Advice for newlyweds?

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by centaur532

I love this thread, it may be the most useful one yet in D&R.

I agree. This is a great thread, especially because I'm a newlywed too, lol

[KappaKittyCat]

Agreed. My wedding's 47 days away, and I'll take all the advice I can get.

[sherbertlemons]

Originally Posted by KappaKittyCat

Agreed. My wedding's 47 days away, and I'll take all the advice I can get.

Actually, I was thinking about you as well when I started this thread!

The advice so far has been great! Please keep it coming! I may not be on much between now and the end of my honeymoon, but I'll definitely read the thread over after we get back.

My wedding is in exactly six days and five hours from now and I'm trying not to completely lose my mind. I'm trying to get the last minute wedding stuff done and spend time with friends and family that are in town. To top it all off, the future Mr. sherbertlemons has to move all his stuff into my place this week.

I'm also trying not to stay up at night worrying about all the major catastrophes that could happen between now and then. I'm trying to keep it all in perspective, but I'm learning perspective is much easier when you're not six days away from your wedding!

Arrgh! Thanks for letting me vent! Here's hoping I'll still be sane for my honeymoon.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by sherbertlemons

I'm also trying not to stay up at night worrying about all the major catastrophes that could happen between now and then. I'm trying to keep it all in perspective, but I'm learning perspective is much easier when you're not six days away from your wedding!

Arrgh! Thanks for letting me vent! Here's hoping I'll still be sane for my honeymoon.

The only thing that really matters at this stage of the game is that you end up married by the end of the your wedding day. You have to keep in mind that it's marriage that is the goal and the rest is just "icing on the cake". You want to marry this man and as long as that gets accomplished, you're good!

[sbx_six_eye]

Originally Posted by sherbertlemons

Actually, I was thinking about you as well when I started this thread!

The advice so far has been great! Please keep it coming! I may not be on much between now and the end of my honeymoon, but I'll definitely read the thread over after we get back.

My wedding is in exactly six days and five hours from now and I'm trying not to completely lose my mind. I'm trying to get the last minute wedding stuff done and spend time with friends and family that are in town. To top it all off, the future Mr. sherbertlemons has to move all his stuff into my place this week.

I'm also trying not to stay up at night worrying about all the major catastrophes that could happen between now and then. I'm trying to keep it all in perspective, but I'm learning perspective is much easier when you're not six days away from your wedding!

Arrgh! Thanks for letting me vent! Here's hoping I'll still be sane for my honeymoon.

My advice would be to enjoy yourself and remember that this is about you and you future husband. It is hard to get caught up in the "wedding" and forget that you still have to live with each other after that day is long gone...

But as for newlywed life...try not to forget what drew you together in the first place. Life can take hold of us quickly and we get caught up in work and family life and start to forget about those "little things". Take time out and enjoy each other's company (even if you have to sneak away sometimes to do it).

[DSTRen13]

Yay for this thread

I can't wait to get married this October, but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't nervous!

[susan314]

I've been happily married 4 years. (We're lucky to have good examples - my parents have been married 38 years, his parents have been married 34 years. )

You will fight. Every couple does. Heck, you'd probably disagree occasionally with anyone you lived in close quarters with...family, friends, roommates, spouse. How you fight is more important than how often you fight. If you both "fight fair," the fact that you disagree or go through a rough patch is neither the end of the world nor the end of your marriage.

BTW - the suggestions to enjoy married life together a while before adding children to the mix are good ones. If by some chance fate has something different in mind for you, things can still work out well though. My husband and I have been married 4 years - our children are ages 3 and 2. I truly feel that our children have made our marriage stronger - knowing that we have this huge shared responsibility has solidified our sense of being a "team." No, I would not have intentionally planned to have 2 children so early in our marriage, but that's what a strong marriage is about...adapting to whatever changes life throws your way. (Note - it helps that we were 28 and 29 when we got married, so each of us had plenty of opportunity to do whatever we wanted throughout our twenties. )

[xo_kathy]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

"You will always love him, but there will be days where you just don't like him very much. "

AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you, Grandma KSUViolet!!

[Eggroll]

Originally Posted by sherbertlemons

So, I'm getting married next Sunday. We just went and got the marriage license yesterday, and I have to say that it's just now starting to feel quite real. I'm starting to get butterflies!

I would love it if all you married GCer's would share your best advice about marriage. What surprised you about being married? What do you wish you had known going into it?

Thanks!

Pick your battles and make sure you win them. Try not to turn everything into a battle, some things have to slide.

For me I hate seeing dirty thongs in the laundry hampar or bras lying around the bedroom. That and I can't stand a dirty house/condo/apt. The aformentioned and her not always managing money the way it needs to be done will eat me alive inside. Oh.... and pink, I hate the color pink with a passion.

[virgo921]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Have a wonderful wedding and a great marriage!

DITTO!!!

^ Married 3 years last month.

- Plan things together.
- Remember the united front; you are ONE.
- Get in your mind the key items that would cause a break in the relationship...if you're fighting about anything else it's a waste of time.
- Enjoy your husband.
- Keep HAPPILY married people around both of you.
- Stay prayed up!