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04-29-2013, 05:17 PM
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It was a thing in 05-09 VA. We used it as a verb: "Did you DTR?" "We haven't DTR'ed yet."
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04-29-2013, 10:34 PM
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It was a thing in 05-09 VA. We used it as a verb: "Did you DTR?" "We haven't DTR'ed yet."
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Yep, that is exactly how we used it in Texas.
Very interesting how regional this must have been!
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04-30-2013, 12:30 AM
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It was a thing in 05-09 VA. We used it as a verb: "Did you DTR?" "We haven't DTR'ed yet."
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I almost said "Nuh uh!!!" but then realized a) I learned that phrase in VA and b) That's about the time I lived here. I stand corrected. Though I always heard it used as a noun (e.g., "Did you have DTR talk yet?").
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04-30-2013, 01:47 AM
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I'm pre-historic, I guess. Way back in my day, taking a girl or roomie to formal was not a conscience thought. You took a man, period. And if you did't have a man, one of your sisters found one for you. Fraternity men were always available during "formal season." There was one -- we called him Jumpin' Jim -- who called every chapter's social chairman to let her know he and his suit were ready. The favors were always glassware that had the crest, event and date imprinted on it. We were convinced that Jim was nothing more than an avid collector of sorority glassware.
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04-30-2013, 07:19 AM
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There was one -- we called him Jumpin' Jim -- who called every chapter's social chairman to let her know he and his suit were ready. The favors were always glassware that had the crest, event and date imprinted on it. We were convinced that Jim was nothing more than an avid collector of sorority glassware.
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I saw a show about Palm Beach society and they interviewed an older gentlemen who escorts widowed society matrons to charity balls during the season. Could be the same guy.
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04-30-2013, 09:34 AM
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I'm pre-historic, I guess. Way back in my day, taking a girl or roomie to formal was not a conscience thought. You took a man, period. And if you did't have a man, one of your sisters found one for you. Fraternity men were always available during "formal season." There was one -- we called him Jumpin' Jim -- who called every chapter's social chairman to let her know he and his suit were ready. The favors were always glassware that had the crest, event and date imprinted on it. We were convinced that Jim was nothing more than an avid collector of sorority glassware.
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For some reason, I find this fascinating. Was he a good date? Were there fights over who GOT to take, or who HAD to take him? Did he try anything with his dates, or was he a gentleman?
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04-30-2013, 01:37 PM
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I am so glad you asked me about Jumpin' Jim and I feel 100 percent qualified to answer because I took him to formal my senior year! As a friend! Jim was a wonderful date! He was a PiKA, Teddy bear-cute, great dancer, gentleman and behaved himself. He went to a lot of formals, so if he is now the man in Palm Beach, I know where he honed his skills. There were several fraternity men who were regulars at formals -- good guys and great dancers, easy to hang out with...that type. I honestly don't recall there being fights over them, though. They were usually off the market pretty quickly, grabbed by women who were not dating anyone or whose boyfriend couldn't attend.
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04-30-2013, 06:08 PM
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We had a male friend of one of our sisters who I think went to every formal or date night we had during his college career.
His name escapes me, which is terrible, because I took him to a date night when I was a junior.
Cute guy, not awkward because he knew everybody, and of course, several of his brothers were there. Nice arm candy. Ross? Aaron? Jeez. that's pitiful that I can't remember his name.*
I had one date night where I almost went alone, but I was getting ready and a guy from one of my classes called me to see what I was doing that night, and I said, "Funny you should ask... do you have a necktie?"
*I'm pretty sure it was Ross.
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05-01-2013, 10:57 AM
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A story of how it could work when one of your sister's saved the day. This also involves a PiKA. Freshman year, the guy I was going out with (not steadily) was non-Greek and didn't get why anyone would want to be. He was fun, but I don't think he owned a suit, and given that he sometimes wanted to go dutch at McDonalds, I knew he'd balk at any costs associated with formal. Bottom line, he was not a candidate for formal.
A couple of weeks before formal, I was out with friends and we stopped by the PiKA house. I met a brother (a sophomore) named Rob and we talked non-stop for an hour. When my friends were ready to leave, Rob said, "Well, I'm really sorry this great conversation has to end." I was so hoping he'd ask for my number, but he didn't.  A few days later, I'm in the Phi Mu suite lamenting my dateless status when a pledge sister said, "You and Rob were hitting it off at the Pike house -- ask him."
