Dating Greek Men - Page 10

AOPIHottie · #**136** 07-07-2001, 05:59 PM

Well, I dated about 3 Greeks before I became an AOPI, and they seemed like any other guy, except they were the ones throwing the parties, and knew the best places to go hang out. I dated a Theta Chi, and the best part was I met some great AOPi ladies before I rushed, so when I went through rush I was much more comfortable with the whole sorority thing. And, I really felt close to my new sisters because they were already girls I knew. And when we had mixers it was even more fun because I already alot of the guys in the different fraternaties, and it just happened that I was great friends with some of the guys who were our 'big brother' fraternity. So when I became a greek and started to date a greek, it was like being with a close friend.
I will admit though, that when my Theta had to cancel with me cause of chapter meetings, or because of mixers with another sorority, it kinda bothered me, but that gave us a chance to spend time with our own friends. So, as far as I am concerned, I think dating a greek is great!

AOPIHottie · #**137** 07-07-2001, 06:01 PM

Well, I dated about 3 Greeks before I became an AOPI, and they seemed like any other guy, except they were the ones throwing the parties, and knew the best places to go hang out. I dated a Theta Chi, and the best part was I met some great AOPi ladies before I rushed, so when I went through rush I was much more comfortable with the whole sorority thing. And, I really felt close to my new sisters because they were already girls I knew. And when we had mixers it was even more fun because I already alot of the guys in the different fraternaties, and it just happened that I was great friends with some of the guys who were our 'big brother' fraternity. So when I became a greek and started to date a greek, it was like being with a close friend.
I will admit though, that when my Theta had to cancel with me cause of chapter meetings, or because of mixers with another sorority, it kinda bothered me, but that gave us a chance to spend time with our own friends. So, as far as I am concerned, I think dating a greek is great!

AOPIHottie · #**138** 07-07-2001, 06:04 PM

Well, I dated about 3 Greeks before I became an AOPI, and they seemed like any other guy, except they were the ones throwing the parties, and knew the best places to go hang out. I dated a Theta Chi, and the best part was I met some great AOPi ladies before I rushed, so when I went through rush I was much more comfortable with the whole sorority thing. And, I really felt close to my new sisters because they were already girls I knew. And when we had mixers it was even more fun because I already alot of the guys in the different fraternaties, and it just happened that I was great friends with some of the guys who were our 'big brother' fraternity. So when I became a greek and started to date a greek, it was like being with a close friend.
I will admit though, that when my Theta had to cancel with me cause of chapter meetings, or because of mixers with another sorority, it kinda bothered me, but that gave us a chance to spend time with our own friends. So, as far as I am concerned, I think dating a greek is great!

AOPIHottie · #**139** 07-07-2001, 06:06 PM

Well, I dated about 3 Greeks before I became an AOPI, and they seemed like any other guy, except they were the ones throwing the parties, and knew the best places to go hang out. I dated a Theta Chi, and the best part was I met some great AOPi ladies before I rushed, so when I went through rush I was much more comfortable with the whole sorority thing. And, I really felt close to my new sisters because they were already girls I knew. And when we had mixers it was even more fun because I already alot of the guys in the different fraternaties, and it just happened that I was great friends with some of the guys who were our 'big brother' fraternity. So when I became a greek and started to date a greek, it was like being with a close friend.
I will admit though, that when my Theta had to cancel with me cause of chapter meetings, or because of mixers with another sorority, it kinda bothered me, but that gave us a chance to spend time with our own friends. So, as far as I am concerned, I think dating a greek is great!

XO_Princess · #**140** 07-13-2001, 01:31 PM

About dating Greek men:
I think it really depends on the individual that you're dating. My ex decided to pledge Sigma Nu two years after we were dating-I was already Greek-and after he got in, he turned into such an ass! I guess he saw that there were a ton of girls around the house, so why be tied down to me? After we broke up, I started dating one of his older frat brothers, and three years later we are still together. My boyfriend has always treated me with such respect and love, and he is my best friend. He's such a contrast to my ex. Maybe it was the age difference (2 yrs.) or the fact that he'd done the Sigma Nu thing for two years when we met, and the thrill of the "groupies" had worn off.

