What do you feel like saying, right now?

[AGDee]

House hunting sucks. I remember now why I've stayed in the same house for 24 years.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by AGDee

House hunting sucks. I remember now why I've stayed in the same house for 24 years.

Is your post really about what I think it is?

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Is your post really about what I think it is?

Yes, I'm getting my house ready to sell, which sucks and we've been looking at houses everywhere between Portage (south of Kalamazoo) to Grand Rapids. I'm already tired of it. LOL

But tomorrow we leave for Mackinac Island, where he was supposed to propose on our sunset Sip N Sail cruise.

[*winter*]

Originally Posted by AGDee

House hunting sucks. I remember now why I've stayed in the same house for 24 years.

Congrats in advance! It’s certainly a different world than when I bought my first house in 2007.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by carnation

Right. Nothing happened even though it was so well known that the student senate frequently discussed it and how we could stop it, but we were helpless.

Then he got elected as governor.

Yep. That’s pretty much how it works. Unfortunately.

Originally Posted by AGDee

Yes, I'm getting my house ready to sell, which sucks and we've been looking at houses everywhere between Portage (south of Kalamazoo) to Grand Rapids. I'm already tired of it. LOL

But tomorrow we leave for Mackinac Island, where he was supposed to propose on our sunset Sip N Sail cruise.

So, you’re both selling your houses and buying one together, right?

Have fun, Dee. I’m so happy for you.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Oh, it’s exactly like that, Phrozen. And let me be crystal clear, I meant every word I said. There’s no walking it back when the truth is standing on a pile of bodies.

These people plotted to kidnap the governor of Michigan. They murdered two elected officials right here in Minnesota. They beat Paul Pelosi with a hammer in his own home. They stormed the U.S. Capitol, smeared feces on the walls, beat police officers, and then call themselves “law and order”, and “back the blue”, brought zip ties and gallows, and openly called for hanging the Vice President, and then had the audacity to call themselves patriots. You have got to be kidding me.

And yet… they’re still here. Still bold. Still loud. Still walking free.

Meanwhile, the peaceful ones, the voices of actual integrity are the ones who get assassinated. The truth tellers. The peacemakers. The ones who actually tried to make this country better. They’re the ones who end up dead.

But the liars? The cowards? The predators and propagandists? They thrive. They fundraise. They get book deals and TV time. Oh, and did I mention they win elections?

So yeah, this is what you get from me now. I’m done softening it. If my mouth gets nasty when I talk about evil, it’s because evil never whispers, it shouts. It marches. It kills. And I’m not going to sit quietly while it smiles in a suit.

And this isn’t about politics. This is about a country where morality is disposable and violence gets rewarded, as long as it wraps itself in the right slogan.

And if you need proof of everything I just said?

We elected an asshole who should be in prison. But he’s not. He campaigned and won.

That’s the system. That’s the sickness. You can traffic girls, incite violence, try to overthrow the government, and still get a motorcade and a fanbase. Because in this country, evil isn’t just tolerated. It’s elevated.

So no, I’m not “too angry.” I’m exactly as angry as the moment demands.

End of story.
And I’m not sorry.
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CG can spot the bullshit a mile away Lol.

Did you see these?
https://youtu.be/jWaXAic_MZs?si=yVx6uZ8eWB_H3Mvt

https://youtu.be/pSAwo11A3Z4?si=0fR5cPGQR7osjdA4

Originally Posted by carnation

Right. Nothing happened even though it was so well known that the student senate frequently discussed it and how we could stop it, but we were helpless.

Then he got elected as governor.

Slick Willy tried to hit on you too, didn’t he, carnation?

[carnation]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Slick Willy tried to hit on you too, didn’t he, carnation?

LOL! No! I didn't even know who they were talking about until near the end of the school year. Student Senate meetings were in the law building, where he taught, and some other women and I passed this tall guy with springy reddish hair. One of them nudged me and said, "That's the law professor we've been discussing all year in senate."

[XAntoftheSkyX]

Any of y'all have to deal with a relative at a wedding you don't particularly like?

