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Originally posted by msn4med1975
I think there is a problem honestly. If you don't normally run in the same social circles, don't have the same types of aspirations or have the same types of plans for the future that opens up a world of problems for the two of you. Love is a great thing but it can't overcome everything. I say this because money is often a problem for couples in general, add in couples who aren't necessarily ever going to make the same amount of money, and you have a timebomb waiting to go off. On top of the resentment that either one of you may develop towards each other for trying to better yourself or refusing to better yourself. it does work for SOME couples but it seems like one more thing that could cause problems for you.
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I agree to this.
I've dated "down" also. The guy works in a trade and makes a-lot-o-cash and that great but money is not the connecting factor to make a relationship work. I thought he was a nice guy and gave him a chance but in the long run we really had nothing in common. We don’t have the same social circle, he gives me attitude when I tell him I'm going to the First Friday's (it's FF's not the millionaires club, geeze...
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In relation to raising kids, we would (and still do) get into it about the hows and what’s of childrearing. My childhood background is such that I would consider it to be, not spoiled but advantaged. I did everything, Girl Scouts, clubs at school, annual trips to the family friend's orchard/ranch/farm in the wine country, summer camp, etc... I want my kid to experience the same thing if not more. He gets pissed off and says that's bourgeoisie.
Exposing your kids and yourself to the world is NOT BOURGEOISIE!
Our conversations always ended up being about social status, class structure and me defending why I am the way I am. Talk about politics? He couldn't tell you that Sacramento is the state capitol of Cali. WTF?.
He got mad because I volunteered at the Democratic convention...
He would give me grief about school related matters or sorority stuff. These are basic things, I can't imagine talking to him about serious issues.
He had a general attitude against black folks who were moving up and on to bigger and better things and just felt like I was the person to pick on (he seriously picked the wrong sister for that
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If two people can put aside the minor differences and work it out, I say more power to them.
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