The "coffee date rec"

[SydneyK]

I just re-read your post, DaffyKD, and I think I initially misunderstood.
You're saying it frustrates you when you don't get a 'thank-you' from the woman for whom you wrote a rec (and not the chapter), right? That irritates me, too.

I see where you're coming from, HQWest. The coffee date type recs I've written have been for particularly small chapters, so I was just speaking from my own experience. If I had ever written a rec for, say, Bama, I'm sure I'd feel differently.

[DubaiSis]

For the record, I HAVE gotten thank yous from my chapter for having sent a rec. I have NOT gotten one from a rushee. I would let the chapter off the hook and would be happy with a form letter thank you since presumably they get a couple hundred recs (estimating at that school). But the rushees in question had either no other or few other recs, which means the thank you or acknowledgement that they went through the process would have cost them 30 seconds via email or the cost of a stamp. Maybe that speaks to why they didn't end up in my chapter?

[AnchorAlumna]

Not to sidetrack, but I HAVE gotten thank-yous (usually) from my chapters when the rec is sent, and I usually get a thank-you from the PNM. We emphasize that in our alum panhellenic.

But I RARELY hear anything from a chapter after bid day. I just wish they would send out a list of their new members with the girls' hometowns. It would be so easy to send via e-mail - I mean, surely they've compiled the girls on a spreadsheet...and surely they've got some sort of master list of alumnae who've sent recs, so they can request recs next year....right?

(Yeah, I know the answer)

[AnchorAlumna]

Another pet peeve - women who, on anonymous boards, offer to write a rec for a PNM...alum has never met the girl and the girl isn't even in her hometown...gee, thanks for making the whole process worthless.

[Titchou]

I assure you I get them from Alabama...

[als463]

I've gotten them from Alabama, Kennesaw State, South Alabama, (I want to say) Auburn, and Florida State. Some of these schools really do have it down to a science.

[irishpipes]

I must say though, I would rather get an email. The TY notes are pretty, but I don't get them until mid-October. I want to know RIGHT THIS MINUTE when recruitment is over where my peeps pledged. If that could be accomplished electronically, I would be all for that.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

I must say though, I would rather get an email. The TY notes are pretty, but I don't get them until mid-October. I want to know RIGHT THIS MINUTE when recruitment is over where my peeps pledged. If that could be accomplished electronically, I would be all for that.

YES! I get 20 or so postcards, when one e-mail would suffice and be free. Especially with the cost of postage going up.

The whole privacy thing about not posting a list of the women pledged...stupid, when you can see if all over Facebook. We're not asking for their grades, their secret thoughts, their family and health history...just a name and a hometown, just like you post the dean's list and graduation list, forcryin'outloud!!