Baby Names

Originally posted by DoggyStyle82:
You have proven my point. Maybe it is too subtle, but it is right in your quote. What identity are you losing? A woman gains the title of wife, homemaker, mother. You are still your parents daughter and an individual, but a wife first. Your indivuality and family ties become secondary.

Just because I marry you doesn't mean I'll become a mother or homemaker, but yes I am your wife. It doesn't matter what name I use. We have the certificate and have taken vows so, I am your wife regardless of if my name is hyphenated or not. For example, if my last name was Kennedy. That name has a lot of history to it, but if I marry Joe Blow and don't include that, I think I've lost a part of my history/identity/self.

"Hillary ceased being a wife to her husband and became a business partner, thats why she added her maiden name."

She is his wife and he is her husband. It's a partnership and not a business. If she was to leave him and his name today, she would have to go through a lot of paper work to go back to her maiden name.

"I wanted to keep names in the family, but my father and uncles all have "slave" names like Rufus, Leroy, and Floyd. I looked at my son and said "I can't do that to you little fella". My son has a sensible first name, neutral (not trendy white suburban and not ghetto),his name connotes power and authority and is very professional. His first middle name is my fathers first name, and his 2nd middle name is African."

Yes, they may considered "slave" names, but they're family names too. I'm named after my Dad and he was named after a white man my grandmother worked for. Our last name comes from a slave owner in Alabama. So there is history right there.

All in Coleman Luv....



[This message has been edited by c&c1913 (edited November 01, 2000).]