Forced to choose between being black or ________.

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Originally posted by Honeykiss1974
This post in CC got me to thinking of this question.


Do you ever feel like you have to "choose sides" or an allegiance, if you will, between being black or something else? For example, between being black or an American - being black or following Christ - being black or being a member of an NPC/IFC - etc.

I do not feel that I have to choose sides. Furthermore, I should not have to choose sides. Once upon a time, I felt I was Black above all else. However, I am more aware of the fact that I am all at the same time. To compartmentalize aspects of who I am takes away from what makes me unique. People will want and expect you to choose, and not understand when you refuse to. That's the only time it's a problem. However, if you are secure, you will be fine.