Rush - What to NOT do or say

[beccaminister]

Here are my best pieces of advice for someone going through recruitment.

• Don't be afraid to be yourself. If you are yourself and you don't fit in at a certain GLO, then you don't fit in there and you WON'T fit in there for the next 4 years.
• When the girls ask "What did you do this summer?", that is their way of asking about money...those with money talk about travels and beaches. those who dont' talk about their jobs. Be honest, but know that this is what they are really asking. On the "other side", don't ask this question unless you are being genuinely interested. And if the girl says, "I worked", then don't freak out. At one GLO I went to, the girl literally turned up her nose at me. At the one I eventually joined, they said "where did you work" i replied, "McDonalds" and they went and found TWO of their sisters who also worked at McD's. I knew that I'd fit in there because there were hardworking girls that didn't turn their noses up at those who work.
• Be careful about what you wear and how you do your hair. Look at the other girls in your rush group. If you are over dressed, wearing more make-up, under dressed, or wearing your hair too causual, adjust it for the next time.
• Seriously, if it's after labor day don't wear white-- especially if you are rushing in the south. The girls DO talk about it.
• Don't be rude. I'll never forget one girl who went through and who was so rude that she was dropped from all 4 groups the first night. If you don't want to go through, don't waste your time or anyone else's.
• If you do not intend to accept a bid, don't rush. Seriosuly, "I'm just rushing to meet people" is not fair. If you are at a school with small quotas, you've just screwed someone out of a bid.
• Smile. Seriously....all night. Smile.
• Clever ways to remember your name are a great idea. No one could pronounce my name when I went through so I had a clever little way to introduce myself and when I pledged ALL of the actives already knew who I was thanks to that.

I know I've probably reiterated what most people have said, but just my 2 cents worth.

Most of all to everyone-- have fun. If it isn't fun, it isn't for you.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by beccaminister

Here are my best pieces of advice for someone going through recruitment.

[*]When the girls ask "What did you do this summer?", that is their way of asking about money...those with money talk about travels and beaches. those who dont' talk about their jobs. Be honest, but know that this is what they are really asking. On the "other side", don't ask this question unless you are being genuinely interested.

Yeah this is a big generalization. It may be true for your school, but I know that most of the time, they're asking because they WANT TO KNOW.

Originally Posted by beccaminister

If you are at a school with small quotas, you've just screwed someone out of a bid.

Ok, this is not true. Quota is set by thr number of girls who attend preference. So whether women drop out of rush or not, it doesn't "screw someone out of a bid."

[beccaminister]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Ok, this is not true. Quota is set by thr number of girls who attend preference. So whether women drop out of rush or not, it doesn't "screw someone out of a bid."

Yes...the number of girls who attend pref. But if you attend pref without intending to take a bid, aren't you screwing someone out of a bid?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by beccaminister

Yes...the number of girls who attend pref. But if you attend pref without intending to take a bid, aren't you screwing someone out of a bid?

Well, you do change the bid list, so you *could* affect whether someone else gets a bid or not. It's not likely.

[jwright25]

Originally Posted by beccaminister

Yes...the number of girls who attend pref. But if you attend pref without intending to take a bid, aren't you screwing someone out of a bid?

Maybe a long time ago, but not any more. At most schools, women who maximize their options after Preference are placed. There are exceptions - such as Indiana where Quota is based on the number of open beds in the chapter house.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by beccaminister

Yes...the number of girls who attend pref. But if you attend pref without intending to take a bid, aren't you screwing someone out of a bid?

No, they can always get an open bid or snap bid.

In my experience, the "I'm just rushing to meet people" people don't go the whole way through pref, however YMMV.

[agzg]

I would say don't wear white pants period, before or after Labor Day.

Seriously. I don't want to know what brand undies you wear, and so many white pants/dresses/skirts are not lined. I don't care if you're wearing "nude" undies - chances are we can probably still see them.

Bra straps aren't cool, either. Cover up and wear appropriate foundation garments, people!

[beccaminister]

Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam

I would say don't wear white pants period, before or after Labor Day.

Seriously. I don't want to know what brand undies you wear, and so many white pants/dresses/skirts are not lined. I don't care if you're wearing "nude" undies - chances are we can probably still see them.

Bra straps aren't cool, either. Cover up and wear appropriate foundation garments, people!

A slip is a seriously underrated garment.

[tina93]

Hey, I am really lost and confussed. I want to attend rush this semester, but the paperwork that is requested, such as recommendations and community involvement proof, ....is all this info needed before rush , or will the rush meeting inform you of the paperwork that you will need to turn in and when??? what actually takes place at rush..I am so confussed and I dont want to ask the other lady's on campus about what is needed nor do i want to ask the ladys that I AM FRIENDS WITH, who are actually apart of the chapter. ...please help anyone.... I know that rush is in about 2 weeks, so if I need to have these documents before rush then i need to get them like yesterday. I have went to the website and it really does not explain when this paperwork is due...before rush, during rush, or after the rush????? help clear the clutter in my brain, PLEASE! ..........and do you think its okay for me to ask the member who is my fiiend....because she has know idea that Iam interested.

