Getting a Bid from Someone You Didn't Pref - Page 2

Zillini · #16 08-29-2006, 08:02 AM

That's appalling! If I became aware of this sort of situation I'd be on the phone with my NPC delegate or Area Advisor ASAP. How utterly devasted those PNMs must have been. Without receiving that dreaded phone call saying they didn't match, they had to have believed they received a bid from one of the places they preffed and assumably loved. They're entitled to that phone call as well as the one offering a snap bid. That's just plain wrong!!!!!

UCFStefanie · #17 08-29-2006, 08:10 AM

I can speak from experience.

I ranked a Chapter #1 all week long (Theta) and went to all of their rounds except prefs. I only went to prefs with one group, Chapter AB.

But opened my bid to find my #1 choice (Theta). Believe me I was suprised and estatic. How it happened lord only knows.

After prefs my Rho Gamma had me put down all groups that I would accept a bid from. My rho gamma and the graduate assistant of Greek Life both knew who my #1 choice was. So It could be a possibility that because I ranked all chapters I would accept a bid from that someone accepted a snap on my behalf rather than giving me the call that I had been dropped.

The world will never know. But years later, I am happy as a duck and thankful that things worked out the way they did. It taugh me a lot and I wouldnt chance a thing.

PenguinTrax · #18 08-29-2006, 09:06 AM

I've never heard of that at all. Green Book recommendations call for unmatched PNMs to be called and asked if they will accept a bid from another group. If the answer is yes, then their names should be distributed for snap bids.

tunatartare · #19 08-29-2006, 09:37 AM

My school is one of those where it's possible to get a bid from someone whom you didn't pref. We don't do any cuts before pref, so even if you have ABC with every fiber of your being and know that you wouldn't want to be an ABC, you still have to go to their rush parties. In order to be eligible for a bid, PNM's have to rank all four sororities. If you only got invited and went to XYZ's pref and loved them, they could be your first choice, then LMN, then OPQ, then finally, ABC. However, if you were on ABC's B list and XYZ, LMN, and OPQ all made quota, it is possible to get a bid from them.

OleMissGlitter · #20 08-29-2006, 10:17 AM

I'm pretty sure this happened in 1999 at Ole Miss. I vaguley remember hearing about a few girls who did not even pref a house but they got bids to that house. They were confused and ended up dropping out altogether until Panhellenic fixed the problem. I also think with the new Ranking System Ole Miss uses that it could be possible to get a bid from a house you didn't pref...I think but I could totally be wrong. I know it is possible to attend 1st round of parties and then not attend Skit parties and be invited to Pref parties. That is because of the Regret With Interest system.

SigK_Bama · #21 08-29-2006, 10:39 AM

I've kind of been through this, but as an initiate on the other side of rush.

When I was President, we had four girls walk into our suite on bid day who we had cut on the first day. We were all shocked and it was really hard to get over it. We discovered that Panhellenic, at the urging of some random alumnae who had been sent by NHQ to help us with rush, had added those girls to our bid lists because they thought we needed the numbers. None of us in the chapter were told - not me as President and not our VPM. In short, we were pissed. On the other hand, the four girls were thrilled to be in our suite because they had all been dropped during the week. They were expecting not to get bids, but had received calls from the Greek Life office that morning telling them that they did, in fact, get bids.

It was a horrible experience, and after these alums found out how upset we were, they left town that same day and never came back to our chapter again.

AlphaFrog · #22 08-29-2006, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by SigK_Bama

I've kind of been through this, but as an initiate on the other side of rush.

When I was President, we had four girls walk into our suite on bid day who we had cut on the first day. We were all shocked and it was really hard to get over it. We discovered that Panhellenic, at the urging of some random alumnae who had been sent by NHQ to help us with rush, had added those girls to our bid lists because they thought we needed the numbers. None of us in the chapter were told - not me as President and not our VPM. In short, we were pissed. On the other hand, the four girls were thrilled to be in our suite because they had all been dropped during the week. They were expecting not to get bids, but had received calls from the Greek Life office that morning telling them that they did, in fact, get bids.

It was a horrible experience, and after these alums found out how upset we were, they left town that same day and never came back to our chapter again.

IvySpice · #23 08-29-2006, 10:47 AM

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the four girls were thrilled to be in our suite because they had all been dropped during the week.

Wow. How did this work out in the end? Did the sisters come to accept them, and did they become valuable members of the sorority?

tunatartare · #24 08-29-2006, 10:51 AM

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Wow. How did this work out in the end? Did the sisters come to accept them, and did they become valuable members of the sorority?

That's what I want to know.

33girl · #25 08-29-2006, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by SigK_Bama

I've kind of been through this, but as an initiate on the other side of rush.

When I was President, we had four girls walk into our suite on bid day who we had cut on the first day. We were all shocked and it was really hard to get over it. We discovered that Panhellenic, at the urging of some random alumnae who had been sent by NHQ to help us with rush, had added those girls to our bid lists because they thought we needed the numbers. None of us in the chapter were told - not me as President and not our VPM. In short, we were pissed. On the other hand, the four girls were thrilled to be in our suite because they had all been dropped during the week. They were expecting not to get bids, but had received calls from the Greek Life office that morning telling them that they did, in fact, get bids.

It was a horrible experience, and after these alums found out how upset we were, they left town that same day and never came back to our chapter again.

This is one of the most hideous things I've ever heard, and I sincerely hope those women are no longer involved with Sigma Kappa on a national level. I also hope that your chapter wasn't stuck with these girls.

SigK_Bama · #26 08-29-2006, 02:08 PM

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This is one of the most hideous things I've ever heard, and I sincerely hope those women are no longer involved with Sigma Kappa on a national level. I also hope that your chapter wasn't stuck with these girls.

As best I remember, three of the four eventually dropped within the year. One woman was married with two kids, two others were just bad, and the fourth one did actually stay. That particular year was her third rush - one at another school and the second one at my school. She was a sweet girl, but just odd. It took a long time, but most of the chapter came to accept her and like her. The year she pledged, her parents came to visit her and they met me at the suite one day. They said how happy they were that she got into a sorority and thanked us for allowing her to be a part of the chapter. So, it turned out OK.

As for the alums, I never saw them again after that. I don't think any of us truly got the full story as to where they came from or who at NHQ sent them.

ThetaPrincess24 · #27 08-29-2006, 02:14 PM

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As for the alums, I never saw them again after that. I don't think any of us truly got the full story as to where they came from or who at NHQ sent them.

That's crazy!!! YOur chapter at the very minimum deserved an explanation.

AlphaFrog · #28 08-29-2006, 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by SigK_Bama

That particular year was her third rush - one at another school and the second one at my school.

Biting my tounge when I SO want to say it.

ThetaPrincess24 · #29 08-29-2006, 02:20 PM

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That particular year was her third rush - one at another school and the second one at my school.

Not to get off topic but, by the time of my last fall semester we had had this one girl come through fall recruitment for her 4th year in a row and had been through spring recruitment 3 times without a bid. Why she had decided to keep going through recruitment no one knows. As sad as it is, it almost became a running joke of her coming through and never getting bid similar to Susan Lucci's past repeated nominations without a win at the Emmy's.

tunatartare · #30 08-29-2006, 02:25 PM

xoheatherxo was telling me about a girl at her school who rushed 3 times in a row. She would always drop out of recruitment before prefs because she thought that she wouldn't have enough time to be in a sorority. Then, the next year, she'd show up again, then drop out. Everyone was like "does she really like rushing or something?"