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Originally posted by James
Actually. What I meant is that it appears that your own self destructiveness killed the relationship.
There is no reason for the kids conversation to result in a fight. What were you thinking?
And why would you give him attitude showing your hurt and defensiveness when he is coming back and trying to have a sincere dialogue?
How does that help at alll? The scorched earth tactic in relationships is neither useful nor mature.
I think what AKA_Monet was alluding at the end of her post was wondering how mature you could be under pressure.
Whether you controlled your emotions or they controlled you, and whether or not if you were upset you could effectively behave and reason as if you were not.
This situation is not indicative of a failure of your relationship, or even of him, but rather your emotional control.
So it might be to his benefit that you revealed yourself to be easily moved to anger and bitterness over small matters.
At least thats what his friends should be telling him.
Maybe you should call and apologize.
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Now James, you know as well as I, that according to this young lady's description, if we take it at "face value" and assume that what she is saying is accurate ('cuz there are always two sides to the story), that this young man she was seeing was hiding more than he was willing to allude to...
Most "experienced" folks tried to tell her to let it go... She has chosen not to...
So, as "experienced" folks who care, in a general sense, just have to watch this young lady go through whatever she has to go through to realize this young man and her are just not it...
I think both her responses and what happened is the "norm" for some people her age... Some of it is soooooo high school... Really...
What is the problem here is it sounds like this young man has something that happens to "adults"... And has a quasi-responsibility issue going on...
If it were me, now and not Queencece's age... I would want the full on facts... But right now, I am a "big girl" and can handle the facts--straight up, no chaser... I think that Queencece would have to determine is she is ready for the full on frontal assault if she continually pursues this matter...
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