I'm finalizing the guest list for my ceremony and I got word that a relative of mine has RSVP'd to the wedding whom I am not a fan of. They aren't related by blood, and their immediate family that are blood-related to me are fine, even pleasant. But the person in question always has some snide or snippy comment to make about anything they don't like or approve of. They have already made asinine comments about my tattoos (which are all easily covered and I have to cover them at work or at the gym here) and other life choices I've made.

I got asked in not so many words to invite them and their immediate family because of family I do like and care about. It would have been inconsiderate to not invite them, but the family member wanting to invite them seems inconsiderate to me and other family members that have had a problem with them in the past.

What's done is done, but does anyone have ideas for any damage control? If I hear anything about their behavior I feel like I will crash out and dump all of the opinions I have of them that have been brewing for the last couple of decades.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by XAntoftheSkyX

Any of y'all have to deal with a relative at a wedding you don't particularly like?

I'm finalizing the guest list for my ceremony and I got word that a relative of mine has RSVP'd to the wedding whom I am not a fan of. They aren't related by blood, and their immediate family that are blood-related to me are fine, even pleasant. But the person in question always has some snide or snippy comment to make about anything they don't like or approve of. They have already made asinine comments about my tattoos (which are all easily covered and I have to cover them at work or at the gym here) and other life choices I've made.

I got asked in not so many words to invite them and their immediate family because of family I do like and care about. It would have been inconsiderate to not invite them, but the family member wanting to invite them seems inconsiderate to me and other family members that have had a problem with them in the past.

What's done is done, but does anyone have ideas for any damage control? If I hear anything about their behavior I feel like I will crash out and dump all of the opinions I have of them that have been brewing for the last couple of decades.

Yeah, I almost had to deal with this. Here’s the thing, man, weddings will bring out the best and worst in people. You’re creating a sacred moment, and some folks show up acting like it’s open mic night for their unsolicited opinions. In those situations, the challenge is protecting your peace without setting off a grenade at your own celebration.

I’d just say (in kind) you don’t want them there. Or if you’re me, be firm with conviction and just tell them they’re not invited. Period. But if you already invited them and it’s too late to change it, the best advice I can give is to not give them power. You know who they are. You know how they operate. So nothing they say or do should surprise you. That awareness gives you control, so they can’t ruin what you’ve already prepared yourself for.

Also, delegate. Have someone in your corner (best man, sibling, cousin you trust) keep an eye on them. Quietly. That way if they start crossing lines, it doesn’t fall on you to deal with it in the moment. You’re not there to manage personalities, you’re there to get married.

And if they say something slick, just smile, nod, and walk away. Not every jab deserves a reply. You win by not letting them pull you out of character on your big day. Be the version of yourself your spouse fell in love with, not the version some bitter relative tried to drag out.

Like I said, I almost had to deal with this myself with a cousin of mine. But I didn’t invite her. Didn’t even let it leak I was getting married in a way she’d find out. I already knew how she would act, so I cut that drama off at the root. Easiest call I made during wedding planning. Peace over petty, every time.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by XAntoftheSkyX

Any of y'all have to deal with a relative at a wedding you don't particularly like?

I'm finalizing the guest list for my ceremony and I got word that a relative of mine has RSVP'd to the wedding whom I am not a fan of. They aren't related by blood, and their immediate family that are blood-related to me are fine, even pleasant. But the person in question always has some snide or snippy comment to make about anything they don't like or approve of. They have already made asinine comments about my tattoos (which are all easily covered and I have to cover them at work or at the gym here) and other life choices I've made.

I got asked in not so many words to invite them and their immediate family because of family I do like and care about. It would have been inconsiderate to not invite them, but the family member wanting to invite them seems inconsiderate to me and other family members that have had a problem with them in the past.

What's done is done, but does anyone have ideas for any damage control? If I hear anything about their behavior I feel like I will crash out and dump all of the opinions I have of them that have been brewing for the last couple of decades.

I agree with PB. Just don’t invite them. The hell with them.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Yeah, I almost had to deal with this. Here’s the thing, man, weddings will bring out the best and worst in people. You’re creating a sacred moment, and some folks show up acting like it’s open mic night for their unsolicited opinions. In those situations, the challenge is protecting your peace without setting off a grenade at your own celebration.

