So why can't ex lovers remain friends?

[HeavenslilAngel]

So me and my ex met our freshman year in college. We knew each other like 2 years and were like brother and sister. So we decided to try dating. Well I saw him more as a brother than a boyfriend, I was HEAVILY involved with ASA and we had exceptionally different relgious backgrounds. So we ended up breaking up. He has since distanced himself from me consideribly and I moved 4 hours away. He now has a wife that he met on the internet that does not even have a GED, and after like 6-7 years he still is like a semester or 2 from graduating undergrad. I've had a Masters degree almost 2 years now and graduated 3 years ago from my undergrad. In reference to the physical appearances that are turn offs, he has a very pronounced unibrow and bad teeth. Oh and I saw him at a wedding like last year and he gained weight with his new chick. We are still civil but not as close as we were. I feel sorry for him because I know I and other other potential chicks could be better; but I have too much else to think about and do in my own life and it has been like 2-3 years so I don't obsess over it any longer. I'm just single and ready to mingle and stay busy in the process.

[Animate]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

Yes they can if the maturity level is there. Depends on the circumstances.

That about sums up our lesson for today.

[DSTCHAOS]

I close doors. It keeps life simple when it's cut-and-dry. That doesn't mean I am angry or have any ill will toward them. I just don't believe that the average person is meant to permanently be in your life. When it's time for them to go...PEACE in a peaceful way.

But I have an ex who I'm casual acquaintances with. I don't call us "friends" because we talk or run into each other maybe once or twice a year and don't talk about anything in depth. In other words, I wouldn't talk to him about personal stuff or keep him up to date on what's going on with me. But if there was something that I needed in his field of expertise, he'd help me as I would help him. But neither of us would go too out of our way for the other. Instead, that's what REAL friends and CURRENT significant others are for.

[MellySK]

yes and no. I'm really good friends with my high school sweetheart, but i think that's because it never got super serious. I've attempted to maintain a friendship with a serious ex from college, and well, it's been too much trouble.