How soon do you get serious??

[AKA_Monet]

I was only knew my husband for ~5-6 months before I married him...

But I was 34 years old, had been there, done that in every kind of relationship... I also had a medical emergency in which my now husband emotionally supported me and another a$$wipe that lived in my city abandoned me...

So, if you don't kid yourself into this "magical Disney romantical adventure" story that has been sold to us, Americans, lock, stock and barrell, and have a realistic view of your life and that of your loved one, then you should be fare decently...

Our first year was rough because we didn't do the "waiting game". But with each passing year, we grow stronger... I must say, I truly admire my husband and he bends over backwards for me... But that's me.

And like others have stated, you need to know yourself more than anything else.

And if you read any of my earlier posts before 2003... You will noticed that I truly started to believe that I was NOT marriage material...

[DSTCHAOS]

Thanks for that post AKAMonet.

I think I remember your pre-2003 posts. You live, you learn, you grow but in all that you keep praying.

[SxyLady07]

Good post, AKA_Monet.

Another key is that....support.

[PrettyBoy]

About 10 years. Nah!

Seriously, I guess everyone is different. My parents have been married for 43 years after being engaged for about a year and a half. That was in 1963, it's 2007 now and the dating scene has changed big time. The divorce rate is now 65 percent. I was watching the news and for the 1st time in U.S. history there are more single people than married.

I'm young, but very old fashion and I have old fashion values, and today it's very difficult to meet women with the same values as my own. I guess I'm out dated.

I would get involved in a serious relationship but I wouldn't get married. I've been friends with a young lady I've been seeing for 10 months and I still haven't committed to her. She laid it on the line and told me how she feels about me, but I'm totally not ready for all of that right now. I'm very leery on serious relationships and marriage. I don't know how long it would take me.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

About 10 years. Nah!

Seriously, I guess everyone is different. My parents have been married for 43 years after being engaged for about a year and a half. That was in 1963, it's 2007 now and the dating scene has changed big time. The divorce rate is now 65 percent. I was watching the news and for the 1st time in U.S. history there are more single people than married.

I'm young, but very old fashion and I have old fashion values, and today it's very difficult to meet women with the same values as my own. I guess I'm out dated.

I would get involved in a serious relationship but I wouldn't get married. I've been friends with a young lady I've been seeing for 10 months and I still haven't committed to her. She laid it on the line and told me how she feels about me, but I'm totally not ready for all of that right now. I'm very leery on serious relationships and marriage. I don't know how long it would take me.

I read some of your older post, is this the same girl you met on GC? Just curious.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I read some of your older post, is this the same girl you met on GC? Just curious.

You must have read a different person's post, or you read mine wrong. I never met her on GC. I met her face to face and she told me about GC in conversation nosey.

Same person.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

You must have read a different person's post, or you read mine wrong. I never met her on GC. I met her face to face and she told me about GC in conversation nosey.

Same person.

Oops! Sorry . I thought you met her on GC. I take it she's a GC member. If you don't mind me asking, what's her screen name?

[cheerfulgreek]

I dunno. I guess for me, it would be hard to tell. I would just let things happen as we went along.

The last relationship I was in, was with a guy I met my freshman year, but after I joined my sorority, I broke up with him b/c he thought the sorority changed me. Well to make a long story short everything went down hill from there.
I felt if he couldn't support me then I thought that maybe we should spend some time apart. I thought he was the guy for me, but I guess he wasn't. We dated for 3 months before it got serious.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

nosey.

Same person.

LOL.

You keeping doing your thing and being completely honest with her so she can never say she didn't know. I'm curious as to whether you're afraid to commit to her in terms of a lifetime commitment or in terms of a relationship title. Your post didn't specify whether she was officially even your lady yet.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Oops! Sorry . I thought you met her on GC. I take it she's a GC member. If you don't mind me asking, what's her screen name?

Yes, she's a GC member. You're bold! Why do you want to know her screen name anyway?

[PhoenixAzul]

My mom and dad were a blind date and got engaged 3 months after starting their relationship. Mom was engaged to another guy before, but he was killed in an accident. So she did her thing for a while, then mutual friends set her and my dad up. It was perfect from the beginning. 27 years, 2 kids, 3 dogs, 2 houses later...still together and still in love.

In my own *personal* experience...Pat and I clicked right away. We had a "friends" period because of our age difference, so we weren't "official" for about 4 months after meeting. But we got very close very fast. We met at the right point in our lives and helped each other immensely. Our relationship is pretty atypical, and I think it worked only because of how the two of us are as *individuals*. I KNOW it wouldn't work for 99.9 per cent of people, but I'm so damn happy that we are that .1 %.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

LOL.

You keeping doing your thing and being completely honest with her so she can never say she didn't know. I'm curious as to whether you're afraid to commit to her in terms of a lifetime commitment or in terms of a relationship title. Your post didn't specify whether she was officially even your lady yet.

When I get seriously involved, yes I'm very honest from the start, sometimes too honest, and I'm always committed to just one woman only. Unfortunately I haven't had any luck in my past relationships. People continue to tell me that I keep picking the wrong women. I'm really conservative, and the women I've picked in the past weren't, so I guess I really don't trust myself as far as picking the right one.

This one is very nice, funny, physically attractive, and our personalities are similar, but she's quite different from what I'm used to gettting involved with. Yeah, I guess you can say that I am a little reserved about a long term relationship, though I would like one with her, but if it didn't work out, I would be pretty disappointed.

No, she's not my lady yet. We're still friends.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by PhoenixAzul

My mom and dad were a blind date and got engaged 3 months after starting their relationship. Mom was engaged to another guy before, but he was killed in an accident. So she did her thing for a while, then mutual friends set her and my dad up. It was perfect from the beginning. 27 years, 2 kids, 3 dogs, 2 houses later...still together and still in love.

In my own *personal* experience...Pat and I clicked right away. We had a "friends" period because of our age difference, so we weren't "official" for about 4 months after meeting. But we got very close very fast. We met at the right point in our lives and helped each other immensely. Our relationship is pretty atypical, and I think it worked only because of how the two of us are as *individuals*. I KNOW it wouldn't work for 99.9 per cent of people, but I'm so damn happy that we are that .1 %.

I'm probably the other 99.9% .

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by PhoenixAzul

My mom and dad were a blind date and got engaged 3 months after starting their relationship.

That's my mother and father. Seriously. Blind date, 3 months, marriage for over 30 years. Awesomeness.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Yes, she's a GC member. You're bold! Why do you want to know her screen name anyway?

You don't have to press the issue. I just asked. No biggie.