PNM's and future college facebook groups caution!

[abbeydae]

I'm not sure if this is the right place to put this question, but it's regarding facebook and recruitment.

I met this girl at orientation and we discovered that we had a mutal friend (who happens to be an XYZ) and we are both going through recruitment, so we added each other on facebook. Yesterday was her birthday so I wrote a birthday message on her wall. She wrote this on my wall:
"thank u so much girl! u excited for rush?? get pumped! XYZ PC10!!!!!"

I deleted it off my wall, was that the right thing to do? I'm friends with girls from other houses and I didn't want them to thing I'm biased.

Your thoughts?

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by abbeydae

Your thoughts?

I think you did the right thing. You can delete anything you want from your wall. That's why there's an edit option. If she asks why you deleted it (she may never notice and it may be unimportant to her if she does notice) just tell her that you tend to clean your wall from time to time, nothing personal.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by abbeydae

I'm not sure if this is the right place to put this question, but it's regarding facebook and recruitment.

I met this girl at orientation and we discovered that we had a mutal friend (who happens to be an XYZ) and we are both going through recruitment, so we added each other on facebook. Yesterday was her birthday so I wrote a birthday message on her wall. She wrote this on my wall:
"thank u so much girl! u excited for rush?? get pumped! XYZ PC10!!!!!"

I deleted it off my wall, was that the right thing to do? I'm friends with girls from other houses and I didn't want them to thing I'm biased.

Your thoughts?

Good call.

You don't want other chapters to think you're biased, and you also don't want any XYZs to see that. It's offensive to a chapter when girls post things like that and they have yet to go through recruitment. I mean, until you have that bid in your hand, you're not an XYZ. Who knows? XYZ could cut her the first night.

[33girl]

You did absolutely the right thing as far as you are concerned, and may have saved her butt in the process as well. Super good call.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by abbeydae

I'm not sure if this is the right place to put this question, but it's regarding facebook and recruitment.

I met this girl at orientation and we discovered that we had a mutal friend (who happens to be an XYZ) and we are both going through recruitment, so we added each other on facebook. Yesterday was her birthday so I wrote a birthday message on her wall. She wrote this on my wall:
"thank u so much girl! u excited for rush?? get pumped! XYZ PC10!!!!!"

I deleted it off my wall, was that the right thing to do? I'm friends with girls from other houses and I didn't want them to thing I'm biased.

Your thoughts?

You just did both of you a huge favor. Not only could it possibly have an effect on your interactions with the other sororities, it could seriously piss off XYZ. PNM's who ASSume they will be joining a certain chapter often get passed over because their sorority of choice doesn't appreciate a girl who thinks she's the shiznit. But then, no one does.

If she notices you deleted it you might want to throw her a bone by repeating that advice in a tactful way. She might hurt her chances with XYZ if she keeps that up.