Non-Black stylist and our hair

[Sahara]

I've heard from different friends that many white stylists give better cuts (don't know about trims).
I can't seem to find a stylist who can cut, trim, or relax my hair! It wasn't until I told my newest person NOT to try and make my hair bone straight that most of it stopped falling out. I'm still having problems with my edges and the nape.

What I need is a gay man! So many friends say that they do the best job. The best result I ever had was with a gay man. Unfortunately, I was only visiting the area to see my cousin that time.

I'm tempted to take classes to learn how to do this myself. "If you want something done right, do it yourself."