ROOMMATE CONFLICT - Help!

[alum]

You/your parents are paying for a double not a triple. If the roommate doesn't respect this, you should talk to the Housing Office chain of command starting with your RA.

[sherryanne]

Did you tell her BEFORE you signed up and made the decision to become roommates (which I'm assuming was last spring) that you didn't want overnight visitors? "The beginning of the year" sounds to me like she walked in the first day in September and you flipped the script.

Yes. We had a roommate contract. I was fully aware that she had a boyfriend and he would possibly stay over a night every now and then. However, our housing department does not allow a resident to bring a guest over for more than two consecutive nights, and she broke this rule.

I talked to her on the day before we left. Hopefully, my problem is solved for the rest of the year.

[BadCat25]

My chapter has a no men in the rooms policy but that is just what we tell our parents and alums. My roommate and best friend in the chapter started having her BF stay overnite on Friday and Saturday starting last semester. It is just accepted that its OK to do this and if you object you are a bible thumper, a prude, against love or jealous. So I have find somewhere else to sleep which is a real bummer. At least she lets me know when he is going to stay over and unlike some of my sisters its the same guy.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by BadCat25

My chapter has a no men in the rooms policy but that is just what we tell our parents and alums. My roommate and best friend in the chapter started having her BF stay overnite on Friday and Saturday starting last semester. It is just accepted that its OK to do this and if you object you are a bible thumper, a prude, against love or jealous. So I have find somewhere else to sleep which is a real bummer. At least she lets me know when he is going to stay over and unlike some of my sisters its the same guy.

Classy, as much for you to post it as for them to do it.

If this is really happening, you should probably be aware that you are violating house rules and your and/or your roommate probably could end up having to find a place to sleep on a more permanent basis.

This policy probably isn't just something that current members get to agree to.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by sherryanne

Basically, at the beginning of the year, I told my roommate that no boys are allowed in the room overnight, but she has broken that a few times already

Originally Posted by sherryanne

Yes. We had a roommate contract. I was fully aware that she had a boyfriend and he would possibly stay over a night every now and then. However, our housing department does not allow a resident to bring a guest over for more than two consecutive nights, and she broke this rule.

So... you knew and agreed to the fact that she would bring her boyfriend over every so often? If this is the case, it's fine for her to do so. 6 nights in a row, however, is breaking the rules of the university, as you stated. So you do have a right to do something about it.

But the outcome might not be what you want it to be. You've talked to her once about it, and hopefully everything will work out. If not, though, you run the risk of a) dealing with her bf practically living with you b) giving her an "I'm going to tell on you" ultimatum, or c) moving out.