I’d just say (in kind) you don’t want them there. Or if you’re me, be firm with conviction and just tell them they’re not invited. Period. But if you already invited them and it’s too late to change it, the best advice I can give is to not give them power. You know who they are. You know how they operate. So nothing they say or do should surprise you. That awareness gives you control, so they can’t ruin what you’ve already prepared yourself for.

Also, delegate. Have someone in your corner (best man, sibling, cousin you trust) keep an eye on them. Quietly. That way if they start crossing lines, it doesn’t fall on you to deal with it in the moment. You’re not there to manage personalities, you’re there to get married.

And if they say something slick, just smile, nod, and walk away. Not every jab deserves a reply. You win by not letting them pull you out of character on your big day. Be the version of yourself your spouse fell in love with, not the version some bitter relative tried to drag out.

Like I said, I almost had to deal with this myself with a cousin of mine. But I didn’t invite her. Didn’t even let it leak I was getting married in a way she’d find out. I already knew how she would act, so I cut that drama off at the root. Easiest call I made during wedding planning. Peace over petty, every time.

What happened with your cousin? Not trying to get all up in your business, just curious about the story.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

What happened with your cousin? Not trying to get all up in your business, just curious about the story.

Let’s just say I’ve always been more low-key and selective about who I let into my space. Back when I was in college, she made comments about me behind my back to my mom, implying something was “wrong” with me because I wasn’t socializing at a nightclub she wanted to go to while she was visiting. Like that’s the gold standard for mental health. 😂

She was in town from out of state and wanted to hit a club. You know me, that kind of circus isn’t my scene. I wasn’t even old enough to get in, but they let me through anyway. I didn’t say two words to any of those clowns in there. She took issue with that. Always has something to say about people who don’t align with whatever she happens to enjoy.

I’m not into loud rooms full of strangers pretending to vibe while chasing attention and cheap dopamine. If that’s her thing, cool, but don’t pathologize people who don’t need the noise to feel whole. That told me everything I needed to know about how she sees people, and I’ve kept my distance ever since.

And with the way our wedding and reception blended my culture and my wife’s, I already know she’d have something to say, maybe not to me, but definitely to someone else. And I know me, if I ever caught wind that she said anything sideways about my wife or her culture, she’d be getting a phone call that day. When someone crosses a line with my family, my self-control exits the room. Fast.

So no, she didn’t get an invite. Some people just don’t qualify for front-row seats to my peace.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

[I][COLOR="darkred"]So you weren’t committed, but still dishonest. Bruh… that’s not better. That’s just diet infidelity. Phroze up in here treating cheating like it’s a punch card. “Fifth one’s free if you weren’t married”. That’s like saying you only stole from stores you didn’t like. 😂

LMAO! I just saw this. I wouldn’t be that way if I was a married dude.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Let’s just say I’ve always been more low-key and selective about who I let into my space. Back when I was in college, she made comments about me behind my back to my mom, implying something was “wrong” with me because I wasn’t socializing at a nightclub she wanted to go to while she was visiting. Like that’s the gold standard for mental health. 😂

She was in town from out of state and wanted to hit a club. You know me, that kind of circus isn’t my scene. I wasn’t even old enough to get in, but they let me through anyway. I didn’t say two words to any of those clowns in there. She took issue with that. Always has something to say about people who don’t align with whatever she happens to enjoy.

I’m not into loud rooms full of strangers pretending to vibe while chasing attention and cheap dopamine. If that’s her thing, cool, but don’t pathologize people who don’t need the noise to feel whole. That told me everything I needed to know about how she sees people, and I’ve kept my distance ever since.

And with the way our wedding and reception blended my culture and my wife’s, I already know she’d have something to say, maybe not to me, but definitely to someone else. And I know me, if I ever caught wind that she said anything sideways about my wife or her culture, she’d be getting a phone call that day. When someone crosses a line with my family, my self-control exits the room. Fast.

So no, she didn’t get an invite. Some people just don’t qualify for front-row seats to my peace.

PB, you’re a unicorn, bro Lol.

