Really Need Help w/ Recs! I'm confused!

[sweetgirl424]

Hey everyone!
I am planning on rushing this fall as a freshman, so I have started thinking about getting recommendations. It seems like a big deal at the school I will be going to. I don't know where to start though, because I can't figure out where my local Panhellenic Association is? Also, I don't know who I could ask for recommendations.. I am starting to get frustrated, and I really could use anyone's help!

I live In Fort Smith, Arkansas.. and plan on attending the University of Arkansas in Fayetteville this fall. If anyone can help me out, I would greatly appreciate it!!!
Thank You!!

Originally Posted by sweetgirl424

Hey everyone!
I am planning on rushing this fall as a freshman, so I have started thinking about getting recommendations. It seems like a big deal at the school I will be going to. I don't know where to start though, because I can't figure out where my local Panhellenic Association is? Also, I don't know who I could ask for recommendations.. I am starting to get frustrated, and I really could use anyone's help!

I live In Fort Smith, Arkansas.. and plan on attending the University of Arkansas in Fayetteville this fall. If anyone can help me out, I would greatly appreciate it!!!
Thank You!!

http://www.npcwomen.org/alumnae/a_directory.php

Email NPCCentral@npcwomen.org to obtain the current Association President's name and mailing address.

Please provide reason for requesting contact and/or information.

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Originally Posted by OTW

http://www.npcwomen.org/alumnae/a_directory.php

Email NPCCentral@npcwomen.org to obtain the current Association President's name and mailing address.

Please provide reason for requesting contact and/or information.

You probably will want to reach out to the Alumnae Panhellenic in Fayetteville for help (I'd guess they are very used to being asked) and not rely just on Fort Smith.

[OrangeJuice]

Do you have older friends you can ask? I was able to get letters for tridelta and axo from some friends at other schools.

[SWTXBelle]

Don't forget to ask your favorite teachers, counselors, etc. - When I taught I was able to help many of my students get recs!

[OPhiAGinger]

Haven't recs really deviated a lot from their original purpose? Originally a rec was supposedly a way for an alumna who knows the PNM well to assure her GLO that the PNM would be an asset to the organization. There had to be a relationship between the alumna and the PNM, or it was meaningless.

Now recs seem to be given so casually, by friends of friends of your parents, or by an alum chapter member who meets the PNM for 15 minutes at Starbucks. How much meaning can those types of recs really provide in the membership selection process? Think of a job recommendation: would you ever provide a formal job recommendation for someone that you didn't know really well? I would not, and I think sorority recs should be treated the same way.

And to the alumnae who agree to provide recs to young women they don't know or don't know well: obviously you are doing the PNMs a big favor as they scramble to check off all the GLOs on their campus, but might you be doing your sorority a disservice?

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by OrangeJuice

Do you have older friends you can ask? I was able to get letters for tridelta and axo from some friends at other schools.

Many orgs do not accept recs from active collegians.

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Many orgs do not accept recs from active collegians.

Really? I thought there were more orgs who do allow their collegians to write recs than those who don't.

Alpha Gamma Delta collegians are allowed to write them. If I'm not mistaken (and I recall reading this somewhere on GC), Kappa Delta does too. I thought I saw a list of sororities that do allow recs from collegians, but I couldn't find it.

[PenguinTrax]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Many orgs do not accept recs from active collegians.

However, those initiated collegians can assist in putting the PNM in contact with local alumnae.

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by sweetgirl424

Hey everyone!
I am planning on rushing this fall as a freshman, so I have started thinking about getting recommendations. It seems like a big deal at the school I will be going to. I don't know where to start though, because I can't figure out where my local Panhellenic Association is? Also, I don't know who I could ask for recommendations.. I am starting to get frustrated, and I really could use anyone's help!

I live In Fort Smith, Arkansas.. and plan on attending the University of Arkansas in Fayetteville this fall. If anyone can help me out, I would greatly appreciate it!!!
Thank You!!

You will definitely need recs to all sororities at the U of A. I would ask your mom to help you - see if any of her friends or acquaintances are greek. Also ask your teachers, ladies from church, etc. Good luck!

[susan314]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

You will definitely need recs to all sororities at the U of A. I would ask your mom to help you - see if any of her friends or acquaintances are greek. Also ask your teachers, ladies from church, etc. Good luck!

This is a good suggestion - you might be pleasantly surprised to realize that you already do have a connection with some NPC women. (Or even that they could put you in touch with women who are Greek.) I'd also add to the list - neighbors, families you've babysat for regularly, your friends' parents, etc.

I'd be willing to bet that you know at least one or two NPC women, even if you don't realize it!

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by susan314

This is a good suggestion - you might be pleasantly surprised to realize that you already do have a connection with some NPC women. (Or even that they could put you in touch with women who are Greek.) I'd also add to the list - neighbors, families you've babysat for regularly, your friends' parents, etc.

I'd be willing to bet that you know at least one or two NPC women, even if you don't realize it!

As susan314 noted, expand your list. As such - and I've said this before and I'll say it again - PNMs should check with male friends, family members and other male "connections" as well. Some might be married to an NPC member, have relatives that are members, and or have friends who are members.

From personal experience, I've been able to direct a few of my friends' daughters to NPC members who were then able to help them secure recommendations.