XO_Princess · #**141** 07-13-2001, 01:34 PM

About dating Greek men:
I think it really depends on the individual that you're dating. My ex decided to pledge Sigma Nu two years after we were dating-I was already Greek-and after he got in, he turned into such an ass! I guess he saw that there were a ton of girls around the house, so why be tied down to me? After we broke up, I started dating one of his older frat brothers, and three years later we are still together. My boyfriend has always treated me with such respect and love, and he is my best friend. He's such a contrast to my ex. Maybe it was the age difference (2 yrs.) or the fact that he'd done the Sigma Nu thing for two years when we met, and the thrill of the "groupies" had worn off.

Phi Sig Princess · #**142** 07-13-2001, 02:47 PM

Dating Greek Men is just easier becuase they understand when you have sisterhood events or things out of the ordinary like what is ritual. The only problem I have come across in dating fraternity guys is the Fraternity being like a locker room where the guys tell each other EVERYTHING. The best thing is to trust the guy. I have a wonderful boyfriend that is a Delt Sig and his brothers are all great to hang around with and make me feel very comfortable. Non greeks generally just do not understand the greek system

AlphaChiChristy · #**143** 07-14-2001, 10:41 AM

I think it really depends on whether or not they were Greek when you started dating them. My high school sweetheart and I dated for 4 1/2 years. I joined AXO my sophomore year of college, and then he joined Sigma Nu the next year. Before he was Greek, everything was pretty much the same. I joined AXO b/c I went to school in the same city I grew up in and all my friends went away to school. I didn't know anyone at my college, other than my boyfriend (which of course, put a strain on the relationship, itself). So, I decided to go through rush, had a blast, and joined the best chapter on campus. We had made a promise to each other that if we felt we were being led away from our relationship by our organizations that we wouldn't participate (We didn't know what to expect. Being Greek was new to both of us). Well, I upheld my end of that promise, but he didn't. Basically, I feel that a fraternity's demands on a guy are very different from a sorority's demands on a girl. Sororities encourage relationships of all kinds (friendships, families and romance), while fraternities (at least at my school) encouraged brotherhood, and anything outside of that "took away from the fraternity experience." I heard some of his brothers tell him that you can't have a serious relationship and be in a fraternity at the same time. My opinion is that he should have been stronger willed and stood up to his brothers regarding us, but I guess you fight for what you want, and I wasn't a priority at the time. Now, after he and I broke up, I dated a few other Greek men on campus, and it was different b/c they were Greek when we started dating. It still didn't work for me b/c by that point I was about to graduate and had shifted my priorities from partying to studying, and from hooking up to wanting a relationship that would last more than a month. All in all, I think that dating a fraternity guy was a good experience, and I wouldn't change my college years for anything, but I'm happy now that I'm engaged to a man who is out of school, focused on us and has priorities in line with mine. I'm not saying that if this relationship doesn't work that I wouldn't date a guy just b/c he was Greek, but I'd make sure that he was out of school, for one (you change your focus after college), and that, while his fraternity should be important to him, it didn't rule his life or dictate his relationships. All in all, I think it depends on the guy!

AlphaChiChristy · #**144** 07-14-2001, 10:54 AM

Oh, I forgot to mention that my ex lavaliered me, and that, believe it or not, was when things really changed. We'd already been together 3 1/2 years at that point, too. I guess that didn't matter to his brothers, b/c they beat him with a paddle for giving me his letters. I kid you not - from the small of his back to his knees was black and blue. Anyway, he was dumb for letting them do that to him, in my opinion (I would NEVER have let someone do that do me - I would've fought back and called nationals)! But, I guess that when he saw the treatment he'd get from his brothers for being in love, his priorities shifted from me to making his brothers happy with him - which meant being single like them. Oh, of course you were allowed to have your flings with sorority girls and freshmen, but it had better not mean anything to you! So, trust me, getting lavaliered is awesome, wearing their letters is great, but without a solid relationship, those letters don't mean much!

