Boyfriend Hazing

[nmarti36]

Originally Posted by LatinaAlumna

@ BluePhire:

The primary reason I posted was the 5 years off/on at (presumably) such a young age, and I should have called them both idiots.

I also do not agree that because something was "done to me" that I should do the same to others. I felt that way before I joined an organization, and still feel that way after 15 years in. So, yes, for this reason, too, he seems like an idiot to me.

For someone who is using my alleged immaturity as an argument you're not making a great case for yourself. You have no knowledge of me, my boyfriend, or our history outside of this context. Therefore you have no right to pass judgment on me or him for a relationship you know nothing about. Obviously if we've been on and off for five years it's because we've had our struggles but have time and time again come to the conclusion that we'd like to work through them. We were very young when our relationship started, hence why it didn't work out before. We were adolescents in the midst of growing pains that warped our perspectives. Now we are adults, trying our best to work things out. No relationship comes without its struggles. I did not come here to get your criticism on my judgment and my relationship. I came here seeking knowledge about something I know very little about in the hopes of understanding someone I care about. So how about you take your blind, ignorant accusations elsewhere.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by nmarti36

For someone who is using my alleged immaturity as an argument you're not making a great case for yourself. You have no knowledge of me, my boyfriend, or our history outside of this context. Therefore you have no right to pass judgment on me or him for a relationship you know nothing about. Obviously if we've been on and off for five years it's because we've had our struggles but have time and time again come to the conclusion that we'd like to work through them. We were very young when our relationship started, hence why it didn't work out before. We were adolescents in the midst of growing pains that warped our perspectives. Now we are adults, trying our best to work things out. No relationship comes without its struggles. I did not come here to get your criticism on my judgment and my relationship. I came here seeking knowledge about something I know very little about in the hopes of understanding someone I care about. So how about you take your blind, ignorant accusations elsewhere.

QFP.

You cannot be surprised that people respond to the information that you volunteer. Surely you did not need strangers on Greekchat to not only school you about what your boyfriend's going through but to tell you what to do with your relationship. Not sharing with strangers is the best way to keep people from forming opinions based on the little that they read.

[nmarti36]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

QFP.

You cannot be surprised that people respond to the information that you volunteer. Surely you did not need strangers on Greekchat to not only school you about what your boyfriend's going through but to tell you what to do with your relationship. Not sharing with strangers is the best way to keep people from forming opinions based on the little that they read.

This is my first time posting in a forum of this nature so perhaps I made a newbie's mistake by divulging too much. I quickly found out which parts those were and regret including them. However, despite what you may believe, I came solely for enlightenment on how to handle the introduction of greek life in our relationship. I do not seek strangers for opinions on whether I should terminate my relationships or not. Clearly I made a mistake in anticipating solely factually based opinions and I should have phrased my post differently.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by nmarti36

This is my first time posting in a forum of this nature so perhaps I made a newbie's mistake by divulging too much. I quickly found out which parts those were and regret including them. However, despite what you may believe, I came solely for enlightenment on how to handle the introduction of greek life in our relationship. I do not seek strangers for opinions on whether I should terminate my relationships or not. Clearly I made a mistake in anticipating solely factually based opinions and I should have phrased my post differently.

It boils down to asking strangers what to do with your relationship. There are no "factually based" opinions on this matter and it is not up to you to determine how we will respond to you. You are not in control once you create the thread.

Your question was answered long before you chose to respond to LatinaAlumna.

[LatinaAlumna]

Originally Posted by nmarti36

For someone who is using my alleged immaturity as an argument you're not making a great case for yourself. You have no knowledge of me, my boyfriend, or our history outside of this context. Therefore you have no right to pass judgment on me or him for a relationship you know nothing about. Obviously if we've been on and off for five years it's because we've had our struggles but have time and time again come to the conclusion that we'd like to work through them. We were very young when our relationship started, hence why it didn't work out before. We were adolescents in the midst of growing pains that warped our perspectives. Now we are adults, trying our best to work things out. No relationship comes without its struggles. I did not come here to get your criticism on my judgment and my relationship. I came here seeking knowledge about something I know very little about in the hopes of understanding someone I care about. So how about you take your blind, ignorant accusations elsewhere.

Okay, then. Stand by your man, no matter what! I think that's what you wanted to hear, and at least one person gave you advice on how to approach the whole fraternity issue. Are you okay now?

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by XnathusAZ

Wait, you're the one who came here asking for advice and volunteering information. She has a right to say whatever the fuck she feels like saying to you, about you, and about the tardbox you're dating. Sometimes with advice comes criticism. If you don't like the shit that's being said, then why would you come on a goddamn message board asking people you don't know for advice? I could see if you didn't give a shit, but you obviously do, so if you can't take criticism, then you shouldn't have posted this stupid shit in the first place.

The irony of this coming from you would make Alanis Morrisette jealous.

But congrats on getting to 19 posts without getting banned. Again. What will it be when the inevitable happens, the 20th time you've been banned?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by LatinaAlumna

@ BluePhire:

The primary reason I posted was the 5 years off/on at (presumably) such a young age, and I should have called them both idiots.

Moi aussi.

If they aren't sympatico enough after that long that she can understand what he's talking about, at that age, time to pack it in.

Also, re me following "the politically correct representation of [my] organization" - pray tell BluPhire, is this your very first rodeo?

[BluPhire]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Moi aussi.

If they aren't sympatico enough after that long that she can understand what he's talking about, at that age, time to pack it in.

Also, re me following "the politically correct representation of [my] organization" - pray tell BluPhire, is this your very first rodeo?

Only with you. I don't interact with you much, but as time goes on I am learning more about each of you. (and don't take that as a I choose to ignore you, its just we just don't always post in the same subjects)

But I will be the first to apologize for jumping to a conclusion based off of what I read. The answer when I read it seemed like the typical, "Hazing is wrong and our organizations don't condone hazing...blah blah blah."

[33girl]

Originally Posted by BluPhire

Only with you. I don't interact with you much, but as time goes on I am learning more about each of you. (and don't take that as a I choose to ignore you, its just we just don't always post in the same subjects)

But I will be the first to apologize for jumping to a conclusion based off of what I read. The answer when I read it seemed like the typical, "Hazing is wrong and our organizations don't condone hazing...blah blah blah."

It's all good honey pie.

[nmarti36]

Thanks to everyone for your input!

[Munchkin03]

...and there's the Flounce.

[Senusret I]

It's not a flounce.

[DrPhil]

33girl is anything but politically correct.

[LatinaAlumna]

^Do (or don't do) whatever you feel is best.

[DrPhil]

^ No shit, genius.