Where is a good place for me to meet guys? - Page 2

ZTAMich · #16 02-10-2004, 08:29 PM

exactly the thread I needed to read today....thanks ya'll!

Rudey · #17 02-10-2004, 09:11 PM

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Originally posted by AXJules
OK here's the sucky thing about classes...
Yes, they give you an opportunity to talk to the person if they're a complete stranger (i.e. What was due today? or whatever) but A)asking enough of those makes you look retarded and b) what if they're on the other side of the room?? All my classes are split up into lil groups this semester....of course the few guys I would like to get to know virtually have no interaction w/my group just b/c of the way the class is set up.

And don't even suggest fishnets, there is just no good remedy to this type of situation.

Also it doesn't help that you have genital warts.

-Rudey

AXJules · #18 02-10-2004, 10:46 PM

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Originally posted by Rudey
Also it doesn't help that you have genital warts.

-Rudey

Ew. Not even funny. GHEY. Really though.

Rudey · #19 02-10-2004, 10:48 PM

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Originally posted by AXJules
Ew. Not even funny. GHEY. Really though I caught them from those 5 guys from Gary Indiana.

That's gnarly.

-Rudey

AXJules · #20 02-10-2004, 10:51 PM

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Originally posted by Rudey
That's gnarly.

-Rudey

Gee where else did you see that done today?? How original

Whatever - loves anyway

James · #21 02-10-2004, 11:34 PM

Don't listen to her Rachel . . your best bet is to meet as many men as possible and have carnal relations with them . . . that way you can sort through them and find the best one.

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As far as where to meet them . . anywhere is good, but likely you will have to approach them outside an conventional pick up setting . . like a bar.

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Originally posted by aurora_borealis
Rachel, I am going to try and say this in the nicest way possible, and if I anger you, shoot me a PM or IM.

You are twenty years old, you have plenty of time to meet people and get married. You aren't going to school for health reasons, and I have been there myself, it isn't easy. The best thing I can tell you is this: concentrate on getting to know YOU and less on finding someone. Sure we all like having someone special in our lives, but when it becomes an all consuming boy crazy fevor, it isn't healthy. I am happy that you are involved in Chabad and exploring your faith. There is no need for any man or woman to find someone to COMPLETE them, but to COMPLIMENT the person they are.

Sometimes when people are so hellbent on meeting someone and coupling up, it scares away potential mates. Just spend time doing things for yourself, work, enjoy Chabad, and when the right man comes along, you will know. It is better to be single and like who you are with happiness and loving friends and family; than to be with a man for the sake of being with a man. You have your whole life ahead of you, enjoy the time you have now when you can do anything you want.

lovelyivy84 · #22 02-11-2004, 12:00 AM

That is really great advice aurora!

*applause*

Lucky me, I have a defensive layer so hard others might consider it a shell. I was never in danger of thinking I needed a man to complete me, lol, but I have seen a lot of very intelligent women get completely caught up in what they believe they need froma man. It has always ended badly.

James · #23 02-11-2004, 12:03 AM

They need me lol . ..

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Originally posted by lovelyivy84
That is really great advice aurora!

*applause*

Lucky me, I have a defensive layer so hard others might consider it a shell. I was never in danger of thinking I needed a man to complete me, lol, but I have seen a lot of very intelligent women get completely caught up in what they believe they need froma man. It has always ended badly.

aurora_borealis · #24 02-11-2004, 12:11 AM

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Originally posted by James
Don't listen to her Rachel . . your best bet is to meet as many men as possible and have carnal relations with them . . . that way you can sort through them and find the best one. _

As far as where to meet them . . anywhere is good, but likely you will have to approach them outside an conventional pick up setting . . like a bar.

I forgot this...if you listen to James you will be the person mentioned in this thread "why do boys only see me as a piece of ass?"

DON'T DO THAT!!!

AXORissa · #25 02-11-2004, 01:19 AM

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Originally posted by Dionysus
CHURCH

heh, thats exactly where Rachel is going to meet a nice Jewish boy

i have a boyfriend, and he isn't Jewish, and I am... the problem its causing my parents....

my advice-- um... have fun in college, and party your ass off. It sucks out there in the real world. I want to go back to school!

alikat2 · #26 02-11-2004, 01:05 PM

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Originally posted by Hootie
I agree with everything aurora said! After my broken engagement I thrusted myself into completing college and working to support myself in my OWN apartment.

Now I've been single for a 1 1/2 but you know what, I've accomplished two of my biggest goals: a college degree and independence.

Seriously though, you are young and have pleanty of time. I'm certainly glad I've had the last 1 1/2 to myself because I've learned a LOT about who I am and what I want out of the next relationship. I freak out occassionally - I'm 24 and no where close to getting married. But you know what, at least I'm not jumping into something just because everyone else is!

I too agree with everything Aurora said. But I am also going on 24 and I have these moments where I'm like, "Oh my God, am I EVER going to find anyone??" I date a lot but it seems like it rarely materializes into anything serious.......my last real relationship only lasted around 2 months. I have a bachelor's degree, my own apartment and a good job, so I'm doing pretty well for myself. And I have a lot of fun.

Sometimes, though, I get in these moods where I worry that I should be having more than just fun.

OK, enough of my rambling insecurities.

SmartBlondeGPhB · #27 02-11-2004, 02:57 PM

I agree with Aurora but I have to laugh at the whole subject because I very briefly thought the same thing about needing to get married.

Have fun, enjoy life, live on your own. The rest of your life is a LONG time and you are too young to worry about it. In fact, anyone under 30 is too young to be worrying about it in my opinion.

But, in answer to the question. Take up a hobby that is mostly "male dominated". I have met quite a few men scuba diving. And when I say "take up" I mean participate on their level and not just as a spectator or as a female who leans on them for help. Be as good, or better, as they are.

Peaches-n-Cream · #28 02-11-2004, 06:30 PM

I agree with SmartBlondeGPhiB.

You are in your twenties. You're young, go out, and have fun!

James · #29 02-11-2004, 11:27 PM

A lot of people are not very good at going out and having fun, nor are they very good at meeting people and easily establishing a relationship. I don't say that to be mean, just to point out that a lot of people view getting into a relationship as a way to escape a social scene they are not very good at and therefore don't find fulfilling.

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Originally posted by Peaches-n-Cream
I agree with SmartBlondeGPhiB.

You are in your twenties. You're young, go out, and have fun!

Peaches-n-Cream · #30 02-11-2004, 11:55 PM

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Originally posted by James
A lot of people are not very good at going out and having fun, nor are they very good at meeting people and easily establishing a relationship. I don't say that to be mean, just to point out that a lot of people view getting into a relationship as a way to escape a social scene they are not very good at and therefore don't find fulfilling.

I was good at the social scene and not so good at serious romantic relationships in my college years and early twenties.