ConcordDZ · #**145** 07-26-2001, 10:56 AM

After dating both Greek and non-Greek men, I've found that it has been much easier and fun for me to date a Greek than a non-Greek. The non-Greek I went out with a few times was older than me--graduated from college, had a good job--and had went to a commuter school where Greek life wasn't a big deal. He though all the typical sorority girl stereotypes were true, which I couldn't be farther from. That pissed me off because he automatically assumed I was stupid, superficial, and easy, which ruined our so-called relationship from the beginning.

My boyfriend of a year and a half is a Pi Kapp and we have a GREAT relationship. He was archon when I was VP of New Member Ed., and was in his last semester when I took over President, so we understood each other's time commitments and events we had to attend. My sorority always hangs out with his fraternity, which always makes things much more fun because we're at the same parties and get togethers with the same friends. We are best friends with 3 other couples from our fraternity/sorority and go out together all the time for dinner and stuff like that. We are both going to be in a wedding next summer for one of those couples, so commitment has never been a problem for us or our friends. Some frat guys and sorority girls are players, but that's their own immaturity. It's the person that makes you a player--not the letters.

KTE Kitten · #**146** 07-27-2001, 11:45 PM

Once I went greek I started dating greek guys left and right. And I have found that they can be sweet and they understand all the greek stuff(ie:bonding and rituals) but from my experience they are very immature. Then again I'm just speaking from my experience...I'm sure there are some great Greek guys out there...but @UC there are few if any. I then dated a non greek semi anti greek guy and it was a total change. I then missed the commonality between myself and another greek. But not enough to date one. SO honestly it doesnt matter if they are Greek or not...my question is "are any guys mature?"

Parleamoi · #**147** 07-30-2001, 04:53 PM

I think that the greek system is stereotyped just way too much. People are always saying that greek guys are too into partying and too inmature but in reality girls need to realize that boys will be boys. Being a greek boy just gives him more of an opportunity to be a jack off. So really it's not just greek boys who are asses, it is in their male genes. In response to the question "date greek or non-greek" personally I would have to say I prefer greek. I have been a Delta Zeta for a year now and I am dating a Sigma Chi. Because we have the same priorities with our houses we understand the reasons behind going greek and the time and character commitment.

lilbittynikki12 · #**148** 08-03-2001, 10:44 PM

Greek Men where to start Now some people like dating greek guys and I'll admit at first I did too but after awhile you realize the real people they are! Greek guys are very very immature! I have known some pretty immature guys in my high school days and hoped to come to college and date a smart cute fun mature guy YEA RIGHT!! Greek guys are worse than highschoolers I have dated! So my advice if want mature STAY AWAY from the greek guys!

TKEbabyk · #**149** 08-05-2001, 04:50 PM

In my experience most of the time greek guys are not really different from non-greeks. My freshman year in college I became greek and the guy I was dating couldn't stand how I couldn't always be there to hang out. I've been dating a greek guy for almost a year now and he's completely understanding when I can't go out because we both have other priorities and have to share ourselves with others. It doesn't really matter if the guy is greek or not, it just depends on how mature he is to begin with. I prefer hanging out with greek guys to because they are more understanding about soo many things and more fun. I hope all you other girls find happiness in and out of the greek world.

Kim

DZAmanda · #**150** 08-14-2001, 04:15 PM

I haven't noticed huge differences between Greek and non-Greek men when it comes to dating. The main difference I've had is the experience of guys changing (read: acting like idiots) when around their friends - this seems to happen more with fraternity men b/c they have the organized fraternity events that non-Greeks don't have.
Additionally, the Greek men that I have dated have been more understanding when it comes to my involvement with my sorority and Panhellenic. That's always a bonus.
On the down side, I have been involved with a guy during his pledge period - that was tough. He had to be at the beck & call of his brothers all the time, which didn't leave enough time for me. As a sorority woman, I understood - but at the same time it was annoying.
This thread is interesting - I've enjoyed reading everyone's thoughts on the subject.
Amanda