Is anyone else paying for greek life yourself?

It sucks when it seems like everyone else's parents are paying for their sorority. And it seems like the girls who aren't paying for it themselves don't really have worries of whether or not to disaffiliate because it's kind of like, "oh well... my moms paying for it so its not MY money im losing." i'm not trying to offend anyone, but im paying so much money, for tshirts, stress, and friends who are cliquish. are other sororities like this? :/

[WCsweet<3]

Originally Posted by speechless10

It sucks when it seems like everyone else's parents are paying for their sorority. And it seems like the girls who aren't paying for it themselves don't really have worries of whether or not to disaffiliate because it's kind of like, "oh well... my moms paying for it so its not MY money im losing." i'm not trying to offend anyone, but im paying so much money, for tshirts, stress, and friends who are cliquish. are other sororities like this? :/

QFP

Well, I imagine that there are girls in just about every chapter who do pay for their own dues and etc. I am not in that situation but I still fully participate and do not "waste" money. If girls are only looking at it from a "well its just money" standpoint instead of a "this is something I am involved in and should give it my best" well then I think it is sad. If you are involved and giving this much time to something then you should give effort to it (so long as it isn't messing up your school. education first!).

Cliques... well late teens early twenties women... it sucks I know, but well it's life? I'm sorry. There are hard times and good times with membership in a sorority. Some days suck. Especially when it seems that everyone is in little cliques who don't give two cents to what the chapter needs or is doing. However, you are a member who is putting in effort and wants to be in it (I assume if you are willing to pay for it yourself). So stick it through. Try to break into some of the cliques. Maybe try to have a large sisterhood event or a candle pass to help break barriers. You could also try to run for an executive position and make changes in the chapter.

Good luck.

[KSUViolet06]

Some thoughts:

There are women whose parents paid for their sorority experience who are VERY involved. Having parents pay doesn't = not taking it seriously.

It seems as if you are having issues with your chapter moreso than the fact that you have to pay for it yourself (especially with the way you describe it as "tee shirts and stress."

[KSUViolet06]

Soooo I looked at some of your previous threads:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=111565

Really?

[AXiDMeesh]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Soooo I looked at some of your previous threads:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=111565

Really?

Lol. As soon as I saw the username I did one of these . I was hoping someone else would remember.

To answer your question OP, I pay for my dues myself.

[Titchou]

Since when are tee shirts mandatory purchases??????

[dreamseeker]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Soooo I looked at some of your previous threads:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=111565

Really?

lmao....how did i miss the pic in that thread....

[AOII Angel]

So...cliques are the fault of daddy's money Since when don't people have close friends in a group? I paid for my dues in college...I worked a job during the summer and winter breaks and lived very frugally so that I didn't need a job during school months. My parents would have paid my dues if my father hadn't lost his job during my freshman year. Did anyone else know that I paid my own dues? Probably not since I didn't work at school. My mom was adamant that I not work during school. She wanted me to focus on my school work. I suggest that the OP get over herself and realize that she may not know the financial situation of every member of her chapter.

you all just made me feel like shit.

thanks

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by speechless10

you all just made me feel like shit.

thanks

You need counseling.

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by speechless10

you all just made me feel like shit.

thanks

[33girl]

Two choices for you:

1) Drop out of your sorority and spend all your free time with your boyfriend.

2) Kick your boyfriend to the curb (because it sounds like your relationship is having a bad effect on your sorority membership) and MAKE A FRICKING EFFORT.

Seriously, don't be that girl with the boyfriend who never does anything. Now no, I'm not saying you should automatically dump your boyfriend when you get a bid - but no one likes the girl who can't come to mixers because her boyfriend gets upset, or doesn't hang out at the house because she's with him every minute - who basically uses him as an excuse to keep from really giving her all to sorority life.

[AOEforme]

Originally Posted by speechless10

you all just made me feel like shit.

thanks

Really? From telling you that "Yup, we know plenty of people who pay for dues".

(I, btw, pay for my own dues. So does my sister. Our parents just expect it. We also both pay for our own living expenses. It happens.)

IF you are for real, consider (a) making the most of it (I never got why people skipped socials to hang out on their own: you're already paying for it!) and (b) stop buying the extras. You don't need them. You don't need every t-shirt, tote bag, or party favor the chapter orders.

[jennyj87]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Since when are tee shirts mandatory purchases??????

depends on the sorority. we usually vote to do it during recruitment.

[ADPiTigergurl]

yep I pay for my dues myself. my parents told me when i started talking about going through recruitment (they werent the most supportive people) that they couldn't stop be from joining, but they would not be financing my sorority. It is smething I want and therefore its my responsibilty to make sure I get it (or get to stay in it). Does it stink sometimes? YES. Is It worth it? ABSOLUTELY!!!