be awesome for someone to go up to clueless PNM at ABC's first round and say "Oh. We didn't expect to see you here. We all read on Facebook how you're going to pledge XYZ. So b-bye now."

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

I just think it would be awesome for someone to go up to clueless PNM at ABC's first round and say "Oh. We didn't expect to see you here. We all read on Facebook how you're going to pledge XYZ. So b-bye now."

I've been so tempted to do that before I swear it was physically painful to say "Hi! I'm ____, I'm so glad to meet you!" instead.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

I just think it would be awesome for someone to go up to clueless PNM at ABC's first round and say "Oh. We didn't expect to see you here. We all read on Facebook how you're going to pledge XYZ. So b-bye now."

priceless!

[KSUViolet06]

It's funny because sometimes I think that PNMs think "sorority members shouldn't be FB stalking us anyway" [yes, I've heard that].

It's not stalking. It's Facebook.

These women go to your school and you have a public FB profile. They don't have to DO anything to get to that information. It's just there. lol.

I've heard the same thing from folks who get fired/reprimanded by an employer based on FB. It's always "my employer shouldn't be stalking me on FB."

Nope. Not stalking if you put it out there publicly.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

It's funny because sometimes I think that PNMs think "sorority members shouldn't be FB stalking us anyway" [yes, I've heard that].

It's not stalking. It's Facebook.

These women go to your school and you have a public FB profile. They don't have to DO anything to get to that information. It's just there. lol.

I've heard the same thing from folks who get fired/reprimanded by an employer based on FB. It's always "my employer shouldn't be stalking me on FB."

Nope. Not stalking if you put it out there publicly.

Why don't people get this? Especially when they leave their profile information open to the public.

Not to mention, they'd better get used to it. Depending on the chapter/campus their sorority could be monitoring their facebook pages just like their future employers. Girls in my chapter were asked to remove pictures/posts deemed inappropriate pretty frequently.

I always kept my facebook pretty clean, but when my parents got facebook I very quickly made it PG. That was a wake up call.

[Parfait]

It's been said over and over again, but it's fairly important: Even if your page is set to private, your fan pages/interests/groups may still be public. Also it's good to occasionally go through and check your privacy settings because sometimes they are changed.

Just imagine you apply for a job and your possible future employer sees that you don't get drunk, you get awesome. Perhaps you like going to work on Mondays hungover or there's a not-so-lovely photo of you in lingerie as your profile picture. That's not exactly the impression you want to give. . . Or maybe you do and that's fine, perhaps it will give your employer a chance to hire someone who s/he feels is more suitable. It may not be fair, but that's life.

[littleowl33]

I'm a little late to this thread, but has anyone else seen PNMs posting on your group's national facebook page asking for recs? I was checking out the national KKG fan page today and there are quite a few girls going through recruitment at various schools begging for recs on there. Most of the requests are polite and well-written, but the whole thing just seems pretty tacky to me and many of these girls have non-private profiles. There are 20,200+ alums and actives who follow the Kappa fan page! Our national director of membership has been politely responding to each one to say recs are the chapter's responsibility, but it blows me away that these girls continue to publicly post these things.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by littleowl33

I'm a little late to this thread, but has anyone else seen PNMs posting on your group's national facebook page asking for recs? I was checking out the national KKG fan page today and there are quite a few girls going through recruitment at various schools begging for recs on there. Most of the requests are polite and well-written, but the whole thing just seems pretty tacky to me and many of these girls have non-private profiles. There are 20,200+ alums and actives who follow the Kappa fan page! Our national director of membership has been politely responding to each one to say recs are the chapter's responsibility, but it blows me away that these girls continue to publicly post these things.

Not on ours, but I have ventured to other groups' FB pages and seen folks asking for recs. I consider FB rec-begging to be as much of a no-no as aking here. They all seem to be from certain schools too.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Not on ours, but I have ventured to other groups' FB pages and seen folks asking for recs. I consider FB rec-begging to be as much of a no-no as aking here. They all seem to be from certain schools too.

I think sororities really need to get on the ball with FB and make their pages (or at least posting and wall privileges) private for members only. I randomly went to Theta's page and saw not only rec requests but other inappropriate posts by men and other non-members.

Seriously...this isht isn't hard to do.

[ThetaPrincess24]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I think sororities really need to get on the ball with FB and make their pages (or at least posting and wall privileges) private for members only. I randomly went to Theta's page and saw not only rec requests but other inappropriate posts by men and other non-members.

Seriously...this isht isn't hard to do.

WHAT!?!? I'm going to check that out myself!

[Barbie's_Rush]

PNM Facebooks are even funnier than most of the recruitment packets that get sent in. I can guarantee you that if there's anything even remotely inappropriate or stupid on your Facebook especially if it's completely opposite from the image you're projecting in your recruitment packet, the chapters at your school already have a nickname for you.

[DrPhil]

The publically viewable fan pages is how I'm able to see what my teenage family members are up to. I'm also happy when I can see what profile photo they have up and their friends list. Gotta keep track of the kids even when you aren't on their friends list.