How soon do you get serious??

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

You must have read a different person's post, or you read mine wrong. I never met her on GC. I met her face to face and she told me about GC in conversation nosey.

Same person.

Oops! Sorry . I thought you met her on GC. I take it she's a GC member. If you don't mind me asking, what's her screen name?

[cheerfulgreek]

I dunno. I guess for me, it would be hard to tell. I would just let things happen as we went along.

The last relationship I was in, was with a guy I met my freshman year, but after I joined my sorority, I broke up with him b/c he thought the sorority changed me. Well to make a long story short everything went down hill from there.
I felt if he couldn't support me then I thought that maybe we should spend some time apart. I thought he was the guy for me, but I guess he wasn't. We dated for 3 months before it got serious.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Oops! Sorry . I thought you met her on GC. I take it she's a GC member. If you don't mind me asking, what's her screen name?

Yes, she's a GC member. You're bold! Why do you want to know her screen name anyway?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Yes, she's a GC member. You're bold! Why do you want to know her screen name anyway?

You don't have to press the issue. I just asked. No biggie.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

You don't have to press the issue. I just asked. No biggie.

You're right, you did ask me, so it sounds like you're the one pressing the issue not me. No biggie.

[KSUViolet06]

My bf and I just became *official* a few weeks ago after going on dates for about a month. I take things fairly slowly. It usually takes me a good month or so of dating someone and hanging out with someone to decide whether I want to get serious with them.

[Kevin]

My parents married after 2 weeks. I think they're somewhere around 40 years at this point.

My current wife and I were together 6 years before getting married. There's no standard. When it's time, it's time.

[Scandia]

Hmmm, getting serious/becoming official/dating exclusively after a month seems reasonable according to everyone here.

So I did NOT overreact when the guy I dated 3 years ago made a big fuss about "never saying we were exclusive" and "I'm not looking for a serious girlfriend because I do not have a full time job" when after a month of dating, I was not happy that he wanted to keep dating other girls.

While I never assumed we were exclusive, I truly was hoping that I was the only girl he was dating and had interest in . And I wanted to ask him at the end of that 4th date that happened a month after we started dating. If he said that he needed some time, I would have been okay with it. But the way he reacted, I was not happy. I gave him the benefit of the doubt due to the reason he gave. There was a 5th date- but in it we clinched that we were not for each other.

The guy I dated late last year did reveal feelings on the 3rd date which happened a month after we started dating. Hence I do not consider this to be "too much interest too soon". But I certainly was not feeling anything for him other than platonic fondness and appreciation.