Originally Posted by tina93

Hey, I am really lost and confussed. I want to attend rush this semester, but the paperwork that is requested, such as recommendations and community involvement proof, ....is all this info needed before rush , or will the rush meeting inform you of the paperwork that you will need to turn in and when??? what actually takes place at rush..I am so confussed and I dont want to ask the other lady's on campus about what is needed nor do i want to ask the ladys that I AM FRIENDS WITH, who are actually apart of the chapter. ...please help anyone.... I know that rush is in about 2 weeks, so if I need to have these documents before rush then i need to get them like yesterday. I have went to the website and it really does not explain when this paperwork is due...before rush, during rush, or after the rush????? help clear the clutter in my brain, PLEASE! ..........and do you think its okay for me to ask the member who is my fiiend....because she has know idea that Iam interested.

First, it's C-O-N-F-U-S-E-D. One S.

Recommendations and resumes are generally reviewed well before rush, so that chapters have enough time to get to know the PNM on paper. Sending them in after recruitment's pointless. You don't send in a job application after you interview for a job.

The fact that you didn't even bother to let your friend know of your interest is like shooting yourself in the foot. Most normal people ask for help from people they know in real life first instead of asking strangers on a message board who may or may not be familiar with rush at your campus.

[tina93]

The reason why I didnt let the friend know is because I have another friend at a different historically black college and she is President of her chapter. She was the one who informed me that I should keep my interest confidential and for my not to approach members that I am friends with because she said it is looked down apon. As for me not having my paper work together, the chapter at my school did not follow protocal for posting the rush dates early. They posted it on a Tuesday and Rush was four days later on that Friday so that is why I was confused about the paper work and process.This forum is supposed to be helpful but I HAVE FOUND THAT it disccourages instead of informing.....thanks for nothing. I gues I dont want to join if your own greek people cant even follow their RUles that are posted on the organizations web site.

Originally Posted by tina93

The reason why I didnt let the friend know is because I have another friend at a different historically black college and she is President of her chapter. She was the one who informed me that I should keep my interest confidential and for my not to approach members that I am friends with because she said it is looked down apon. As for me not having my paper work together, the chapter at my school did not follow protocal for posting the rush dates early. They posted it on a Tuesday and Rush was four days later on that Friday so that is why I was confused about the paper work and process.This forum is supposed to be helpful but I HAVE FOUND THAT it disccourages instead of informing.....thanks for nothing. I gues I dont want to join if your own greek people cant even follow their RUles that are posted on the organizations web site.

1. So why are you making your interest public on a message board?

2. Waaaaah.

3. What organizations' website? Cite your source, please.

[IlovemyAKA]

Originally Posted by OTW

1. So why are you making your interest public on a message board?

2. Waaaaah.

3. What organizations' website? Cite your source, please.

She's speaking on NPHC. Personally, I didn't wait for a poster to tell me to be prepared. I had already researched eligibilty requirements on the sorority's national site, and knew what I would need prior to the poster's announcement. If she wants to babied and spoon-fed, she's in the wrong place. Members of GC are not at fault because she did not prepare herself.

ETA: I just went back and saw her 1st post. If she knew 2 weeks ahead of time, why was she not prepared? She says that she went to the site, and saw what she needed. Why not begin preparing those documents instead of waiting for someone to tell you when to do it?

I'm with OTW: Waaaaah

[als463]

Originally Posted by tina93

The reason why I didnt let the friend know is because I have another friend at a different historically black college and she is President of her chapter. She was the one who informed me that I should keep my interest confidential and for my not to approach members that I am friends with because she said it is looked down apon. As for me not having my paper work together, the chapter at my school did not follow protocal for posting the rush dates early. They posted it on a Tuesday and Rush was four days later on that Friday so that is why I was confused about the paper work and process.This forum is supposed to be helpful but I HAVE FOUND THAT it disccourages instead of informing.....thanks for nothing. I gues I dont want to join if your own greek people cant even follow their RUles that are posted on the organizations web site.

Maybe you should worry about SCHOOL before anything else. When your grammar is this atrocious, sorority membership should be the least of your worries. If your writing is any indication of your academic achievement-chances are that most organizations would be better off not allowing you to pledge.

[als463]

Originally Posted by tina93

Hey, I am really lost and confussed. I want to attend rush this semester, but the paperwork that is requested, such as recommendations and community involvement proof, ....is all this info needed before rush , or will the rush meeting inform you of the paperwork that you will need to turn in and when??? what actually takes place at rush..I am so confussed and I dont want to ask the other lady's on campus about what is needed nor do i want to ask the ladys that I AM FRIENDS WITH, who are actually apart of the chapter. ...please help anyone.... I know that rush is in about 2 weeks, so if I need to have these documents before rush then i need to get them like yesterday. I have went to the website and it really does not explain when this paperwork is due...before rush, during rush, or after the rush????? help clear the clutter in my brain, PLEASE! ..........and do you think its okay for me to ask the member who is my fiiend....because she has know idea that Iam interested.

Another point of interest is that it is: I have gone (not, I have went). Little things like speaking proper grammar can make or break you when going through rush. I find it hard to believe you are this passionate about wanting to go Greek-yet, you wait until 2 weeks prior to rush in order to ask for help. The point that you should speak with people who are in the chapter that you may be friends with is very valid and you should have asked these questions weeks ago.

In this day and age where getting information about recruitment is at your fingertips-there is absolutely NO EXCUSE to be this confused. Call the office of Greek Life or check out the website. If you don't know the website, go to Google and type in STATE UNIVERSITY (obviously YOUR university) Greek Life-that should help you out! Good Luck!