Are some people just not meant to be in sororities?

[DubaiSis]

First, we're not the best choice for helping you get clarity. Ask your rho chi or a good and painfully honest friend. How are you at gauging social cues? Do you make people uncomfortable when you're trying to be funny? Do you dress obnoxiously when you think you're being different? Do you have bad breath? These are the kinds of things that can REALLY affect your rush and you might just not be seeing it. None of these may be true, but probably there's something about yourself that you're just not willing to face just yet.

Secondly, nobody said you were last on anyone's list. Who knows? A chapter may have been able to invite back 100 girls and you were #101. or #600. We just don't know and that's why we all advise you to try not to obsess about it too much. I know, I know. Easier said than done.

[Wishful]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

First, we're not the best choice for helping you get clarity. Ask your rho chi or a good and painfully honest friend. How are you at gauging social cues? Do you make people uncomfortable when you're trying to be funny? Do you dress obnoxiously when you think you're being different? Do you have bad breath? These are the kinds of things that can REALLY affect your rush and you might just not be seeing it. None of these may be true, but probably there's something about yourself that you're just not willing to face just yet.

Secondly, nobody said you were last on anyone's list. Who knows? A chapter may have been able to invite back 100 girls and you were #101. or #600. We just don't know and that's why we all advise you to try not to obsess about it too much. I know, I know. Easier said than done.

Lol yeah, I know you guys aren't the best choice. I see GCers post all the time how you can't give advice because you are not the ones rushing the PNM. I was just asking for some insight on whether or not some people were just not meant to be in a sorority...or just not get a bid for that matter.

I asked my two Pi Chis...they don't understand either. One of them even said that she was very disappointed in her chapter for how they pass up on such great girls. Both of them said how they were shocked when they saw my schedule. I mentioned that I was released from the process last year, and they didn't understand that either.

Yes, I've thought about all those things. My friend (goes to a school BIG on greek life and she's in a sorority) has been approving ALL of my outfits. If anything, I thought I was awkward and shy last year because I was a freshman. However, some of the sororities must have saw something in me that I didn't see and kept inviting me back (minus the last day). That is not the case this year. At the first round, I felt confident and so comfortable. I was surprised at how outgoing and easy it was to talk to everyone. And I know it's not my breath....our Pi Chis have us pop a mint before every chapter.

Thanks for all your reasons though! They were actually interesting to hear that sororities judge on things like that during recruitment.