A group of older actives were nearby. Three were seniors and engaged to Pikes. I saw a glance pass between them and one said, "Would you like to go to formal with Rob?" I said I'd love to, but given we'd only talked for an hour, wouldn't he find that weird or desperate? She smiled, explained fraternity men knew how formals went and not to worry about that. The next day, she called me and said, "Rob would love to go to formal with you -- but he does want you to call and invite him yourself." Reasonable. I called, he accepted. There was still a week or so before formal, so Rob took me out -- dinner, movie -- just so it wouldn't feel so awkward. Ah, there was eloquence to those days. We had a great time at formal, too!
I had a sister whose boyfriend broke up with her a couple days before formal. She was very upset, but still wanted to go to formal because it was her senior year. Some calls were made an a fine southern gentleman of Kappa Alpha (who she'd never met) was happy to escort her. He's still escorting her -- they got married a few years later!
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05-01-2013, 02:21 PM
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Those are awesome stories. I never had a boyfriend in college (too busy playing the field) which made formals both more exciting (you can take anyone! What about that cute guy in your Latin class you've never spoken to?) and more nerve wracking (OMG I ACTUALLY HAVE TO ASK SOME DUDE I LIKE TO GO TO FORMAL). I think I took pretty much 50/50 real dates/friends to formals. Both were fun, but for different reasons. I only ever had one really terrible date and it was someone from out of town that I'd never met who got absolutely wasted and kept trying to grope me. Luckily, I got rescued (that's what sisters are for!)
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05-01-2013, 02:38 PM
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My worst experience was when I ended up with TWO dates for a formal. I asked a guy I liked...he said he'd get back to me because he was on a varsity team and he thought it might not work with his schedule. A few days go by, and there's no word from him, so I wrote him off and asked a guy friend who knew a lot of sisters, and he was happy to go.
The way it worked was that dates would arrive at the house, and members who weren't living in would open the door and come upstairs to tell us when our dates arrived. A new member came up to tell me when the friend date arrived. He was one of the first arrivals. I said to tell him I was still getting ready and I'd be down in a few minutes. A few minutes go by, and suddenly about 3 new members come upstairs, all breathless, to tell me that the original guy has also shown up! It seriously felt like a bad sit-com...everyone was chattering about what to do. I was irked that the first guy had never called back to confirm and just showed up. They're both standing downstairs, and I didn't even know how to get them separated so I could talk to each one privately and explain the situation. Since the friend guy knew a lot of sisters, I decided to go with the first guy, and we didn't tell him anything. We told the friend what was going on. He hung out with a group of other friend date people, and had a good time. I would have rather gone with him at that point, but this seemed the way to handle it without any additional awkwardness.
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Oooh, ooh! I've got one!
When my biological sister was a senior in college, her sisters set her up with the roommate of a friend for her formal. They met for drinks one night to see if they'd hit it off, before she asked him, and about 15 minutes in, he decided he liked her and said, "So I hear there's this formal..."
After the date, she came home and told her sisters,
"Yeah, he's a nice guy - I'm taking him to formal. I mean, I'm not going to *marry* him or anything."
Aaaaand they've been married sixteen years.
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Update! I asked him [over text...I'm awkward]. He said yes and was actually really great/excited about it so I'm pretty excited. Sorry I stuck DTR in there without definition...I'm always the one googling stuff, so I don't know why I thought everyone else should know it!
And seriously, y'all have much nicer favors/things involved in formal than we do! We don't do favors, but we do have open bar at a nice location (and we live in a very expensive city, so I can't imagine it comes cheap).
I'm really enjoying all of these stories!
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Oh my god, that's adorable.
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05-04-2013, 07:00 PM
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Oooh, ooh! I've got one!
When my biological sister was a senior in college, her sisters set her up with the roommate of a friend for her formal. They met for drinks one night to see if they'd hit it off, before she asked him, and about 15 minutes in, he decided he liked her and said, "So I hear there's this formal..."
After the date, she came home and told her sisters,
"Yeah, he's a nice guy - I'm taking him to formal. I mean, I'm not going to *marry* him or anything."
Aaaaand they've been married sixteen years.
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Funny story about that...
Three years ago, a certain fraternity pledge was looking for a date to formal. His pledge pops got on the case, asked our sorority president if she knew anyone who wanted to go, and the president asked my best friend if she knew anyone who wanted to go (they both already had dates to that same formal). I had no date to this formal, and did want to go, so they passed back my number and information.
He texted me the day before, we chatted back and forth that day, and it was all said and done. We had a good time at formal, but I was pretty convinced he was the guy to start "playing the field" with.
Well, we got married last week.
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05-04-2013, 08:56 PM
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Well, we got married last week. 
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When I saw you'd posted in this thread, I was hoping you'd have some wedding news!!!
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