Are some people just not meant to be in sororities?

[Wishful]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

Well Wishful, it sounds like you've done everything you can do, including looking inward. Just hold your head up and be positive and hopefully it will all work out great. I do wish you the very best of luck and yes, please share your story when it's done.

Thank you! Just gonna try to be positive and hope that things work out for the best.

[AZTheta]

I am a believer in positive thinking and in visualizing; I also believe that if you put out negative energy, it will affect you in negative ways. This is my way of saying "be positive, please relax, and let go of the fear." We all say the same thing: it only takes one. Know that! Believe it! Let the story play out now... and I'm sending positive intentions your way.

[Wishful]

Originally Posted by AzTheta

I am a believer in positive thinking and in visualizing; I also believe that if you put out negative energy, it will affect you in negative ways. This is my way of saying "be positive, please relax, and let go of the fear." We all say the same thing: it only takes one. Know that! Believe it! Let the story play out now... and I'm sending positive intentions your way.

Thank you! I'm trying to visualize the positive. The potential to "run home" is getting me through recruitment.

[ADPiEE]

How are your grades? I skimmed through your posts and didn't see anything. Grades can be a huge factor at some schools.

[Wishful]

Originally Posted by ADPiEE

How are your grades? I skimmed through your posts and didn't see anything. Grades can be a huge factor at some schools.

I have well over a 3.5 and a leadership role on campus. At my school, the GPA requirements for a current college student looking to join a sorority can range anywhere from 2.5-3.0. Those GPA requirements are a little stricter for high school students, but my GPA last year for recruitment was a 4.4 (3.8 unweighted).

[KSUViolet06]

The fact that you are fretting over being cut may very well show in your conversations (it's hard to get to know someone who is super nervous.) Relax.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

The fact that you are fretting over being cut may very well show in your conversations (it's hard to get to know someone who is super nervous.) Relax.

Exactly. Nervous people make other people nervous. I'm guessing from your description of your school that there are sorority members who are TWICE as worried about recruitment as you are.

Come here and word vomit all you want, but be confident, interested and kind the minute you walk into those parties.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Exactly. Nervous people make other people nervous. I'm guessing from your description of your school that there are sorority members who are TWICE as worried about recruitment as you are.

Come here and word vomit all you want, but be confident, interested and kind the minute you walk into those parties.

I totally agree. You may totally turn people off if you go in to parties a cowering mess of poor self esteem. You are good enough. You are smart enough. Recruitment IS imperfect. Great girls are released every year that just dont shine in this environment. Don't shoot yourself in the foot by freaking out. Good luck!

[Wishful]

To everyone above, I try to be calm and confident going into the houses. There really is no awkward pauses or word vomit on my part. Maybe the girls pick up on something about me that I don't though.

Thanks to everyone for being so supportive towards me! I really didn't expect any responses from this.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Wishful

To everyone above, I try to be calm and confident going into the houses. There really is no awkward pauses or word vomit on my part. Maybe the girls pick up on something about me that I don't though.

Thanks to everyone for being so supportive towards me! I really didn't expect any responses from this.

When do you get your next round of invitations?

[etadrisophila]

Hi Wishful:

Here are my two cents:

For reasons beyond my control, there have been some unfortunate things going on in my life recently. As a result, I've been told that sometimes I look very serious (and thus unapproachable). This is totally not normal for me.

Because of these comments (and based upon recent photos I've seen of myself), I've been concentrating on smiling (not *fake* smiles) and standing tall with good posture. As well, I've paid attention to my body language (e.g. arms crossed vs. open stance, etc.) As vain as it seems, I've even practiced in front of the mirror to better understand (and address) how I look to others while in conversation.

I've found that by smiling and maintaining an open posture, I feel more relaxed and engaged.

Be yourself and be the best self you can be!

(I apologize if this is too simplistic and obvious).

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by etadrisophila

Hi Wishful:

Here are my two cents:

For reasons beyond my control, there have been some unfortunate things going on in my life recently. As a result, I've been told that sometimes I look very serious (and thus unapproachable). This is totally not normal for me.

Because of these comments (and based upon recent photos I've seen of myself), I've been concentrating on smiling (not *fake* smiles) and standing tall with good posture. As well, I've paid attention to my body language (e.g. arms crossed vs. open stance, etc.) As vain as it seems, I've even practiced in front of the mirror to better understand (and address) how I look to others while in conversation.

I've found that by smiling and maintaining an open posture, I feel more relaxed and engaged.

Be yourself and be the best self you can be!

(I apologize if this is too simplistic and obvious).

Don't apologize! This is important stuff!

[Wishful]

Originally Posted by etadrisophila

Hi Wishful:

Here are my two cents:

For reasons beyond my control, there have been some unfortunate things going on in my life recently. As a result, I've been told that sometimes I look very serious (and thus unapproachable). This is totally not normal for me.

Because of these comments (and based upon recent photos I've seen of myself), I've been concentrating on smiling (not *fake* smiles) and standing tall with good posture. As well, I've paid attention to my body language (e.g. arms crossed vs. open stance, etc.) As vain as it seems, I've even practiced in front of the mirror to better understand (and address) how I look to others while in conversation.

I've found that by smiling and maintaining an open posture, I feel more relaxed and engaged.

Be yourself and be the best self you can be!

(I apologize if this is too simplistic and obvious).

Lol no need to apologize! It's sweet that you actually took the time to give advice so thanks

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by etadrisophila

Hi Wishful:

Here are my two cents:

For reasons beyond my control, there have been some unfortunate things going on in my life recently. As a result, I've been told that sometimes I look very serious (and thus unapproachable). This is totally not normal for me.

Because of these comments (and based upon recent photos I've seen of myself), I've been concentrating on smiling (not *fake* smiles) and standing tall with good posture. As well, I've paid attention to my body language (e.g. arms crossed vs. open stance, etc.) As vain as it seems, I've even practiced in front of the mirror to better understand (and address) how I look to others while in conversation.

I've found that by smiling and maintaining an open posture, I feel more relaxed and engaged.

Be yourself and be the best self you can be!

(I apologize if this is too simplistic and obvious).

I wanted to second this notion. I have a lot of health issues and sometimes when I am in pain or not feeling well, I come across as "mad" or upset, even among my family members who knew me well. Sometimes we need to be conscious of our body language, because people can give off mixed signals. In my situation, I sometimes need to say "hey, I'm not feeling well, so if I'm a bit quiet, that's why".

[RaggedyAnn]

It only takes one and if you get that one, remember, they wanted you! Don't think of the cuts, think of the possibilities. Best of wishes with the rest of recruitment!