nphc and anxiety

[PM_Mama00]

Originally Posted by jessicaelaine

Well, I'm in an npc sorority, but I have a few things to say on this subject. In my experience of choosing a sister to join there are many requirements and characteristics we look for and although an outgoing personality is one of them it's not a deal breaker by any means. This past year actually there have been a few girls that joined who where very shy and the sorority has actually helped them with that. So, you should be upfront about your condition but say you're hoping the sorority will help you overcome and help you with it to show you are willing to try and change. That being said though, if that is the only reason you are not asked to join then this sorority isn't for you. A true sister would be understanding of those kinds of things and even though they should take you out of our comfort zone slightly to help you grow as a person, they should not mentally harm you by forcing you to do something you physically can not do.

NPC and NPHC recruit in different ways and look for different things in people.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by quietriot

yeah i'm getting counselling and on medication. my case is heavily biological though, so its tough to treat, that's why i'm freaking out.
i'm hoping i can make a lot of progress with it over the summer though so in hopes to rush next semester.
and thanks for the reply.

I am going to reply as if this is a legit post (don't know why, but I am skeptical.)

Your first concern should be getting accepted into your org of choice. (BTW, many of us no longer of "probate" shows.)

A lot of SAD is biological as is clinical depression and other such illnesses (inheredited brain chemistry). Your doc may need to sunscribe different meds until you find the right one.

But you also need to know that a "probate" show will not be the only social gathering in which you will participate as a member of a BGLO. There will be national conventions and regional conferences involving thousands of people. Not to mention community service projects, chapter meetings, public fundraisers, etc. (Okay this is why I am skeptical--the OP only focused on the "probate" show.)

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by quietriot

i'm thinking about rushing for a black sorority, and have been for like a year but i have social anxiety disorder and the idea of a probate show scares the crap out of me and has kept me away. do you think greeks would be sensitive to this, or would i just get written off for being scared and not outgoing enough??? i realllly want to rush, but also a lot of the time i seriously just can't physically take being the focus of a group and i cant imagine theres any way to get out of doing a probate show because its such a tradition

I can relate to your anxiety issues, but you don't really have to worry about the probate show, because that is a very SMALL part of what you will do in an NPHC org for your LIFETIME. I'm not a very 'show offey' person either, but there are SO many other aspects to my org that it really doesn't hinder my membership. Believe me, it seems like a big deal, but in the big picture of things, it's not. Remember also, unless you're the only person online, you're not there by yourself either.


And I'm LMAO @ some of these responses!

And oh yeah, the suggestion of joining other orgs was a good one, as well as thinking about membership once you graduate college, where you won't be put so much on the spotlight in that manner (but you will have spotlight moments, though).

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

You reallllllllly don't know what you're talking about here. Are you in an NPHC org?

Originally Posted by Reds6

Are we reading the same thread?

I know!

Originally Posted by MeiMeiCat

I was trying to be kind and helpful to a woman with a disability. Boy am I an idiot. How dare I try to help her?

OP, PM me if you need any advice or help. I really feel for your position. I know how hard it is.

You people should be ashamed for discouraging her.

Not saying NPCer can not post in this thread, but she clearly named the thread with NPHC in mind. I have a good feeling that you may know less about NPHC than I (an Alpha Kappa Alpha woman) or any of the rest of us for that matter.....maybe ut us just a hunch.

*Singing: I-I-I-I got a feeling....I-I-I-I got a feeling Sorors*

Originally Posted by MeiMeiCat

My mistake. I thought it was an open forum and she seemed quite upset.

As it tells us in 1Thessalonians 5:15 "See that no one returns evil for evil; rather, always seek what is good (both) for each other and for all"

I may not know what I am talking about but I know when a person has been replied to in a harsh manner. Some replies were very mean.

Do me a favor....don't got to PledgePark.com

Originally Posted by Reds6

I'm sorry but BWAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LMAO

[KAPital PHINUst]

Originally Posted by 1908Revelations

I know!


Do me a favor....don't got to PledgePark.com


LMAO

Please listen to 1908Rev, MeiMeiCat, because she is speaking the truth.

At that site, they will verbally run you over just like a freight train.

The only difference is that a freight train doesn't back up and finish the job. *lol*

[tld221]

Originally Posted by KAPital PHINUst

Please listen to 1908Rev, MeiMeiCat, because she is speaking the truth.

At that site, they will verbally run you over just like a freight train.

The only difference is that a freight train doesn't back up and finish the job. *lol*

shoot and he would know LOL

/jokes

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by KAPital PHINUst

Please listen to 1908Rev, MeiMeiCat, because she is speaking the truth.

At that site, they will verbally run you over just like a freight train.

The only difference is that a freight train doesn't back up and finish the job. *lol*

As long as you stay over here.

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by 1908Revelations

Do me a favor....don't got to PledgePark.com


LMAO

Who are you over there? The one with the pink donut in your avator? lol

[ejay286]

Originally Posted by mulattogyrl

I can relate to your anxiety issues, but you don't really have to worry about the probate show, because that is a very SMALL part of what you will do in an NPHC org for your LIFETIME. I'm not a very 'show offey' person either, but there are SO many other aspects to my org that it really doesn't hinder my membership. Believe me, it seems like a big deal, but in the big picture of things, it's not. Remember also, unless you're the only person online, you're not there by yourself either.


And I'm LMAO @ some of these responses!

And oh yeah, the suggestion of joining other orgs was a good one, as well as thinking about membership once you graduate college, where you won't be put so much on the spotlight in that manner (but you will have spotlight moments, though).

Best response I have read so far.

[OOhsoflyDELTA#9]

Originally Posted by mulattogyrl

I can relate to your anxiety issues, but you don't really have to worry about the probate show, because that is a very SMALL part of what you will do in an NPHC org for your LIFETIME. I'm not a very 'show offey' person either, but there are SO many other aspects to my org that it really doesn't hinder my membership. Believe me, it seems like a big deal, but in the big picture of things, it's not. Remember also, unless you're the only person online, you're not there by yourself either.


And I'm LMAO @ some of these responses!

And oh yeah, the suggestion of joining other orgs was a good one, as well as thinking about membership once you graduate college, where you won't be put so much on the spotlight in that manner (but you will have spotlight moments, though).

Thanks for a solid answer without all the hype Soror...we were all interests once upon a time...

[ejay286]

Originally Posted by OOhsoflyDELTA#9

Thanks for a solid answer without all the hype Soror...we were all interests once upon a time...

I really think alot of ppl around here have forgotten that.

[Senusret I]

Excuse all of you.

I was born an Alpha. I was never an interest.

Thank you.

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Excuse all of you.

I was born an Alpha. I was never an interest.

Thank you.

That's cute! Ditto!

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Excuse all of you.

I was born an Alpha. I was never an interest.

Thank you.

Don't make me out you--again.

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Excuse all of you.

I was born an Alpha. I was never an interest.

Thank you.

LMAO!!

Originally Posted by Senusret I

LOL....somebody's gotta be! The world is a tough place to be in.

LOL again. Stop making me laugh.