Question for Guys

[sugar and spice]

Originally posted by RUgreek
I'm not going to discuss what I've done to women, but I understand this situation well. Guys keep a girl around quite simply because of control and laziness. She falls for it every time and there is no penalty to me. Why not keep someone around you can mess with and walk away from? I even knew girls that did this a lot.

I'm just curious -- if you (editorial you, not a specific you) know that what you're doing is wrong, why keep doing that? I can't really fathom a person having so little self-esteem or being so weak that they need to screw with a person's head on purpose just to give them a sense of control. I understand situations like this sometimes happen where you don't realize what you're doing until later, and that's understandable -- who hasn't done something along those lines? But messing with somebody on purpose just blows my mind and speaks to major, major underlying issues on the part of the person who's doing the controlling.