The "coffee date rec"

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by DaffyKD

I have also been VERY bothered by the fact that I gave up my time to help them get the necessary rec but they don't let me know the outcome of their recruitment, never write a thank you note and act like we are obligated to do this for them. DaffyKD

I am pretty sure that DaffyKD meant that the PNM never bothers to write a thank you note, never bothers to let her know where or if she pledges and generally acts like WE (alumnae) are obligated to help them. This is simple, common courtesy which is sadly lacking in many young people... certainly not all, but many of them.

I find that the girls who wear pearls tend to observe social graces better than the ones with nose rings

[DaffyKD]

Originally Posted by thetalady

I am pretty sure that DaffyKD meant that the PNM never bothers to write a thank you note, never bothers to let her know where or if she pledges and generally acts like WE (alumnae) are obligated to help them. This is simple, common courtesy which is sadly lacking in many young people... certainly not all, but many of them.

I find that the girls who wear pearls tend to observe social graces better than the ones with nose rings

Yes, I meant the PNM. They have my e-mail address, they have my phone number. They have a means of communicating rather than expecting me to just send in a rec and be forgotten. The last 2 girls went to large schools-- LSU and Alabama. They are both out of state students. I have no idea how recruitment went for either of them. One went to a local prestigious private school, I am sure she could find teachers/family friends, etc who belong to every sorority. We even have 2 VERY active Alumnae Panhellenic chapters in the county. It takes them less than 2 minutes to say thanks for meeting me, I joined ABC and I appreciate the time you spent helping make this a successful recruitment.

DaffyKD

[ADqtPiMel]

Originally Posted by thetalady

I find that the girls who wear pearls tend to observe social graces better than the ones with nose rings

This seems completely unnecessary. I was raised to be polite, well-mannered and thoughtful. I write thank you notes and graciously thank people for their time. I encourage the chapters that I work with as an international officer for my organization to be considerate and gracious toward alumnae who contribute recs. I also have had a nose piercing and have visible tattoos, and the last time I wore pearls was to a "preppy" themed party in college.

Judging is not polite either.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by thetalady

I find that the girls who wear pearls tend to observe social graces better than the ones with nose rings

Ya never know. First person I ever met with a nose ring AND tongue stud was a lovely chapter leader with impeccable manners. And some of the pearl girls were absolutely heedless.

[WhiteRose1912]

Originally Posted by thetalady

I find that the girls who wear pearls tend to observe social graces better than the ones with nose rings

1. Why would you even say this. So cheerfully, too.
2.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by WhiteRose1912

1. Why would you even say this. So cheerfully, too.
2.

I was just trying to be humorous... you know, a joke? Sorry if it missed the mark.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by thetalady

I find that the girls who wear pearls tend to observe social graces better than the ones with nose rings

Wait, what?