[XAntoftheSkyX]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Yeah, I almost had to deal with this. Here’s the thing, man, weddings will bring out the best and worst in people. You’re creating a sacred moment, and some folks show up acting like it’s open mic night for their unsolicited opinions. In those situations, the challenge is protecting your peace without setting off a grenade at your own celebration.

I’d just say (in kind) you don’t want them there. Or if you’re me, be firm with conviction and just tell them they’re not invited. Period. But if you already invited them and it’s too late to change it, the best advice I can give is to not give them power. You know who they are. You know how they operate. So nothing they say or do should surprise you. That awareness gives you control, so they can’t ruin what you’ve already prepared yourself for.

Also, delegate. Have someone in your corner (best man, sibling, cousin you trust) keep an eye on them. Quietly. That way if they start crossing lines, it doesn’t fall on you to deal with it in the moment. You’re not there to manage personalities, you’re there to get married.

And if they say something slick, just smile, nod, and walk away. Not every jab deserves a reply. You win by not letting them pull you out of character on your big day. Be the version of yourself your spouse fell in love with, not the version some bitter relative tried to drag out.

Like I said, I almost had to deal with this myself with a cousin of mine. But I didn’t invite her. Didn’t even let it leak I was getting married in a way she’d find out. I already knew how she would act, so I cut that drama off at the root. Easiest call I made during wedding planning. Peace over petty, every time.

Yeah family dynamics kind of forced my hand. Said family member is related (by marriage) to my mom's side of the family and since my mom's side of the family is much smaller than my dad's, my grandma (mom's mom) would have felt a type of way about that. The relative in question, while can be snarky, has had a long history of it and my mom's family are all aware of it. Thankfully she is sometimes inconsistent with her comments so I may just dodge my way through an awkward event.

They have been invited and confirmed the RSVP recently. I'm just hoping with all the planning and logistics, plus herding my in-laws from Japan I'll be too busy to hear or notice anything uncouth.

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

I agree with PB. Just don’t invite them. The hell with them.

Like I said with PB, that die has been cast already.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

PB, you’re a unicorn, bro Lol.

I saw this earlier but didn’t respond because I don’t even know what this means. GC has had a history of posting unicorns with rainbows shooting out the back, and everyone who knows my posts and/or me IRL and my history on here knows my stance and convictions on “the rainbow”. I don’t think that’s what you meant, but it was the first thing that crossed my mind. Not laughing.

Originally Posted by XAntoftheSkyX

Yeah family dynamics kind of forced my hand. Said family member is related (by marriage) to my mom's side of the family and since my mom's side of the family is much smaller than my dad's, my grandma (mom's mom) would have felt a type of way about that. The relative in question, while can be snarky, has had a long history of it and my mom's family are all aware of it. Thankfully she is sometimes inconsistent with her comments so I may just dodge my way through an awkward event.

They have been invited and confirmed the RSVP recently. I'm just hoping with all the planning and logistics, plus herding my in-laws from Japan I'll be too busy to hear or notice anything uncouth.
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Yeah, I get it. Family pressure is real, especially when you’re trying to keep the peace for the older generation. Just don’t forget your peace still matters in the middle of all that diplomacy, man.

You’re not wrong for hoping it goes smooth. But if it doesn’t, just remember you didn’t create that energy. She did. You’re not responsible for filtering your entire wedding experience through her unpredictability.

Keep someone close who can help buffer or pull her aside if she gets slick. That way you stay focused on the real moment of you and your wife stepping into something sacred.

And if she crosses a line, you’ve got every right to protect your space. RSVP or not, no one gets a free pass to disturb your peace. Just putting that out there.

[XAntoftheSkyX]

Originally Posted by XAntoftheSkyX

Yeah family dynamics kind of forced my hand. Said family member is related (by marriage) to my mom's side of the family and since my mom's side of the family is much smaller than my dad's, my grandma (mom's mom) would have felt a type of way about that. The relative in question, while can be snarky, has had a long history of it and my mom's family are all aware of it. Thankfully she is sometimes inconsistent with her comments so I may just dodge my way through an awkward event.

So funnily enough, said family members came, had 0 issues, and were the most generous by far with offering to pay for things/their wedding gift/etc.

Everything that week was perfect, so I can't complain at all.